its was arranged marriage also their side parents given all wrong information about her studies, her belief in God, her age, their background now we never lived happy life........ our argument never gets end also she was keep on post ponding about kids (means she dont want child for more 1 year) i feel i dont want to continue life and to be separated
2007-06-14 01:01:41 · 11 answers · asked by Vishwa Prasad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
pls give more views
2007-06-14 01:14:33 · update #1
But she is not accepting bcoz her family background is good to take care after her also afraid about reaction of her family........so what to do ..................wht i am thinking is why i shud suffer for her and her family
2007-06-14 21:54:05 · update #2
I am not A fan of divorce. But since it was an arranged marriage, It is more than likely time to dissolve this union. You only live once. And if you are not happy you can almost bet she is not happy!!!! So why keep on wasting time? And gosh don't have kids if you are not happy. Then you just have more misery. And now you have another life that gets tangled up in the web of un happinness!!!
2007-06-14 01:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by John M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriages do sometimes result in happiness, but it is obvious that yours is not one of them. Please do not blame your wife for not wanting to have a child yet. If your marriage has been unhappy right from the beginning, she is right not to want to bring a child into it. Having a child seldom improves an unhappy marriage. Sit down and talk to her, and decide between the two of you if you are both willing to try and improve your marriage, and if so, go and see a counsellor. If you are not willing to try and save the marriage, then it really is best to separate now, before there are any children. You both deserve to have a happy life, perhaps it is just not possible while you are together.
2007-06-14 09:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by sparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just ended a 10 year relationship and I have to tell you that if you are fighting all the time it's not going to get any better. If you ar not happy then buy all means get out. Nobody is going to be happy until you go your separate ways. Be happy that the arguing hasn't turned to violence. That is the worst possible thing that could happen. I know I went through 10 years of it thinking everything would get better. It never did.
2007-06-14 08:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by sms 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you want the rest of your life to be peaceful and happy, an "arranged" marriage is neither. if you really want to know true love and commitment with another...maybe you should find that happiness with someone that maybe you pick for yourself that's more compatible.
best of luck to you.....if the above isn't the advice you were hoping for, maybe talk to your spouse about hobbies or things the 2 of you may have in common. you can start to build a stronger togetherness by being more involved with each other in general.
2007-06-14 08:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by bishop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though Its an arranged marriage., all the counsellors and even court also tries to joint your relationship., First of all think how big problem was you facing. If the problem was not rectified in counselling or in any legal manner., Definetely I will say live your life and stay out of her.
2007-06-14 08:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by JJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't you dare have kids until you work this out. take her to a marriage counselor.
2007-06-14 08:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this is your life. is it possible to separate?
2007-06-14 08:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by ALICIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know being separated with her can give you real happiness then do it.
2007-06-14 08:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by anasheimeia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is why arranged marriages are illegal in the US.
2007-06-14 08:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a divorce and move on
2007-06-18 05:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋