My wife is always nagging me about things to do around the house. She hates to see me enjoying a book or a TV program. I do stuff around the house but she ignores it gives me no credit and finds something else for me to do.
She seldom tidies up and and buys stuff for the house we don't really need. But whenever she leaves the house like, to go to work, or visit her freinds, I get a surge of motivation and do all of things she asks about and more. And when she returns or is at home I don't feel like doing anything. It's like turning on a light switch when she leaves. I wonder why I feel this way. Anyone have a clue? Thanks
2007-06-14 03:54:56 · 9 answers · asked by Nash M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its because she doesn't make you feel appreciated for the things you do, and eventually, you just don't have motivation to do anything for someone if they don't give you any credit. When she leaves and you feel better in a sense, your probably just being yourself because she's not there to make you feel crappy. This is a tough situation to deal with and the only advice i can give you is to start asking her to do some stuff(but in a nice way please!) she'll eventually see what she's doing and maybe you two can work things out! Hope this helps!
2007-06-14 04:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she does not appreciate you, and when she is around she makes you feel bad. No wife should be TELLING you to do anything. Marriage is a partnership, she should tell you what needs to get done, and the two of you should be splitting the burden. She should be appreciating what you do by saying thanks every now and then or somehow showing her appreciation for the things that have been done. If I tell my husband to do something it doesn't get done. If I ask him in a way where he feels like it is his idea it gets done very well and usually more than what I originally needed. Your wife shouldn't be so demanding, and a little more appreciative. If I were you I would tell her that.
2007-06-14 04:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by green eyed lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife needs to open her eyes and appreciate the chores you do for her and quit nagging you. She should be making you feel loved and respected in everything you do for her and the dwelling. Women like this don't stop to think how good they have it with there other half. Sit her down and tell her how your feeling about everything in the relationship. Tell her that when she leaves for a period of time you feel so relieved. You should feel the opposite when having her around. It takes two to have a happy relationship! Hope you point out her selfish attitude! Your a person to and should be treated with love and consideration in your marriage. Straighten her out! Cocoa
2007-06-14 04:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because it's her insisting that you do it, that you don't want to do it. I'm like that too, if you tell me not to do something, that's the very thing you'll find me doing, and vice versa. You see the things do need done, but since she's nagging you to do it then you don't want to and when she leaves it's like "I think I'll mop the floor".
2007-06-14 04:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to get motivated when someone is always knocking you down, It's kind of like employees they work much better when you talk to them and explain thing than they would if you stand over them yelling, know what I mean?
2007-06-14 04:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by ogrething2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a human nature to rebel, and even though its not like you're not doing the stuff she asks, a big part of you is asking yourself why it is you're doing it. for me, the more someone asks or nags me to do something, th less i feel like doing it. when they're gone, you feel a burst of energy bcoz you feel like you're doing a 'favour' or a nice thing for your wife, while when she's there, you feel forced to.
2007-06-14 04:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by Hannahp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way - I don't know why - I just get more done when I am alone.
Maybe it's b/c no one will be telling you you're doing it wrong?
Maybe it's b/c your lonely and need to fill the void?
who knows?
2007-06-14 03:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by autumn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would love to answer this but, I am afraid I will violate community standards, I Know how you feel and you don't have to live that way.
2007-06-14 04:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No pressure.....loads of ambition. Pressure returns....back to a world of escape.
I think that sums it up.
2007-06-14 03:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋