I just found out that my husband (we're seperated however not legally yet) has been seeing a 28 yr old gal that has 3 small kids. the problem is he's 49 and we have a 28 yr old daughter ourselves. is that gross? like dating/sleeping with your daughter. he has grandkids for gosh sakes? whats up with these guys who think they can relive their younger years through someone else? whats up with her? she likes sleeping with daddy? how could you ever forgive something like this? i'm devastated and sick at heart.
2007-06-14 04:44:03 · 51 answers · asked by MIMKA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While I'm sure it is not easy for you to witness, there is nothing wrong with a 49 year old dating a 28 year old.
2007-06-14 04:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by scottr 4 · 7⤊ 3⤋
Hmmmm.the old Electra complex. However....I guess that this above all else will spur you on to make your seperation legal and well on the road to divorce. Why feel devestated? Its pretty apparent that he's into this relationship for one thing first and foremost. I for one cannot even comprehend what I would even possibily have in common with anyone under the age of 40.
Get moving and start proceedings. You obviously are the smart one here. Stop feel lousy over this. If he chooses to be the fool..the backlash will be devestating.
There are times you know that you never realize how good things were until you do something stupid like he has. By then...too late.
Good luck. Cut the bum loose. Let him have his father/daughter fantasy. Even money says he'll realize she isn't for him or as in most cases..she'll find someone else and leave him high and dry.
2007-06-14 04:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
He sees it as a compliment that a younger woman thinks he's marriage material, but if she is only 28 and has 3 little kids, I can almost assure you he is just child support in her eyes! Hold your head high and know you are just fine and he will get his in the end of this! Just hope you are there to see it when it all falls apart! :D
2007-06-14 21:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Sweetmusic ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being in the position of the younger woman, tho my BF was already divorced when we met... all I can tell you is that:
1) You separated for a reason, and divorce is probably warranted
2) He's made his choice of partner & you have no say in the matter
3) He may want to start over & have another family
4) It has NOTHING to do with fantasizing about his daughter
5) Though he's out of love with you and has issues with you, he will always love his daughter & grandkids
6) If this woman is a decent human being she will keep her nose out of his relationships with his daughter & grandkids, like I do with my BF's daughter.
7) He may ask her to be included in his daughter & grandkids' lives.
GET OVER IT AND MOVE ON. Jealous tirades will only alienate him further from you and your family. And if that's what you're aiming for, you are incredibly selfish.
2007-06-14 05:05:07 · answer #4 · answered by tiny Valkyrie 7 · 6⤊ 2⤋
every physique who tells you this is psychosomatic is in simple terms searching for an excuse to drill a hollow on your head. That being stated, i think of you're needless to say posessed via demons. What did they use to treatment that interior the midsection a while, lower back...? permit me think of.
2016-10-09 04:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well at 28 with three small kids, she is definately not a prize- (they aren't his kids right?) Most men like younger women as a status thing, but he will, at some point, realize that it comes around at some point. Hey, I am not gonna be a sugar daddy to some bimbo and pay to raise someone elses kids- no matter how good she is in bed- I already pay for enough other peoples kids through taxes and welfare and such. Good luck, be strong and don't take his sorry butt back.
2007-06-14 04:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
whats the problem?? you were sepeated righttt??? and men at 49 are totally different from women at 49 so dont hate the fact that young women stilll find him attractive. and ermmm 28 is wayyyy grown for a woman. you want him to be chasing 49 yr old saggy women?
2007-06-14 05:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
What's up with these guys? It's called VIAGRA. They start taking it and think they are 21 again. They leave wives their age and go for the young gals. Sadly, the young gals are looking for security but the viagra studs are too egotistical to see it. Yes, my husband of 30 years divorced me. What's he doing now? I don't know and I don't care. You will be better off to divorce him and get on with your life. Good luck!
2007-06-14 06:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sue W 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well its not for me, but age really has nothing to do with it.
You probably feel angry and this never helps anything.
Just go you own way and do not try to influence you family members one way or the other.
Remember it is his life. My daddy used to say to us and he was right ( make your own bed and lay in it ) he has done that and even if it falls apart, he is the one that has to live with it.
2007-06-14 05:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by connie 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well in one fashion or another these two people have "connected" in someway and have some type of emotional bond. It might not be real or make sense in your view, but I suspect it is and does to them. It may not be long lasting, but remember you are separated and if your marriage was strained he might just be needing some emotional support to balance his life. Emotions are neither right nor wrong they just are. It's how we act upon them that makes them socially acceptable or not. It's really not up to you to forgive something like this as it appears that you are ending your marriage so really what difference does it make to you?
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2007-06-14 04:51:12 · answer #10 · answered by fitzovich 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋