he is married so i avoid him little by little, when ever he ask me to go out for date , i make excuses or , i wont go , but now he ring me and ask a date tommorow coz tomm is his birthday, he wants to celebrate his bday with me , so i promise to go out and have a date with him , now do i have to go and do my promise or dont, im sure the end is we will sleep , now im thinking i wont go but what about my promise , he will get mad in his birthday , any good solution pls
2007-06-14 04:14:24 · 55 answers · asked by carmelite 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
once i found out my bf was married, i would have headed for the hills.. hes no good, if he can dog his wife like that, what makes you feel you would fair any better
2007-06-14 04:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to keep your promise to go out with your friend on his birthday. It is obvious that you are feeling guilty because it is his birthday. Why do you make excuses and avoid him when he wants to go on a date? I think you are smart and you really don't want to be involved with a married man. So don't be!
If it's his birthday, his wife will probably want to take him out. And if she doesn't, don't you think she will get suspicious if he goes out without her? Then she could find out about you and that creates a whole different scenario.
I think you should break it off with him. You have been avoiding him and you know if you see him, you will have sex. Is this the kind of relationship you want? If not, get out while it's easy for you.
2007-06-14 04:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by blue eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, recognize that you have free will and can make your own choices. Then stop having any contact with this guy. Tell him why - by the way, are you afraid of him? Are you afraid to tell him that it's a sleazy thing to be screwing a married guy and you don't want to do it any more? You're single and you will be for the rest of your life because you're wasting your energies entangled with a married guy. He has to be a sleaze because he is lying and cheating on his wife. Can you even like a person who does that, when you really think about it?
2007-06-14 04:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break off the date. Get some self respect and tell him to spend his birthday and all his future ones with his wife.
He is controlling you. You have control over yourself. You're worth more than becoming a simple girl who sleeps with married men. Believe that.. you are worth more,you deserve more. Do not accept anything less than the best and don't listen to his lies.
Good luck, God bless.
2007-06-14 04:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by Patio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop these games, he is a married man and he is using you.
He should be spending his birthday with his wife, and I'm sure she's planning something special for him, and she expects him to celebrate his birthday with her, not with you.
You're so worried about your promise to go out with him. But what about his promise to his wife when he took those marriage vows ? Let him honor his promises, that's more important.
2007-06-14 04:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go
have u gone mad
please dont do such kind of false things
Tell him u will date him .,when he is single
As a married person he should'nt ask u
he just want a night with u.,after all he never show his face to u
trust me.,he is cheating his wife & he want to use u
if u r good character ,Good behaviour & self respected
then u should do good things
if u feel that u gave him a date.,
then wish him and say him happy birthday
y he needs date with u other than his wife
something fishy
think while
2007-06-14 04:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by ss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong. Who cares if he'll be mad because you "missed his birthday"? Big deal. Why doesn't he celebrate it with his wife? How would you feel if you were married to a man, who wanted to spend his birthday with another woman instead of you? You a "sideline hoe". You're the person he goes to because he wants sex, but no real committment.
2007-06-14 04:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by missgoody2shoes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the solution is: NEVER see him again. And, about your promise to see him on his bday. He doesn't live by his promises, you know, the ones he made to his wife. Why should you have to live by yours? Who cares if he gets mad. And if you really want to get rid of him, which you should, tell him that if he calls you or contacts you again, you will tell his wife about your relationship.
2007-06-14 04:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by Zuker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy would have no reason to be angry if you told him you would rather not spend his birthday with him and then suggest that he spend it with his wife instead, WHO WOULD GET ANGRY at him for blowing her off. I would also suggest you tell him that you are not interested in seeing him any longer as he is married and you prefer to date someone who is not. That would be the right thing to do and it sounds like you are ready to do the right thing.
2007-06-14 04:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop talking to him, if he's married and he's doing this to his wife, what makes you think he won't do this to you? You don't need a man that bad to start looking for the married one's, tell him to spend his birthday with his wife. Just leave him alone!!!
2007-06-14 04:24:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a married man, your not in the position to make any promises anyway.
2007-06-14 04:20:18 · answer #11 · answered by EspysMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋