If I miss a call from her, she'll say "WHY DIDNT YOU ANSWER MY CALL?" Where were you? What were you doing? When she misses my call, I just leave a message asking for a call back. She'll call me 100 times until I answer my phone.
2007-06-14 04:05:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just reassure her that she is the only one for you and you love her. She'll be ok
2007-06-15 00:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by #1 Monkey Minion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you or anyone else from her past cheated on her or given her a reason not to trust? If so, you're screwed. Just answer her freaking call & it won't be a problem. You could try setting boundaries, like if you don't answer her call right away, wait at least 5 or 10 minutes before calling back - cuz you could be in the bathroom or something like that.
2007-06-14 11:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a very bad case of jealousy and insecurity. If she's been with someone before that treated her badly or cheated on her - she may be bitter about it. Have you yourself given her any reason to distrust you? Whether yes or no, sit down with her and ask her what her reasons are for becoming angry at you for not answering the phone - be patient and understanding with her and let her explain. But make sure you tell her that this behavior makes you feel bad, and makes you feel like she distrusts you - and that's not a good feeling. I hope it all works out.
2007-06-14 11:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by Starry Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, because you let her. She knows you will tolderate such immature behavior or change your so you don't have to listen to it so she does it. If you teach her that she can not talk to you like you are 8 yrs old. She will either stop or move on to a man that she can control.
Why in the world would you put up with that?
You do know, once you say I do that will only get worse? You are crazy to think that acceptable.
You should end the relationship until she grows up a little. She obviously isn't prepared to be married.
2007-06-14 11:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by mktxlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has issues. Trust is a big one and if she don't trust you now, over a phone call. What is she going to do if you have to work late or go out of town on a business trip?? If she doesn't trust you now, then it will probably only grow. Does she have a reason not to trust you or something or is she that insecure? She needs to stop and you need to talk to her and work out whatever is it that is causing this type of behavior. Or it will keep on until you can't handle it and you want be able to stand her.
2007-06-14 11:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by CaseyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you can see the big red flag waving over your head. She is insecure and immature. If she is like this over a phone call, imagine what she'll be like after you're married about things that are really important !! Walk on while you still can.
2007-06-14 11:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you've never been unfaithful or lied to her.. then it sounds to me like she's just insecure. Sit her down and tell her that this type of behavior bothers you. Maybe she is just the needy type or just needs some reassurance from you that she's the "only one". Either way, you need to discuss her behavior and ask her to tone it down. This is a small problem that could turn in to an even bigger one down the line. Best of luck.
2007-06-14 11:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Christine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, sounds like she is just insane. If she is that insecure in your relationship you should question whether you need to get married. And BTW a common symptom of a cheating partner is that they freak out whenever you can not be reached, because they either consciously or subconciously believe that you are cheating to.
2007-06-14 11:19:00 · answer #8 · answered by New Dog Owner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she's playing out all the possibilities in her head. like you're talkin to another woman, or anything like that. she's tryin to make sure u don't get the chance to do anything.
i think the only way to try to calm her insecurity is to tell her often that u'd never do anything behind her back, you love her only etc.
Oh and by the way i don't think she'll change after u marry her.
good luck, lol!
2007-06-14 11:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by Knowledge is Power. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's incredibly insecure and jealous, it seems. Talk to her about how this makes you feel...she may not even realize she's doing it. If it doesn't change, then reconsider marriage unless you want to be bombarded with her rants and phone calls every single day for the rest of your life.
2007-06-14 11:34:49 · answer #10 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds insecure and immature to me. This is something you definitely want to work on/talk about BEFORE the wedding. Everyone can benefit from couple's counseling. Bring this issue up during a session.
2007-06-14 11:09:05 · answer #11 · answered by retropink 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋