i have 2 men?

Question

this is tricky. i have been married for 16 years. i met this other guy and we started as friends with benefits, but then i met his wife thru our boys and sports. problem, we have fallen in love to the max. we dont plan on leaving our spouses, but now she wants me to be her best friend, i feel bad, but i am so in love with her husband. it has been going on for 2 years. what do i do??

Answer 1

kool lol i mean u have a problem lol

Answer 2

Do you still love your current husband? I see that you talk about your lover but don't give details about your husand. Look what you are doing is wrong and since you have been doing it for 2 years is obsured. Are you sure it is the thrill of not getting caught with another man that has you a wrapped up in this guy? Please be sure that what you feel is real for each other. You have to come clean about what you have done, this goes for the both of you. The other people have the right to know the truth. I wouldn't plan on having your lovers wife want to be your friend after all this is done with. The fact of teh matter is that you should feel bad. Both of you are cheating on your spouses, which they haven't done anything wrong to deserve that. If you really want to be with this lover then just come out and say it. Don't put the blame on your spouses because it takes two to tango and they weren't the one's that put you in the sack together. I expect a huge blowout from all of this. Did you ever stop to think that he might not like you taht way also. You might "love" him but he might just view you as a "booty call". If so then you still have to come clean for his wife's benifit. Good luck with this. It isn't going to be easy, but do the right thing and come clean.

Answer 3

You sound like a victim...unlike a simular situation that was posted on YA ahead of yours. I may be wrong; however, I will tell you this, as I would my own sister. YOU ARE WRONG AND TRAVELING DOWN A ROAD THAT WILL LEAVE YOU WITH NO SELF-ESTEEM, SELF-RESPECT, MUCH LESS AN ITEM FOR YOUR KIDS TO BE PROUD OF.

I suspect you and your lover were just bored with your spouses, not giving you the butterflies that use to exist...it happens in marriages sometimes. In these cases, you have to do the WORK of getting the fire back in the marriage~~NOT LOOK OUTSIDE THE MARRAGE FOR THRILLS.

You cannot be a friends with benefits and be married~~because you break your marriage vows, you are considered a wh*re, sl*t, a person with no morals (religious relationship with God, and much worse things. YOU SHOULD STOP LIVING YOUR LIFE LIKE YOU ARE A LOW-LIFE PERSON! THAT IS IF YOU WANT TO NOT BE CONSIDERED THAT WAY.

NOW, if you don't care about your self, hurting others (hubby and children), then continue to be selfish and get your thrills. Don't expect anyone to condone what you are doing and plan to live your life on the DOWN-LOW, SNEAKING, UNTRUTHFULL LIARS. This may sound harsh, yet I AM TELLING YOU LIKE IT IS! WHEN THE TRUTH COMES OUT, GIRL, YOU WILL BE CONDEMMED BY THOSE WHO LOVE YOU THE MOST.

YOU ARE CONFUSING SEX FOR LOVE AND YOU NEED TO GROW UP AND GET SOME SELF CONTROL. IF YOU TWO WANT EACHOTHER SO BAD, GET A DIVORCE AND HE SHOULD DO THE SAME.

SOMEONE IN YOUR EXTRA RELATIONSHIP SHOULD GROW UP AND GET SOME MORALS AND MATURITY.

POOR CHILDREN, LOOK AT WHAT AN EXAMPLE THEY HAVE! GOOD LUCK WITH THE RACE...YOU WILL NOT BE HIS FIRST OR LAST AFFAIR!!

Answer 4

You need to step back! Because when this woman finds out you have been screwing her husband she is likely to kick your ***! There are kids involved too? Thats terrible! You need to tell this guy that its over! You dont plan on leaving your spouses? I feel bad for your hubby and her! How would you feel if it was your husband and her? Think about it! Unless u both feel like fessing up and ending your marriages - it cant go on with him. If she knows u she will eventually find out and when she does your probably gonna know it!

Answer 5

The friends with the wife thing makes things verrrrrry sticky. That would mean you were deceiving both you husband and your best friend and eventually both spouses will find out. You could consider becoming swinging couples, that would remove the deceit and most of the guilt!

Answer 6

I would try to distance myself from a situation where you would all be together at the same time, because, as a woman, you can read into a man's body language and his eyes. it's very hard to hide such intense feelings and you don't want to hurt your spouse or his. How will you be able to not live with the one you really Love ? you both have to really think about it. good luck in love and decisions. I wish you all the happiness.

Answer 7

close your legs and you'll find out exactly how much he really loves you. Homewreckers fall in love with married men and no you shouldn't be friends with her. If you need a friend go find another man. Seems like your good at that. Leave her alone. You already with her husband and now you want to consider being her friend?

Answer 8

The least you could do, since she's nice enough to share her husband (unknowingly), is to stay away from her. To save trouble, and I am sure this is what you want to do, avoid her, but if you have to be around her, be civil, but not too nice. I would not want someone so two-faced and devious as you've been to her around me, much less trying to be nice.

It seems to me if you two are in love to "the max," then why won't you both do your partners a favor and tell them or leave them? They, too, deserve to go on with their lives with someone who wants them. Trust me---someone would take them off of your hands--play fair, now.

Very selfish of both of you!

Answer 9

Thats a humdinger all right. Guess what, to save everyone I'd cut all ties with everyone and move on no matter how much it would hurt me. I'd rather live with the pain of loss than with the hurt of guilt. Not to mention when it all blew up in my face it, I'd have to feel the pain of hurting others. So to avoid that I'd jet, and never see any of them again.

Answer 10

You cannot be this woman's best friend, you are her worst enemy and she doesn't even know it. If you don't plan on leaving your spouses then why are you having an affair? I don't understand. It's not fair to them, your spouses. You can't or shouldn't have both, you have to end one.

Answer 11

Girl i think i had already answered you. If you love him and he loves you divorce your husband and he his wife and stay together or just stop it bec no one would like to be played like that esp by their spouses. So be an adult and pick one of them and respect yourself and commit yourself to that one person.