I'm 18 now, he will be 21 this month. We have already been dating for about 2 years. We know we will be together, We love each other dearly. But we are mostly worried about finances. I'll be in college full-time and he is still starting out in his career as a mechanic. We plan on getting married in a couple of yrs, is that too young, could we make it financially?
2007-06-14 08:18:24 · 16 answers · asked by guitar_girl1988 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I will be working at least part time. Also, I have this set up that I will ALWAYS have a job if I need it, so it's good for me/us.
2007-06-14 08:36:13 · update #1
is anyone really gonna be financially set. unless there rich. i don't think that 21 is to young to get married. just think that finances are not as important as many people seam to think. its all the love and happiness between love.
2007-06-14 08:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by shoppingreen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and yes. I don't mean to be difficult here, but that really is the answer. No, it's not too young because some couples do extremely well with a marriage beginning that age. If that is what you want to do, get married at 21, then you will look at and think only of those. However, you have to also know that what you are looking at is the exception, not the rule. Right now the average age for marriage is 26 ... so 21 is WAY too young. Plus, statistics show that the younger the couple is at marriage the greater chance they have of getting a divorce.
Then, as you have pointed out, there's the financial thing. He's going to be a mechanic, so that's a reasonably stable job, but it will never pay really well. One thing you have NOT considered, however, is that while he is high school educated right now, and so are you, once you begin college you will begin hanging around people who are college educated and they will be looking for jobs as bankers and doctors and lawyers and teachers and therapists ... not mechanics. You are setting yourself up to change, while he stays the same, not a good match.
2007-06-14 15:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on your situation. My husband and I moved in right after we got engaged in 2004. I was 20 and he was 24. We both work full time and I go to college PT. We got married last May when I was almost 22.
If all you are worried about is finances, then sit down and figure out how much you both make and then figure what a ball park for your expenses will be.
Otherwise, I can say I was 21 when I got married and the age thing hasn't made any difference to me.
2007-06-14 15:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage at this age should be far from your mind and his! But I not one to say I have been with my husband since I was 15yrs old and he was 17 and he loved me dear then and still today as I'm 34yrs. But be prepared like any relationship doesn't matter how much you love each other things in life causes changes for you and him. Life is hard don't be in a hurry to get married, but just enjoy being in your relationship you don't need to get married to show your dedication to one another. I was with my guy for 10years before we decided to get married. As far as a good marriage I say you have a chance at a good marriage just like anyone else does no matter the age. You seem mature enough to have a serious relationship and keep that up that is a good way of being. Life is so difficult to say you will have a successful marriage you will grow as an individual and so will he so who's to say it could be good or not it really depends on your and his communication level in life's rough and tough times we all get them. Enjoy being young!
2007-06-14 15:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people say you should be partying and clubbing and dating at the age of 21 but not all 21 year olds think like that. Some are ready to settle down and get married. It has nothing to do with your age. Its if your ready for marriage or not. Im 18 and i wanna get married and to tell the truth i dont really give a damn about what anybody thinks of me gettin married at that age because im an adult an if i wanna marry at that age i will. But really people ought to weigh their options out im jus sayin. Dont wanna regret nothin.
2014-07-08 03:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by Leah Christine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think after 2-3 more years and you are still as much in love as you are now, then no it's not too young.
I would highly recommend both of you finishing college and getting established in good jobs before getting married. It makes it much easier financially.
2007-06-14 15:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by swimbike21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will be just fine. In two years, he will be established in his mechanic career which will help financially. Will you be working part-time at all? If not, I think I would consider a part-time job on weekends or something to help with finances. Good luck!
2007-06-14 15:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by che_rae_gra53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 18 and my husband was 20. We were madly in love and still are 28 years later. I would suggest that you finish school first and then you should be able to get a good job. Financially, it was tough for us at first. Everything else was a piece of cake. We "tasted life" and "experienced life" together. Good luck in whatever you decide.
2007-06-14 15:22:54 · answer #8 · answered by Schwinn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan carefully and discuss everything with him. There's no good reason why your marriage wouldn't work if you're both 100% invested in it.
Two of my friends were married at ages 20 and 22. They're the happiest couple I've ever seen -- they constantly communicate and ensure that everything goes right the first time.
2007-06-14 15:24:41 · answer #9 · answered by hbomb8404 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is not too young and you can make it...my husband and I have been married for 9 1/2 years..I was 18 and he was 20!! We have a really good marriage....we may not be the richest people in town, but we do have a nice house and two beautiful sons!!! Good luck to ya!!!
2007-06-14 15:25:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋