when I learned about his wif I confronted him about it & he admitted it.That was 7 months ago. I know what i should do is dump him but it has been very difficulty for me.Had i known he was married I wouldn't have dated him at all.
There were no signs that he was married at all. Whenever I called & wanted he to come over,he was always there.He has Never ever stood me up.I used to go to what I thought was his primary place of residence but he confaced that it's a house that his wife doesn't know about.He even gave me the keys to that house(I thought he was not married).The only TRUTH was his 3 kids that I met & hung out with over & over again.He introduced me to them as daddy's friend( which at the time seemed right bcos they are 7yrs,6yrs & 4yrs & I thought he didn't want to confuse them). He said he was divorced.
At times i called him late at night, when i felt like having sex(he was my b/friend, at least I thought)& he came over.He never said No or gave any excuses.
2007-06-14 08:20:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IT's not that i want him to marry me,just that I LOVE him.HIS REASONS are that he can leave his wife but he will lose half of his wealth.Yes he is 12 yrs older than me.When I heard the news & after confronting I broke up with him but I was missing him so much.I tried to get over him but could not.So i gave in to his apologises.
I actually met his wife.At the time he told me that she was his Ex & the mother of his kids.Little did I know they were still married & living together. I JUST WONDER, WHO HE TOLD HER I WAS.I used to spend weekends with his kids & him. I mean the whole day.His kids ve caught us kissing & fooling around. How could he do that.
How can i let go of this guy..I keep crying because i know i was not wrong but i still love him even though i know he is a cheater.
21 hours ago
I want to let him so much because it's the right thing to do...But my feelings keep winning. I do not want to hurt her at all.
I keep breaking up with him ONLY to get back with him.
2007-06-14 08:26:18 · update #1
I know he lied and it is easy for some of you to SAY just let go..BUt how do you let go of some one you have loved so much..I'm not looking to get married i'm just so heartbroken over him..
I'm trying to get him off my mind but I"m still in love with him and yes He still makes me weak when he touches me..
How could he do that to his kids, his wife and me? WHY do MEN do this S*H*I*T
2007-06-14 08:29:09 · update #2
I wonder if she knows about you and if they have some kind of open relationship or something, cause that crap is just to weird. He is a loser, big time...I would make him to win you back, but do you rrally want to be with someone like this, honestly? He is a liar, and an adulterer...he could do the same thng to you and probably will if you two are together, even if he is apart from his wife. Once a cheater....always a cheater. He betrayed your trust and if he wants it back, he is going to have to work at it. He is living a double life and that is never a good sign of someone you should be with...what kind of a parent does that to his kids anyway??? he is confusing them by being with you, they are also getting hurt in this, but they are innocent in the whole thing. You need to completely disatnce yourself, hard is it WILL BE....find someone deserving of you. Please don't do this anymore, it isnt good for anyone involved....you deserve better!!! Best of Luck!
2007-06-14 10:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by moonfairy_032175 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you're going through this, it has nothing to do with you. He's what you call a sociopath. Find a counselor and get away from him. I know it hurts, but it'll hurt alot worse if you don't sever the ties now. It's not going to get better and you'll never be able to trust him again. I know this may sound cruel to you now, but you need to hear it, he never loved you. He's not capable of loving his own children. He had an agenda and you filled the need. Love doesn't hurt like that, love doesn't lie. You seem like a beautiful, caring person (that's who they prey on), dump him and don't listen to anything he says. His actions speak volumes. Get the book "Dating for Dummies." I went through the same thing, only I actually married the phsyco. There were some common sense pointers in the book that I just missed because I was too trusting. So are you. I have since moved on and believe me... it will get better. Everytime you start to think about him, only let yourself think about the way he hurt you, not the cr*p he told you. You are a fine person, he is a creep. Be glad you've found out now. He probably has more strung along that you don't even know about. Never give a man money. Best wishes.
((( hug )))
2007-06-14 08:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I saw all of these posted yesterday, it sounds like you are in a horrible conflict of what is right and what you want. Because of what he has done, he was never really yours to have. When you keep participating you make your self the cheater with him. He is a cheater and scum if he could do this to you, his wife and his children. I cannot tell you exactly how to get over him. It's like asking how you get over someone dying, it's different for everyone. You just do it. You deserve a life with a man who will really love and respect you. This man did nothing more than give lip service to all parties involved. He shows that he can hold on to lies for a long time and it does not bother him, would you really want a man like that? If so, then you need to get some help so that you learn that you are worth so much more. I'm sorry that you life has come crashing down like this, if you like, you can email me anytime.
2007-06-14 08:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want the life that his current wife has... I would suggest that you run as fast as you can in the other direction. I know it's easier said than done because you are deeply invested in the feeling you have for him. But do you really want to be involved with someone who can keep a secret like that for so long. What kind of loyalty do you expect him to have for you when he doesn't have any at all for his wife and the mother of his 3 young children that he had the audacity to bring around you like it was nothing. If you had children with this guy would you want your children subjected to that kind of behavior from their own father. Don't think you are different and that he loves you more because he doesn't and he wont treat you any different. You know why, because you have already showed him by staying with him this long that he can basically do what he wants and you ain't going nowhere. So why treat you with any more respect then he is treating his current wife with. If you don't get it after all that then you won't ever get it. And how could you ever trust this guy with anything at all. Nothing is sacred to him not even his own children for gods sake. Good luck with whatever choice you make, but remember whatever choice you make that you have been told already what the end result is going to be so don't be surprised.
2007-06-14 08:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by Erica D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a million. Date one in each and every of them for an hour, i could quite spend an hour with them, then in undemanding terms a million kiss. 2. digital mail handle, so i can be in contact with them. 3. that could be a tricky one, yet i think of i could quite have Nick say i'm exceptionally. 4. Meet them and get hugged, which would be spectacular! 5. Haha, i like this question and the obtrusive answer is marry a Jonas. . . the two Nick or Joe will do, i'm no longer that choosy lol! good activity, I enjoyed it! Cool Survey! i could like to work out yet another! Peace Love Jonas! =]
2016-10-17 06:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by clam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that was a mouth full. I was kinda in The same situation I left him and sometimes it was hard but i got over it after time passed. He is really not worth it. I know its hard because you have your feelings in it. But 1st if he did that to her he would do that to you too. 2nd if he really loved you he would divorce her and marry you the excuse that he would loose part of his money is just an excuse if he really cared about you it would not matter. 3rd he has children that will grow up and resent you.
and 4th i would never want to be second best.
After i left the guy i had that situation with after a few years met my husband and i am his queen he loves me and my little girl so much he is so wonderful to us. I would have never known that to be possible if i didn't leave the other scum bag and come to my senses.
ps. a man like that will only do to you what you alow him to do. Let him go. you will be better off without him.
2007-06-14 08:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a piece of crap! Never considered your feelings one bit, only his own sexual satisfaction. He has young children, and a wife. How could you deal with the fact that you will always just be the mistress to this poor excuse of a man? Good God honey, there are other men out there who need love, who AREN'T married with children. You have to go on and get over this loser, and find yourself a REAL man!
2007-06-14 09:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by che_rae_gra53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do this because they find suseptible women like you that fall for this hook, line and sinker.
Okay..okay...I admit that if what you say is true the circumstances wouldn't betray anything else. kinda strange though how the kids would report back to mommy that they met a strange woman at Daddy's house. Not every male can be as accomadating as he when it comes to not only having a second home, but just getting up and meeting you at the drop of a hat. So...his wife is either an idiot or she just doesn't care what he does.
But...how can you 'love' someone who is so deceptive and in essence...fu*ked with your life and emotions like he did?
lady...get a grip and drop this bastard. Its obvious he's no good, untrustworthy and used you. Badly too it would seem.
2007-06-14 08:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm not going to beat you up over this...you're doing an excellent job of that already. For your own satisfaction, you HAVE to turn this man loose, and live your life without him. He is doing you an injustice, as well as his wife and kids. If necessary, MOVE! Move to another city, and start over! There is life after a breakup!!! You have to think of your own welfare....when he tires of you, he will drop you like a hot potato! You're a TOY to him....is that what you want for the rest of your life??? Good Luck!!
2007-06-14 08:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well now that you know that should be enough not to want to be with him anymore. I mean finding out he lied about something so unforgivable would make all the love just go away.
2007-06-14 08:25:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋