Eventually I'll have to deal with my boyfriends X because of my relationship with him and his kids - how can I not let the kids know how much I dislike her - I've been avoiding any and all situations that she's involved with... But I can't do that forever .... can I?
She truly is a FREAK!
2007-06-14 07:51:14 · 6 answers · asked by Kaybee 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The X doesn't have any issues with me other than I have made it quite clear that I do not want a "friendship" with her.
I have some issues with her in the fact that she manipulates situations where the kids are concerned and creates drama on a daily basis.
I have made the choice not to deal with her because I don't the kids to see that I don't like her.
I've never said anything bad about her in front of the kids but she's made comments to the kids about me and their dad.
2007-06-14 09:46:09 · update #1
I feel your pain. My 18 y.o. stepson just moved out. He's been living with us for the past 7 years and his mom (who is truly psycho) is heavily involved in his life. We're free of her at last.
The only thing you can do is know that you are the better person. Don't say things you might regret. Trust me. Your step children will remember every negative thing you say about their mom. Take the high road and good luck. You will need it.
2007-06-14 07:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason why she has issues with you. As long as you are genuinely good to her kids, they will let her know you are respectful and nice to them. Since she is the mother of your boyfriends kids, you will have no alternative than to be the one to refrain from putting her down at least in front of her kids.
If she is so Super Toxic of a person, then their father should consider being the full-time parent, until she gets counseling and help to deal with her emotions. But, are you willing to help him through this? If your answer is no, than you should reconsider not marrying him.
2007-06-14 15:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by Emerald 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So this is a life you actually want to sign up for? Wow! If you do jump into this frying pan, you can never let the kids or her know your feelings. You don't matter here. Your boyfriend has to deal with that family he created so if you don't think you could handle yourself maturely, he's not the one for you.
2007-06-14 14:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have an obligation to keep your emotions in order. Especially in front of the kids who shouldn't be exposed to your feeling for her. If you can't do that then you're no better than the psycho bi*ch ex girlfriend.
2007-06-14 14:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation (llok at my questions) but I am always really nice to her and that makes her look even worse. Whatever you do do not bad mouth her in front of his children
2007-06-14 14:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by To The Point 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its going to be hard. Maybe after you see her a few hundred times you might get use to it.
2007-06-14 15:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋