I have been with my man off and on for 5 years. He always seems to leave the relationship when things get too stressful or when we get to serious. Once I agree to the fact (that was his idea in the first place) to move on myself and don't care anymore he comes back 10 fold..begging and pleading and making promises he always breaks. I know it is part of the chase but seriously its so dumb, if you don't want me but just don't want me to move on then why do you leave in the first place..??
2007-06-14 05:02:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Five years..and you consider this 'part of the chase"? Hun...he comes back because he knows you stupidly allow it to happen. So...you say its "so dumb". This makes me ponder...who is really the dumb one here?
Or..maybe its something deep rooted in you that enjoys being cast aside...only to be recycled again a short time later. Yeah...i think that's more like it.
You getting my drift here sweetie? If he hasn't the balls to stand or leave...perhaps you should borrow his for awhile seeing how he isn't using them.
2007-06-14 05:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This kind of man has no idea what he really wants. He wants you when he doesn't have you. Once he gets you, he realizes his mistake and leaves again. Then he starts to wonder if he made the right decision and chases you all over again. This will only end when you make it.
PS Most likely he is sampling other women during your off times. Get him tested for STDs before sleeping with him again. Any man this confused is not likely to be practicing safe sex all of the time. Make sure you keep condoms with you instead of relying on him to be responsible.
2007-06-14 05:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does this because you allow him to. He can go when the going gets touch and do his thing, see who he wants, have his fun and freedom and then we he's had his fill of that, he comes back to you knowing that he only needs to tell you certain things and you'll believe him then he's back in. If you want him to stop this, then you must stop him. The next time he talks about leaving, look him dead in the eye, don't be emotional, don't cry, don't yell, be calm, and tell him "if you leave this time, it's over, no coming back". He won't believe you of course because I'm sure you've said that before and then let him come back. But this time, be different. If he leaves it's over, no come-backs and mean it. Move on with your life, you deserve better.
2007-06-14 05:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does it cause you allow it...if you put your foot down and get serious by moving on ..he'll get the picture...sounds like he's hoping and checking to see if the grass is greener but apparently its not since he keeps coming back to you...don't waste your time any longer if he can not truly commit to working on this relationship...all he's doing is slowing you down and making it utterly impossible for the MR. RIGHT to come into your life...he's being very immature with this I want I want my cake and eat it too...i would back off and give him a taste and when he does the magician trick by leaving you start dating others...you might find someone who really would appreciate you...because you are truly beautiful and shouldn't have to put up with childish games...
God Bless and remember your all that and never settle for less...
2007-06-14 05:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just treat u as a replacement of sth. once he found sth better than this relationship he will than leave u like the previous time. He is so self-centred and not ready for a serious and long relationship. Once he get bored with u he will leave. He will still miss the feeling once he wants somebody there for him* he is so selfish !!
2007-06-14 05:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by Cherry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because us guys are twisted. When we're together, we feel tortured by being tied down in commitment and when we separate with you females, we feel tortured by being alone.
I think it's because of how our mummies treated us when we were children. Mom's tend to over nurture their baby boys which makes us spoiled munchkins.
The ultimate solution is to just keep your dude on a very long leash. Let him, like a dog, go runnin' about sniffing other female dogs booties and then yank the leash every now and then to remind him that "mommy is watching."
That way, you get the occasional dose of post fight sex and you maintain a homeostasis of sorts.
If I were you...you might also just as well dump him and verify that other guys go in this cycle too. You might get lucky, with experimential dating and actually find a guy who is more compatible with you so that you don't have to go thru that whole relationship problems routine.
2007-06-14 05:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because he problay think that there is something better out there for him, and then when he see that he had the best thing for him which is you he want to be a part of your life again, Honey move on because he just wasting you time.
2007-06-14 05:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by Lady J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He knows that he can leave you and come right back when he's done doing whatever it was that was better for him at the time he left you. Stop letting him come back, and he'll learn really quick that you've truely moved on. Be strong!
2007-06-14 05:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by bseig06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guys tired of doing u he leaves thinking he can get more action he realizes he can and comes wanting u cause ur the only one that will give him some
2007-06-14 05:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by just m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the problem is he cares about you, he just isn't ready for a relationship. so, he does want to be with you, just every time he tries to be with you he keeps running into the same barriers. then, he becomes blinded by them, thinks he needs to get away from you, then realizes his mistake.
so i guess his other problem is that he hasn't learned from his mistakes yet..
2007-06-14 05:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by BrightEyes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋