2007-06-14 05:12:18 · 18 answers · asked by RaMrOd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well now, there's a bitter generalization! My husband and I have been together for about 4 years (not too long, I suppose), and we still enjoy sex. In fact, I'm the one with the higher drive! You just need to find a woman who enjoys it as much as you, and maybe that will knock the chip off your shoulder.
2007-06-14 05:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by Ahni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because our husbands/boyfriends stop trying so hard to get in our pants. I want sex all the time, but my husband doesn't bother with even a hint of romance, so why should I give it up? I've said, "Hey honey, lets go for a walk together." Does he go? No. I invite him constantly to be romantic with me. So I just don't feel pretty and special sometimes. When I don't feel pretty and special, why in God's name would I want to take off my clothes? Ha! After it's been a while, and he starts getting desperate for a little action, he turns up the romance. He starts saying extra nice things to me. He's willing to do more foreplay. In fact, he may start carressing me, hugging me, during breakfast (rated PG, of course) and giving me sexy looks at breakfast. Then the kids come down and that's the end of that... but maybe he will come home for lunch, or call me. Then, when he gets home, and the kids finally go to bed, maybe we will sit together and watch a movie, and make out a little. THEN, I feel special. THEN my sex drive is back. THAT is what drove me wild when we were dating. Too confusing for you? Too much hassle? Too bad. Our sex drive doesn't change. I have sexual desire for my husband all the time. Men change.
2007-06-14 05:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by Yup Yup Yuppers 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it works both ways, the excitement of it is not as high anymore, you are taking each other for granted and there is nothing you need to prove anymore. I think couples forget to talk about these things before getting married and what they would do if that were to happen to them. I would have liked to think of ways to keep that side of the relationship alive, like going on a romantic week end somewhere or going for a romantic dinner or picnic etc..where it's only about the two of us and nothing else, not work, nor money nor the children nor the family etc...this would be in the ideal world, but sometimes reality takes over and this is not always possible!! It takes two to tango!!
2007-06-14 05:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by piano19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never thought my sex drive would change when I got married, but it did and I figured out why...because of the hurt, pain and distance that can develope in a marriage. I am lucky to have a husband who trys very hard and as a result I have been able to do alot of healing and my sex drive has returned. But the second I feel that pain or hurt from something stupid he said or did....I can no longer be available to him.
I think the difference is when I was single I didnt' give of myself completely and with my husband whom I love dearly I give myself completely so whenever he hurts me just take that ability to be open away.
2007-06-14 05:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by mktxlady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My intercourse existence replaced once I have been given married using fact quickly after the marriage my husband replaced and grew to grow to be very controlling and particularly frankly, having intercourse with somebody who made me experience like an fool 0.5 the time replaced into no longer very eye-catching and that i did no longer prefer him touching me. To make a protracted tale short-we separated after 15 years and that i met a guy who treats me properly and is sort and considerate and he and that i've got intercourse as much as 3 situations an afternoon and this could be a million/12 years later! So for my section, in the experience that your spouse is slowing down perhaps it somewhat is you (i do no longer propose to be propose to you), coach your spouse some kindness and love and get excitement from her. I promise you to a woman it somewhat is the main important activate. do no longer supply up and good success.
2016-10-17 06:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for a little over a year and have a 5 1/2 yr old. My husband is thankful cause mine hasn't changed at all. I thought it would but it hasn't. I think it all depends on your lifestyle and if you make the time.
2007-06-14 05:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by SnAzZy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because for one thing our responsibilities change. Also because the men change too. Men stop doing 4 play after get married because they feel like they have you. But they forget that women need mental stimulation as well as physical to make love sometimes.
2007-06-14 05:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by Nia P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage or commitment has nothing to do with it. The lack of appreciation, lack of affection not returned, Being taken for granted, lack of the gentle touches, Lack of the bright smile. These are the things that makes the sex drive go away. Are you guilty of some of these?
2007-06-14 05:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by New Nana 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it does it doesn't have anything to do with the committment, more of what's going on in life. Children tend to follow marriage which makes for days that are a lot busier. Even so, I don't know about other women but mine doesn't.
2007-06-14 05:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hormones .....filling up every inch of our body.its a roller coaster ride.natural ,men just got to be smarter in figuring the best part of females hormones.it can drive men crazy in many exciting ways too.
2007-06-14 05:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋