Why Do Men Marry Certain Women, and Only Date Others.?

Question

I'm in a good relationship, but this question stems from something that happened to my friend.

Why is it that men will date certain women, but not marry them? For example, a couple will date for 5 years and then all of a sudden just break up one day. I'm not talking cheating or anything, just one day call it quits.

Than, maybe 6 months or a year later, they meet another girl. Just as nice as the other, and marry her. What is it about some women being more marriageable material?

Why is it that men date some women, but would never consider marrying them. And why are some women instant marriage material?

Lots of men say, they knew they'd marry their wife from the first moment they meet. Some what makes those women, fit the marriage catergory so quickly?

I'm talking long term, serious relationships.

I know girls that men casual date, aren't the marrying type.

But, I've known men who have been in one long term relationship, 5+ years and then not marry the girl,

They meet another girl, have another 5 year relationship and then they get married.

Answer 1

What a man is looking for in a date and in a marriage are two separate things, but women do exactly the same thing.

Women want to date the "bad boy", the guy who is a player, a terrific dancer and a wild time in a party situation. But those are horrible qualities for someone to settle down with. A woman wants to marry a guy with a great career and who is stable and boring. The last thing they want to marry is a bad boy, or a player.

Guys want to date a girl who is fun, passionate, out-going, flirtatious and creative. When they get married they want to settle down with someone who is stable and a good home maker. The last thing they want is someone who is flirtatious because that means the guy will always have to worry about their wife.

Answer 2

I sometimes ask myself the same question. My ex and I lived together for 13 years before we got married. We were together a total of 18 years. The marriage was awful. I feel like it was over before it even started. Now, I've met a nice guy and he's already talking marriage. Sometimes when people are together so long and then break up and meet somebody new, They do things out of spite. I don't know. Men are hard to figure out sometimes. Some say why marry the cow when you can get the milk for free (if you know what I mean).

Answer 3

Some women are more fun to date. She could be nice, but maybe she's a partier, maybe she goes out a little too much, maybe she doesn't want kids, doesn't want to settle down just yet, flirts with other guys too much, wild and crazy. These are fun girls to date, but ultimately not the type you want to share your life with.

It also comes down to chemistry and compatibility. Some people just "click" and work together. Some people are in different stages of their life and want to settle down while others don't.

I'm one of those guys who said they'd marry their wife from the first time I laid eyes on her. I can't tell you what it was, I can't even describe it. Yes she was hot, but once I started talking to her, there was just something about her. Chemistry, kindness, intelligence.

Bottom line, no one person is better than another. it's all about chemistry and timing.

Answer 4

Well, I have been with my gf for three years, and I'm going to propose to her as soon as I get home from this long damn business trip. When I first met her, the word forever scared me, but not anymore. I don't think it's an intentional thing......maybe they don't want to go through the years of dating and just want to get married because they feel like they are running out of time? I can't say, I really don't know.

Answer 5

I dated my ex for 4 years and we were engaged 3 times, but I couldn't commit. Then I met my wife now and married her after 3 months, and it is now 3 years later. The reason! A man wants a lady on the streets and a freak in the sheets. You don't want to marry a good girl, and you can't turn a ho into a housewife. So that is your reason.

Answer 6

It is all based on personal taste.
I know someone that had the same thing happen. Dated a guy for years, they broke up and the next thing you hear, he is getting married.
I do not think it is right to be with someone for so long without the intension of marriage. Wasting time is all it is.

Answer 7

human nature i know i've dated men i liked a lot I KNEW they were not ever gonna be my husband. Sometimes there is a connection and ya know you don't want to lose that person other times you really like someone you don't see building a life and family with them

Answer 8

In some cases (not all) I think they marry the next girl because.They realized that they made a mistake by letting the last one go.And don't want to ruin things for themselves this time around.And them in other cases like my hubby he got engaged to his highschool girlfriend and they had a long term relationship they dated for about 4 years.In that 4 year time span although he said he cared for her there just was something missing.He just never felt like it was supposed to be.And he only ask her to marry him because that was what was expected of him.He eventually realized that he wasn't doing either one of them any good by being in that relationship.Because he continued to have that nagging feeling he wasn't supposed to be with her. He broke things off with her.A few months later he met me and although we started out friend and stayed that way for quit a while.One of the first things he said to me was he had the feeling he was finally were he was supposed to be.And when we did start dating it wasn't 3 months when he preposed to me and if he had his way we wouldn't have married a lot sooner than we did.His mom and sister came to me on our wedding day and said to me it was about time.When I ask what them ment by that comment.They told me he had been wanting to marry me since the first day he met me.And was going to try to get me to marry me 3 weeks after we met when I went with him to his sisters wedding.They had actually had made preparations in case I agreed to marry him.They only reason he didn't try to marry me on that trip is because he saw my I.D. sitting on top of my suitcase and realized I was only 17 and we couldn't do anything without my parents permission.

Answer 9

My wife is not the woman she was when I married her. I mean her attitude., personality.
Some women are fun dates but may not be presentable to mom.
I guess.

Answer 10

Some women just aren't marriage material. It is not some curse or spell that is put on them, but the way they act, dress, or talk. They COULD be if they wanted to, I suppose.