Why are so many women against prenups?

Question

Why is it wrong for a man to want to protect himself in case things turn sour?
I personally believe that if a woman truely loves the man she plans on marrying she shouldn't be worried about signing a prenup....I also believe the ones who refuse to do so want to take their husband to the cleaner if they divorce.

Lol.ogrething,yes i am a woman and i asked because i have a son and if he gets married one day i would suggest a prenup.
Also a prenup can be good for women who have assets too you know.

Answer 1

I think too many women just don't understand how a prenup works. It can very easily protect both people in case the marriage fails.
Does it sound unfair to have in writing that all assets acquired together should be equally divided and all assets acquired before the marriage belongs to the person who bought them.

When people break up they usually aren't logical and want revenge. Prenups can be used to make people act fairly. Remember you both have to sign the prenup, so just make sure its written up fairly.

Answer 2

To give room for the unknown, perhaps. It also shows or rather..gives a little light on the possible intentions regarding the marraige. Some will say that it's just like you want to tell your partner that you're not sure how much you can trust them, and it's such a materialistic aspect, but these days, a lot of men and women are becoming aware of how fast a fantasy-come-true kind of life can change. It isn't a social agreement that men seeking prenups is wrong, is it? It's just that people some people are against it, whether for reasons concerning trust or limitation, among other things. I guess this might be different if the person asking for a prenup was a woman. :) How about the rich women? Would it be alright for them to seek prenups? I think that prenups shouldn't even be based on gender, but more on the wealth to protect. :)

Answer 3

I believe the opposite, If a man truly loves a woman why would he want a prenup? Makes me think he expects the marriage to fail. What guarantee is there that in a few years he finds another young honey... Hey! He has a prenup to protect his investments and he's off having an affair.

If you both are so paranoid about taking each other to the cleaners "When" the divorce happen.... I personally don't think you two should be married. Maybe this type of person is better off not marrying at all. Why live a life in such fear of someone you supposedly love.

Does "For better or for worse, love, honor and cherish. Till death do us part" really mean anything enymore!

Answer 4

if the man and the woman are on equal ground financially than why would a prenup be neccessary? If one of them is more financially sound than the other and has more assets to protect in the event of a divorce than yes a prenup is neccessary. When my husband and I married he suggested a prenup but seriously he makes $12000 more than me a year and I was well established before we met and fell in love no way I was signing a prenup...that and the fact that we will be married until death do us part!!

Answer 5

If a man and woman build a fortune and life together from scratch then a prenup would be wrong. If a man is wealthy or has assets before meeting a woman- get a prenup for just the things he had before meeting her. It's only fair and don't believe for a minute she won't take you to the cleaners if your marriage doesn't work. I know too many people it happened to- guys and girls!

Answer 6

A prenup is designed to protect the assets that a person had before marriage. If I owned my own home and had a large retirement account prior to marriage I would want a prenup signed to protect those assets. Any assets accumulated during the marriage are still community property.
It will protect a woman or man who owned assets prior to marriage. Doesn't matter is you're a woman or man.

Answer 7

Because I believe that a marriage is a contract, the merging of assets is a part of that. Life is risk, and marriage is a part of that risk. You gotta pay to play in this world. Also, a man is in more position, simply based on his gender, to make more money and wealth than a woman. This is a man's world and some men will have a wife who's there with him while he climbs up the social and financial ladder and then we he's "arrived" he dumps her, gives her the shaft financially, and then marries a 25 year old wanna-be actress with zero brains but size DD boobs. It's simply unfair. So alimony is a way of making sure the starter wife is taken care of, as is her rightful due. Now if she has money of her own, the all bets are off. You must remember though, in the old days, and how God intended, the man was supposed to support his family, the wife didn't work outside the home and divorce was rare. But since we've totally destroyed the make up of the so called American family, alimony is a necessary thing. Prenups are designed to rob women of their rightful due.

Answer 8

It's not necessarily the woman the man doesn't trust. It's the future. He may care about the woman, but he wants to protect himself just in case things don't work out. I would personally give my girl a lump sum up front because I "know" her. I know that if she did decide to leave me, she wouldn't clean me out. She would do a lot of things to p**s me off but I know she wouldn't leave me in the streets - unless I cheated on her - and I wouldn't do that no matter how tempting.

And we do talk about cheating and breaking up often so that we know what we need to do to keep each other happy and what we shouldn't do to make each angry.

Get to know the woman and let her get to know you (talking to men) and you may not have a need for one. Because if you got a gold-digger on your hands, you'll know to kick that woman to the curb and holla' at a real Diva who has your back like Bonnie and Clyde. And she won't want to hurt you - even if you do her wrong or if things don't work. Losing her friendship and love would bring more sorrow and pain that losing the money and material possessions, because who can you trust now that you've let a good woman get away from you. You would be miserable.

Oh, to answer the question: it shows a lack of trust and/or true love - except for love of money and material possessions. But women should realize that some of these guys have heard bad stories or have bad experiences with hoodrats trying to take advantage of them or "steal" their stuff.

Answer 9

I love prenups. It saves the couple the trouble of battling over money and material posessions in the event of a divorce.

I'm asking my fiance to sign a prenup before we get married. I do believe we'll be together forever, but if we aren't, I want to know that I'll be ok!

I hate that so many women have this roses 'n' posies view of love....as if people just get married and ride off into the sunset on white horses and live happily ever after....uuggghh!
I think it's important to protect your assets before making a lifelong commitment to someone. I don't want to be one of those women who ends up penniless with nowhere to live if things with me and my man take a sour turn...not would I want to make my living off of alimony payments...where's the pride in that??? I don't live off of my fiance now, nor does he live off of me, and I'd like to keep it that way, no matter what happens. It's not about trust...It's about being smart.

Answer 10

Because it is soooooo unromantic and shows a lack of trust right from the very beginning. But then again, it is a reality, no matter how much anyone feels this is the perfect marriage, it's strictly 50-50 if the marriage works or not.

In some cases, women also feel like it's putting them down, like they are being treated like prostitutes (they are paid for the time together) or that they are worthless, because they don't have enough money to need a prenup on their own.