ok I have been with the father of my baby girl for 3yrs and are baby is 6 months. and I have never you know :) when having sex. is there something wrong with me.. and to top it off he has no clue.
2007-06-14 06:01:00 · 18 answers · asked by gia00601 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm confused about what you have "never"? I interperted that question to mean that you have never had an orgasm but if i'm wrong you can ignore this response. "Never" having one is NOT uncommon for women.....nor are they the same. One woman's O might be the feeling that she needs to pee, anothers might be what we hear from Porn....Some women can only get that from actual penetration while others need certian stimulation on the clit. Having "never" doesn't make you bad, wrong, or broken in any way.
With that said you might want to approach this subject carefully with your mate. My personal experience is that men do not take well to hearing that their mate has been faking it especially for so long. And they find they need to take to act of giving you one and turn it into a personal quest, if they can't they get angry and upset feeling well un able to preform to male standards and could eventually turn on you making it your "fault". Start by exploring other options such as oral, finger, or toy stimulation to both internal and extrnal hot spots...if you find that still doesn't work then maybe you can tell your partner if you feel that they will recieve it well and in the spirit of helping or moving past it. also, for women sex is mental not physical the way it is for men. Maybe you aren't in the proper mood, stressed, or uninterested in your partner (or maybe your partner needs a little work). Working on all of those things could help both of you. Good Luck
2007-06-14 06:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by ppnj4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 *years* and you have never once told him you haven't had an orgasm during sex?
Why would you hide this from him? How old are you?
It doesn't matter - it's time to GROW UP and sit him down and say, "Look. I love you and I know I have faked it a number of times so this will come as a huge shock, but I have never had an orgasm during sex."
Then you can buy a book or watch that Sex Talk show or research it on the Web at WebMD but there are about 500 ways for you to orgasm before, during, and after sex if you take the time to find out about them. Which you should absolutely do.
2007-06-14 13:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by salacious_crumb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're faking, stop it, you're just making the situation worse, because that's a lie of sorts and will bother him when he finds out.
start by learning how to make your body do it when you're alone. you can't explain to someone else what you need if you don't know.
YOU have to take some initiative in sex you know...move your body against his in the ways that work for you, don't expect him to do it, he can try, but he can't know exactly what you are feeling.
Start saying things like, yes, just like that, or whatever words come to mind when it is the right pressure and position,etc., and use your hands to guide his hips.
This really isn't his problem to make that happen to you, it's yours.
Also oral will be easier probably for you at first.
There's a very small percentage of women that can't seem to do it in any situation, but it's extremely small.
2007-06-14 13:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you have never "you know" because if you had, you'd know it was more like :o))))))))))))))))))))))
The fact that he has no clue is probably part of the problem. He just doesn't know what to do.
Explore your own body, find out what does it for you, and share it with him. It will take time, but as hubby gets more exprienced, he'll learn that it's a whole lot more fun when you're...you knowing.
2007-06-14 13:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by cnsdubie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Most women in the world never find their G-spot. The percentage of women who do find their G-spot is only 25%.
The female orgasm is more dependent upon certain conditions such as her constitution, her partner, the quality of the couple's lovemaking, and her mood, stress, and energy levels.Women are often insufficiently sexually aroused to reach orgasm. Arousal tends to take longer, is more vulnerable to interruption, and is more difficult to restore.
2007-06-14 13:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by All Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try different positions. A woman is mostly stimulated by her clitoris and different positions provide more rubbing there than others. Sometimes being on top can help. And you could also rub it yourself while he is behind you or he could reach around and rub it while behind you. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-06-14 13:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...I don't know. I'm no mindreader. So....apparently you have a hangup about anything of a sexual nature if you can't make it any clearer than that. Well..not ALL that much of a hangup. that kid just didn't appear from beneath a cabbage leaf.
2007-06-14 13:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, that won't change if you don't talk to him about it. Afterwards, if nothing changes when he is really trying than go see a doctor. If nothing is physically wrong than go see a sex therapist both you and your male counterpart.
2007-06-14 13:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by The One Truth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a copy of a book called the Kama Sutra and read it together with your husband. I think you will find it most enlightening.
2007-06-14 13:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what makes your body tick by doing it yourself, and then show him how. Women often need direct stimulation in that exact area to achieve what you're referring to, and it's got to be the right amount of pressure...ahem...speed....etc.
2007-06-14 13:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by RanaBanana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋