Marriage & Divorce - 7 June 2007

Okay, I'm really getting confused about the upcoming divorce of mine. Note: My soon to be ex and I have a 3 year old daughter. Everyone says we should work together for her and eventually develop a friendship for her best interest... my confusion stems from the fact that if we could work together and be friends wouldn't we still be married? (In our case - he just blew up and tried to attack me then has constantly threatened me with our daughter since I left.)

I'm trying really hard to help - call every night so she can talk to him, meet him for dinner several times a week just so she can see him, meanwhile I'm gritting my teeth at the situation.. I truly love my daughter and want what is best for her - but don't understand why everyone expects us to be friends... I filed for divorce for a reason.

FYI - I never intended to have a child with him - once I was pregnant with my angel I tried to deal with him...

How can I be friends with someone who treats me like he does?

2007-06-07 18:29:16 · 12 answers · asked by Wildflower 6

we have been married for 5yrs together 9, we have 3 kids, a sucessful business,a dream home together and i love him. But i'm so hurt by this all i do is cry dont go anywhere dont want to be around no one.And to make the situation even harder is the woman lied to me when i heard about it also she knew he was married and he told her he didnt want her to have the child because he didnt want her he couldnt have a child outside his home that he couldnt be a father to but she insisted that she was doing it to break up his marriage she wanted tobe with him and she knew if she did what she was doing i would leave my husband and she would be happy she won. What should i do? Our marriage has not been the same since and now that we know for sure the child is his im torn apart my mind wonders daily i cant get this out of my head no matter what i try to do this is dragging me ruining my life.It's 1thing to know your husband had another child on you but for the woman to think she can get away with r

2007-06-07 18:23:12 · 18 answers · asked by Spice 1

She is my ex-girlfriend, and now we are close, platonic friends. (Yes, that is possible.) She just told me that she has been seeing a married man for 3 months, and his wife just found out. Married man is divorcing his wife, but she is fighting it. My friend did this once before, while she was still married to her first husband. When both relationships fell apart she became suicidal. I hate to see her make the same mistake twice, but she is an adult and her decisions belong to her. Is there anything else I can do besides wish her luck and tell her that if she ever needs me I will be there for her?

2007-06-07 18:18:13 · 12 answers · asked by idahoturkey 4

She wants to remain friends etc and who knows perhaps get togther again but it hurts me too much seeing her and not holdin g her SHES MY WIFE and i love her so much,so if i just thumbed a lift anywhere then any surgestions,i cant do this,it hurts too much please help.

2007-06-07 18:06:05 · 7 answers · asked by steve 2

what would you do n think, if he made you feel like he was discussed by you? and when you told him you were hurt by him words if he ignored you and responded by saying "so" or "truth hurts. " I've left him alone and haven't talked to each other for 5 days now? how long do I wait

2007-06-07 18:02:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-07 18:01:38 · 17 answers · asked by venkatesh v 1

My hubby and i could not agree on wheather or not to have our son circumsized.He said yes because he was circumsized. I said No its genital mutilation and unessary!So i lied and said i got our son was circumsized when he was not.Is this a big deal?

2007-06-07 18:00:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 19 years old I'm a stripper,I've been selling myself for 3 years & why should I go out & work if I could go out & make $500 a day by selling myself? My family is really down on me,should they be?

2007-06-07 16:48:48 · 41 answers · asked by ♥Miss Nikiti♥ 3

For my culture that is defected goods what should I do... My parent's will never aprove.

2007-06-07 16:40:20 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's a curious thing

It's a curious thing, that bond,
And of it I used to be very fond.
But now I look at it a new way,
And I almost....I dread the day.
I see why it fails, it's obvious,
And 50% say it's not so fabulous.
What a pledge, think about it!
The rationale just doesn't fit.
Don't get me wrong, 50% work out,
I wonder, what's the fuss about?
Perhaps it's disney, fantasy land,
But wow, it's such a huge demand.
With such a low success rate,
Why do people still participate?
Is it because they really want to?
Or is it just what they 'should' do?
Although almost half of them fail,
There's still half that do prevail.
Over which half should one ponder?
This is what I wonder, as I wander.
As I wander, down a divided path,
One that splits, the world in half.


So really, why do people do it? I guess i've lost my desire to marry but I want to regain it and don't know why...

2007-06-07 16:34:39 · 15 answers · asked by vthokie4ever 4

Say he is a hunter, fisher, etc and spends a lot of time doing his thing? Is it selfish of his wife to want to spend time with him doing the things she likes to do or even the things he likes to do? Is it wrong of her to want him home once in awhile for a whole weekend without his brother exspecially since he has been gone for the last 2 weeks, and after awhile it wears on her and she gets mad at him for always going away? I am just not sure anymore where I should be in this relationship? Is it me? He don't see it and how much it hurts me to know he is gone, he don't feel he is gone and when asked politly he gets irate about it and blames me and says i hate his brother, honestly I don't hate his brother I am very jelous of the time he spends with his brother and he could care less if this is ending his marriage of 10 years and relationship of 16 years and his kids lives. I am just not sure where to go and I can't stop feeling as though all of this is my fault.

2007-06-07 16:26:54 · 9 answers · asked by baby_blue6960 1

But hate it if you call them that?

2007-06-07 16:17:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-07 16:06:52 · 11 answers · asked by Marcel 1

My ex-husband cheated countless times. We have been divorced for 3 years and he wants to remarry. I'm not sure if I can trust him ever again, but I've noticed that he's changed and grown up a bit.

2007-06-07 15:54:11 · 21 answers · asked by lovelylinda 2

How many guys would consider going out with a girl who already had kids. Would you even consider dating her because I know it's probably tough being with someone who has kids and not by you. Because I have 3kids and 2 babydaddy's and I'm done with them they give me less hope on a good man and they always throw at me that no guy is going to consider dating me with 3 kids. I want to hear from a guys point of view, and be honest!

2007-06-07 15:51:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and we have been living together almost the whole time - but I think it's falling apart. I'm only 20, and he's 27, and while I never thought that would be an issue I think it's becoming one now.

I feel like I've missed out on his best years, and now he's simply not willing to try anymore. It annoys me because I still have so much I want to do, and I feel like he's already done it all without me, so I'm never going to get my chance.

We're living in a small 1 bed unit, and signed the lease until April next year. His dad has paid for and arranged a yacht in October for us for a week. I feel like I'm trapped.

I know he would be absolutely shattered if I left him, because I know he loves me, but he is always working (his own business) or playing sport (5/7 days), and so when he has spare time he wants to relax on his computer or in front of the tv - never with me. I feel like I deserve more.

Please help.

2007-06-07 15:47:19 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

I will try & make my story short & as clear as possible. I'm 36 yrs old & I've dated a man same age as myself for 5 years. Last march of 06 he left me after I found out he had called a woman who was in the same room as I was, I also suspected something strange so after she got a phone call at 12 am I asked to use her phone, I checked recent calls & sure enough it was my ex. When I questioned him about it, he had no answer. After awhile he left me with no explanation. I've tried staying away, believe me? he would text me, I wouldn't answer than I would break recently we spoke as friends again & today we actually met. We made love & it was great but the only thing he wasn't as affectionate as he use to be. My question is can it be possible that he still has feelings for me, I can't ask him cause when I would in the past he would get upset.Can a man really just have sex with someone & not care 4 the person he's with even though we dated for 5 yrs. I don't know what to do I still luv him

2007-06-07 15:43:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here's my question...my Fiance is 15 years younger than me (I'm 39) and I really haven't told my dad just yet......How do I tell not only him but the rest of my families? Don't want to freak them out, but their love and support is a great value to me......

2007-06-07 15:43:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I enjoy that aspect of our relationship when it happens. We have three kids under 4 and use contraception. I work full time. She is a stay at home mom and trust or faithfulness for either of us is not an issue here. I never initiate anymore because she is never in the mood. She is the one that has to be in the mood to have intercourse. Please, don't tell me to help around the house because I already do more than most husbands.

2007-06-07 15:35:38 · 17 answers · asked by wakefullife 2

2007-06-07 15:19:09 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I wonder what do girls think of a guy who tells them he is virgin?
do girls think that guy is a nerd or do girl ever think maybe he think it is important to him to who he gives it to, just not a random girl off the street .. or maybe he had chances but he wants to give to someone special...... or should that guy be hasitating telling a girl that he is a virgin? could this also be applied to a girl? you guys have three days to answer my question so give me your best answers!!! thanks.

2007-06-07 15:14:53 · 6 answers · asked by nick 2

What can I give my girlfriend of 8 years? except for expensive jewelries?

2007-06-07 14:55:30 · 10 answers · asked by Irineo 1

Nothing dirty- just multimedia messages and stupid jokes sometimes late at night plus they call each other for misc things. does anyone else worry about their husbands relationships with co workers? I have no idea how close these women are to my husband and all of a sudden I'm learning that he calls them about misc things. am I too high strung?

2007-06-07 14:50:23 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm getting married in 6 weeks, to my high school sweetheart after 15 years, when we broke up. He and his ex has shared custody to their two kids, boy 8 and girl 5, but their mother is always gone on the road and is left with either him or in daycare. I have a good relationship with the kids and I want to be able to vow to them that I will be there for them. Most of the vows that I have seen is an exchange between parents and children... I'm not really looking for them to say anything to me. Anyone have any ideas? Or websites? Or did anyone else write vows to their step kids?

2007-06-07 14:48:10 · 6 answers · asked by mskitty_72 1

short story, marr. 6 yrs/ 6 mths later stayed hm from work sick w/ hub-7 mo. preg, got hung up on15x's, change my voice- it work-thought I was his bud- I recognized her voice-she was his cousin friend..hub confess that he slept with her b4 we got married he also said she was threating him all the time and she was crazy....next day threats call on vm for both of us.. she was ghost around his fam. I forgave did not forget.. 5 yrs/ ok . last yr.. found a pack of unopened condems one night,of course he had his buddy call me to appolgize about leaving them in his car..Im not stupid, but Im not going to drive myself insane! so I beleive him. I open our cell bill last week saw #'s which I called the one that was used the most..it was an old gf who ask him to marry him when she found that we was engage -another fam friend -she has someone. he told me there just friends.at this point .dont know what to do, I told him to leave by July! he said ok ,It hurts, hes not even gone yet.what u think?

2007-06-07 14:44:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Or is it just the vast and overwhelming majority that make it appear that way?

2007-06-07 13:41:04 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

were beautiful athletic woman. it doesnt mention anything about me his wife or our son. all this after he said how stupid i was for having a page. my argument was that my whole page is about our family and supporting the troops. now i finally talked to him and he swears that he didn do it and someone else (he thinks one of his army buddies did it) did. its all kinda fishy. should i believe him? i am hurt and pissed all at once. i have thought about pretending to be someone else but i am nervous he;ll find out and it will make things worse. any ideas or advice?

2007-06-07 13:39:28 · 36 answers · asked by Me 2

Please dont lecture on the married part. I think he is interested but do not know for sure.

2007-06-07 13:37:09 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

sounds impossible but i am in need. any ideas?

2007-06-07 13:25:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I truly do not know what is going on with my wife and her mood swings. She's hot and cold and I have no idea what the heck is causing it. She's in her mid-20s and we normally get along really great. I've been noticing a pattern. Some days she wears no makeup to work and others she does. Simple enough I guess. Except when she does she is really cold and distant from me. I straight came out and asked her if she was interested in somebody from work and she said no she was not. Her behavior is very eratic. Some days she is so happy she wants to hold hands and be close and others she gets out of the car without a kiss or hug or anything. Nothing leads up to this, no fighting or arguing or anything. When we do argue normally when she is in a cold phase she says she does'nt have the energy to argue with me. Or she says "I just don't care". And then she turns back to being hot again. Is she confused about wanting to be with me, or maybe cheating at work on me. Please help......

2007-06-07 13:24:41 · 13 answers · asked by Rocky 1