ok so my husband is over seas.. i found out he had a myspace page that said he was single and his interests?

Question

were beautiful athletic woman. it doesnt mention anything about me his wife or our son. all this after he said how stupid i was for having a page. my argument was that my whole page is about our family and supporting the troops. now i finally talked to him and he swears that he didn do it and someone else (he thinks one of his army buddies did it) did. its all kinda fishy. should i believe him? i am hurt and pissed all at once. i have thought about pretending to be someone else but i am nervous he;ll find out and it will make things worse. any ideas or advice?

alot of you say to have him take it down and he told me to delete it and that he doesnt know what the password is. i just sent the password to his email (pretended like i forgot password and had it sent to email.) he is also in a place on missions where he doesnt get to use his computer and he or whoever it is hasnt logged on there since 5/20.

Answer 1

Set up another yahoo email,make another page,request to be his friend or send him a message and flirt etc....catch him!

Answer 2

1st give him the benefit of the doubt... We are all Innocent until proven guilty. Maybe he did not do it. I would simply say to him, I could not delete it bc I can not get the pass word, and so it is still there. Wait a few days, set up a bum email acct. then send him a message. Kind of be flirty. My friend took a magazine with pics of another friend, that her bf did not know and posted them as the person she was suppose to be that was contacting the bf. He responded, and she caught him.
all I can say is check it out. Good Luck... If you want help, recruit a few people. I have a my space page, and I have always been open, Hubby has pw as well. I have always been open, so I would say at least hear him out and give him the benefit until shown otherwise. You never know maybe he is telling he truth. If you go off half ******, you may do something you would regret, which is why I say get proof. You do not want to accuse without knowing. If you test him by sending him an anonymous note from an account that you have made up,
and he responds, you will then have grounds to accuse him.
Not to mention you will know you are in the right. You also may still not get the answers you want, if he indeed did not set the account up. ask him something some of his buddies would not know, like where he went to school, a parent's 1st name, how many siblings he has, or something like that.
I wish you all the luck...

Answer 3

It does sound fishy. However, he is overseas. A lot can happen when his buddies play pranks. Give him the benefit of the doubt. My daughter did something similar to my son's myspace page and I was furious when I saw it. Don't try to pretend to be someone else. It could backfire big time - what if someone is pretending to be him and tries to connect with you? A comedy of errors - I think not.
Sure, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt on this one. But I'd stress to him that you won't be fooled twice if in fact, he is using the Internet to troll for women, he should start lining up his divorce lawyer now.

Answer 4

Do what I did....
create a page with another name. Get your email at a public email site under the same name.....
then be someone else. You'll be able to tell if it is a friend of his or if it is him. Continue to send him email or however you normally keep in contact but never slip in conversation. Don't bring anyting up (if you find anything out) until you are absolutely sure you can face the consequences. It will be much easier for you because you are apart....
when I did it we lived in the same house.
Also..... remember to go into your browser history and delete any pages related to his web page or you alias pages.
Remember.... don't look for something or ask any questions if you really don't want to hear the answers.

GOD LUCK

Added... I do use my gut instict but I can not live my life on assumptions ..... I need to know for sure before I make a move I may regret.

Answer 5

Right now the most important thing is him coming home safe. I'd be willing to bet if that was his actual page, he will not be using it anymore. If it wasn't, nothing he can say or do is going to comfort you, or make you sure. My husband did his tour overseas, and is home with me now all safe and sound. It was a horrible time for us. I hardly ever heard from him, and was very worried alot of the time. He worked over there alot, and when he got off work he was either trying to find food, or trying to find a bed. All the men there talked about either the job, or sex all the time. I was here, alone, worried, angry sometimes, and completely in love with this soldier of mine. I prayed alot. He reassured me of his love for me every time we talked. I missed him like crazy. But even though I am sure I shed enough tears to flood the world, and there were times I was so afraid by something I heard or saw, I actually became physically sick, all the pain and agony went away when I saw him again. Right now just pray for him, and love him. Get him home, and then you can iron out problems.

Answer 6

make him give you his password the second you ask or he has something to hide but he could have already deleted all his messages since u confonted him i wouldnt beleive that for one ****** second im sorry they say all men are dogs but then how come none of them no how to be loyal and make things worse u didnt do anything wrong he did he should be worried not u and yea make another acount put a fake sexy picture of an atheletic girl and start talking to him then tell him u want to meet him somewhere after talking to him for a week or to then if he meets u meet him with divorce papers u dont deserve that **** and i think cheating is the only thing someone should get divorced for or u could put cameras in his car or hire a private investigater to follow him dont play dumn and forget about it because u no u cant sleep at night go find out use his money to do it **** that

Answer 7

Pretending to be someone else and contacting him is the smartest way to go. Just make sure you know what you are ding and do not make any mistakes. Also don't be too obvious or he will figure out it is you. And if this is just a joke that one of his buddies pulled on him, I would think he would have the page taken down.

Answer 8

You are right for feeling the way you do. I would feel the same way. I don't think he's telling the truth but I could be wrong. He's your husband for a reason so I would just take his word unless you get hard evidence. It's up to you if you want to pretend to be another person. I think its his page and he didn't want you on myspace because thought you might see his.

Answer 9

Seems fishy to me too. I would definitely pretend to be somebody else. Talk to him for a while until you're 100% sure that his "buddies" didn't make it. Maybe even try to set up a meeting once he gets home (if you can wait that long). I really hope its just his friends. I actually met my husband on myspace (lame I know...) so I know what can come from it all...

Answer 10

What else do you expect him to say? Of course he is going to deny it. Pretending to be another person at this point will not work. He would only assume it is you or a person you put up to it. I know you want us to say believe him but it sounds more than fishy. I'm sorry because I know how that feels, actually we probably all do to some degree.

Answer 11

Document all of this, you may need it someday in court. Your husband is lying, my ex did the same thing with an *American Singles* acct. What you can do is get another MySpace page set up, post his pic and yours letting all those beautiful athletic women know he is married. Contact all of his contacts and let him know who you are and that he's lying to them.

You're his wife, you have every right to be pissed and to take action on this matter. If you decide to keep the creep, check out this link. And I third the "Make him pay site."

http://www.womansavers.com/Surviving-Infidelity.asp