My hubby and i could not agree on wheather or not to have our son circumsized.He said yes because he was circumsized. I said No its genital mutilation and unessary!So i lied and said i got our son was circumsized when he was not.Is this a big deal?
2007-06-07 18:00:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Son is now 3 yrs old so i dont think it matter know anyway
2007-06-07 18:09:01 · update #1
As a woman I can understand you not wanting to hurt your son. However, in the long run circumscision is unnecessary but as a man and as he grows up it is healthier as far as cleanliness and other infections to be circumsized. Sexually it will also be better for him. I think you should tell the truth to him and decide together what should happen next. I don't look at you as being deceitful I look at you as being a concerned mom for her son. Everyone lies from time to time so remember there are no saints on this board as much as they'd like you to believe.
2007-06-11 04:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by Angelina N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....it might be a big deal. After all....once he sees the boy he will know he is not circumsized....and that you lied. This is way beyond a white lie. I could sure see a guy making a big deal about this. Not so much about the circumsized part, but more you feeling the need to lie.
2007-06-07 18:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I think anything involving a child is something that both parents need to agree upon. You need to tell him what you have done. Circumcision, while seen today as not a mandatory procedure, can help with cleanliness and prevent infection. If you decide not to have the procedure done, I would speak to a doctor about what you can do to teach your son to keep clean. Keep in mind that many boys are circumcised and there may come a day when your son asks you why he looks different. Be prepared to answer. But, overall, this is not an ok white lie.
2007-06-07 18:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by wenchiepirategirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not genital mutilation; it removes some folds of the skin that can cause health complications in the future. If it's not too late, I say you should take your son back and have him circumsized, simply because that's the healthy decision to make.
2007-06-07 18:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by Remi Hime 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is not a little white lie, it is something your husband has strong feelings about, may even be religious reasons--you did not say. This issue is going to create a major damaging issue of trust in your relationship. Nothing you are going to be able to say is going to lighten the damage done.
You must be aware of the fact that most none circumcised young boys will have infections from time to time and some can become very serious. With the continued problems of drug resistant staf and E. coli infections I personally do not understand why anyone would not have the procedure done.
What is done can not be undone, once the words leave your lips they can not be recalled.
2007-06-07 18:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The circumcision is not a big issue here. The fact that you lied to your husband is. You need to have a little faith in your husband when he tells you what he wants to do for the son. I don't seriously think he can remember feeling any pain as a baby when he was circumcized. Why don't you ask your doctor what the benefits are for the baby one way or the other.
2007-06-07 18:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a little white lie this is a 'james and the giant peach'
kind of lie... What the hell were you thinking? You should have said no and stuck by you guns. IS your husband away or something cuz you do know he will eventually notice. Guys pee together all the time in public, did you not foresee your husband seeing your sons foreskin?
You have to come clean this second and apologize about the lie and hope your hubby forgives you!
2007-06-07 18:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kathrine B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't you think that you will get caught when he changes a diaper or something? You WILL NOT be able to hide this forever. It will actually be healthier for your son if he is circumsized...he will lead a far more normal sex life in the future...he will be less prone to infection and disease. I think you should do a little research and keep your mind open.
2007-06-07 18:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello! not a "little white lie" you don't think he will notice at bath time or diaper change time?
Circumcising is something you both have to agree on.
Do keep in mind the sooner you do it the better because your child will not remember it as long as it is done ASAP, and also it is much more sanitary both for himself and future wife.
Come clean, he is your husband and he's going to notice that your son has a foreskin!
2007-06-07 18:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, this begs the question "can't your husband see for himself?"
It is a big deal to lie to your spouse. You did not have to get your son circumcized, but if you could not agree on it with your husband, it's better to just straight up tell him no rather than lie to him. Lying is one of the worst things you can do to anyone, especially someone you love.
That said, as the boy's mom, you should have more say in the decision, which is why it's OK to stand up to hubby and just say no.
2007-06-07 18:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by delia 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋