How can I let my married boss know I am interested in him but do it discreetly?

Question

Please dont lecture on the married part. I think he is interested but do not know for sure.

Answer 1

Before you actually do anything, maybe you should do a little research first.

here is a message board for women who are in affairs - you can post there and they can give you tip and you can read their stories. http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlmyaffair

here is a message board for women who have been betrayed by their husbands. you can read their stories about the hurt wives, confusion, broken homes and displaced children. http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rladultery

here is a message board about the women who were in affairs and are so hurt and disillusioned about their so called relationship with the married man and how they can't get past their shame and actions. Some even lost homes, children and jobs. http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlending

Visit these sites before you decide to make a life altering decision. If you still are determined - good luck. Just invite him to lunch and see what happens.

Answer 2

When you have a decision to make you have to consider the consequences of your choices. You should ask yourself what you want. Do you want to be only a mistress? Do you want to keep your job? Your crush on him will pass eventually. But having an affair is very risky. For your own sake, try to look somewhere else. If you engage in a sexual relationship with him, you'll put yourself in a vurnerable position. Also, put yourslef in the wife's shoes... how would you feel?
Save yourself the drama, humiliation, loss of job and remorse.
You will feel a better person when you let this one go. It's hard but you can do it. Have a lot of dignity. Good Luck!

Answer 3

You should not jepordize your job by sleeping with the boss You will lose the respect of your coworkers Because no matter how discrete you are some one always finds out Why would you want to deliberatly ruin some one elses happiness for your cheap thrill Stop being so selfish and find a single guy there are alot out there

Answer 4

Ya thats smart, have an affair with your boss, not just your boss your married boss.........Get a new job and a life.
Dont do it hun, your the one who is going to loose out in the long run.

Answer 5

Dont. You can compromise your job and more importantly yourself. I doubt that your self esteem is so low that you are seeking another woman's husband. You probably have just let situations and circumstances compile and take control. Go back to God. Let him find you a mate. Please think carefully about that decision before you make it. I will pray for your wisdom and that you may see through the situation and surmount it. If you need to talk, write back!! Hope I helped.

Answer 6

You think about the marriage and family you would be destroying if you tried anything. Then you think about why your self esteem is so low that you have to go for a married man.

Answer 7

You are a complete and total homewrecker and just remember everything you do good or bad comes back to you! Find someone single don't pick someone else's man!!!!!!

Answer 8

You will be committing adultery. Adultery is a sin with dire consequences. You have free will to commit adultery, but you can not decide the consequences for it and you will pay them. You are walking on very dangerous ground. Jealous wives can be lethal.
Look for someone single, you will save yourself a lot of problems.

Does his wife and him have children? If so, you are planning in your very selfish evil way to ruin a family. Even if he doesn't have children. You should be ashamed of yourself.

Answer 9

Girl, you are asking a hair-brained question and you don't want a lecture? Get bent. I am sorry. But I have no respect for home-wrecking wenches like you.

Answer 10

Why not just tell him you want to phuque him? Since you've got no scruples and don't believe he does either, what have you got to lose by being blunt? Birds of a feather and all that...

Bad karma...hope you're prepared!