She is my ex-girlfriend, and now we are close, platonic friends. (Yes, that is possible.) She just told me that she has been seeing a married man for 3 months, and his wife just found out. Married man is divorcing his wife, but she is fighting it. My friend did this once before, while she was still married to her first husband. When both relationships fell apart she became suicidal. I hate to see her make the same mistake twice, but she is an adult and her decisions belong to her. Is there anything else I can do besides wish her luck and tell her that if she ever needs me I will be there for her?
2007-06-07 18:18:13 · 12 answers · asked by idahoturkey 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's a big girl who likes playing with fire. I would do just as you said--wish her luck and be there when it all blows up. Otherwise, stay out of it.
2007-06-07 18:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by wildatheart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not right. The fact she does this while she is still married shows that she is not ready or never will be to be with just you and be touched only by you, except for a hug/back pat/cheek kiss, those are Ok. The fact that she dresses that way in front of other males shows that she still needs sexual attention from other men and, most likely, to raise her low self esteem because you are not enough for her. She needs all the males she passes to grope her. I would suggest leave and find someone who you are fulfilling to and shame on her for being disrespectful.
2016-05-19 21:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make your objections clear to your friend, but I would stay out of what happens between the man and his wife. You do have an obligation to help your friend out, but the others are strangers, and sometimes it's just best to stay out of other people's affairs, literally.
2007-06-07 18:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by Rach 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She evidently is very insecure about herself. Ask her how she would feel if her husband did that to her. She needs to realize that there are consequences for every action in life. Tell her to think about this. What he will do with her, he will do to her. In other words, if he will cheat with her, then he will cheat on her. Next time it might be her on the raw end of that situation.
2007-06-07 18:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only give her your point of view, she will do what she wants to do even when it brings bad consequences. You can continue being her friend and listen to her but you can't make her do what she doesn't want to do.
2007-06-07 18:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suicidal more than once?
she's very unstable
scary even
yes I guess be there for her, what other option do you have?
I can't imagine how you would try to butt in....
2007-06-07 18:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there nothing you can do but be there for her, when things
go wrong and they will , but you sound like a good friend
and that what she will need. but you cant make any one
do what is right for them they have to want to do the
right thing.
2007-06-07 18:33:38 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself "she is an adult and her decisions belong to her".
2007-06-07 18:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. You don't want to lose a friend.
2007-06-07 20:49:15 · answer #9 · answered by mishka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is any thing that you can do right now but sit and wait it out. Be there for her.
2007-06-07 18:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by Rochelle N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋