what would you do n think, if he made you feel like he was discussed by you? and when you told him you were hurt by him words if he ignored you and responded by saying "so" or "truth hurts. " I've left him alone and haven't talked to each other for 5 days now? how long do I wait
2007-06-07 18:02:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i tried talking to him when he said all this and then some, but he kept quite or said over n over truth hurts. so after trying several times i left him alone.
2007-06-07 18:30:02 · update #1
I'm not sure I would have left him alone if he said something like that to me. If he's so unhappy we have limited options but if he isn't willing to get some help or at least attempt to work on the relationship then he can go find someone else he'd rather spend his time with.
2007-06-07 18:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I am surprised you are still living in the same house with him. You have every right to be hurt by what he has said. In fact, I can't imagine what kind of person would not be hurt by his comments. I suspect that you suffer from low self esteem. If you had a healthy self esteem than you would probably have left this jerk long ago. He has no right to speak to you in that manner. This is emotional abuse. If he is not attracted to you, there are much kinder ways for him to express his feelings. Don't bother telling him how much his words have hurt you anymore. He obviously does not care. Leave this jerk and work on your self esteem before getting into another relationship. You deserve better!!
2007-06-08 11:37:53 · answer #2 · answered by Sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to wait long. I think that whatever it is that's coming between you ought to be resolved ASAP. Your spouse is just probably trying to get the easy way out. Why in heaven's name did you get married in the first place? If there isn't anyway for you to sit like the mature adults that you are and discuss the issues, get someone to mediate.
2007-06-08 01:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by Micklye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sillybee, I dont know how to tell you this but... the man is basically telling you that he doesnt want you.
You need to think about what is motivating him to say things that are so hurtful and to say them in such a crude manner. A lot of time, the intention is more important than the actions themselves. If he is saying these things to hurt you and to drive you away, KICK HIM TO THE CURVE! Divorce him or seek marriage counseling immediately (if you think the marriage is worth salvaging).
Remember one thing though, no one can love you like you. So if he is determined to put you down in that manner, do not allow yourself to be as down as he wants you to be.
2007-06-08 01:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait any longer, i'd just ask him straight out, why is he with you if he doesnt want to kiss you or isnt attracted to you? The first responses he gave you were so rude and inconsiderate, you might like to think about why you are with him? Good Luck
2007-06-08 01:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a salvageable relationship, or if you want to keep it together, go to him now and find out why he feels this way and if there's something you can do about it.
If you don't care, then just ditch him now. What he's said and done is really mean.
2007-06-08 01:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by delia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness! Why did you get married? I would consider counseling or even divorce...it is obvious that this marriage is heading down a imminent path of destruction. I'm sorry to hear that he said that. What a jerk!
2007-06-08 01:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by wenchiepirategirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell he/her that you don't have time for time because their are plenty of other people in this world that thinks you are pretty/handsome and listen noone is worth your tears and the one that is won't make you cry . either he is having an affair or doesn't want you anymore either way you would be better off with out him/her . because noone should make you feel bad about your self. love yourself and who you are
2007-06-08 01:09:02 · answer #8 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has already found someone that he is attracted to and is trying to get you to leave him. I know that sounds harsh and I hope it isn't true, but I speak from experience. Good luck to you.
2007-06-08 01:08:58 · answer #9 · answered by Beckers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is disgusting! Who does he think he is hurting you like this? You are his wife and he doesn't deserve you. I would consider leaving him for your sanity sake cos it sounds like he's into emotional torture and if continued he will do nothing but drag you down!
2007-06-08 01:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋