Marriage & Divorce - 7 June 2007

I need some advice.... Ive been married for 5 months now to the love of my life but there are some issues that we have been working on. when i met him i thought things were perfect as it turns out though he was "emotionally cheating" on me with a good girl friend of his after about 5 months of my suspicons he came clean about it and how terrible he felt he blamed the straying heart on the fact that he had been gong through alot and drinking heavily and that had clouded his better judgment it was hard but i stayed in order to help me get past it and to better our relationship i made a promise to him and he made one to me i would stop bringing up the past as it was bad for the present and he would seize all contact with this woman by phone email etc... things were going great for the past few months and even though he is currently deployed our relationship was strong however last night he said that he has talked to her apparently she left him a voicemail regarding his car title and that she had it and he called her back to make arrangments to have it mailed to our house. but in doing so he broke a promise to me and he opened up that whole messy can of worms again we have been working out my trust issues with him and i just feel like this is a huge set back and im confronted with the fact that all our progress is gone and weve got to start over again i guess the question to myself is should i stay or should i go i love him with all that i have and dont want to lose him but if i dont will he see that as weakness on my part or perhaps the right to break promises to me whenever he so chooses??? advice????


confused.

2007-06-07 03:51:16 · 14 answers · asked by sweet_sour6202 2

I believe that if a man loves a woman he'll at least try and work to provide for her as its written in the Bible. is this right. I'm confused because i'm suddenly attracted to this guy at the gym. i haven't done anything about it, but i feel my husband is driving me away. Imagine i leave for work in the morning and i leave him in bed and i still have to come and cook supper for him whilst he spends his whole time doing nothing. is this fair. We've been married for a year and 6 months. He's 36 and i'm 29. Please help me.

2007-06-07 03:35:04 · 34 answers · asked by Smurffet 1

On my way to work this morning I heard a song that said " We promise to love for forever, but then we say maybe forever is too long! Why are we breaking our promises?" That made me think about my own relationship, how sometimes, one thinks, life would be so much easier if we were alone. But after a long thought, I think I'd rather go back to the mentality I use to have that walking away, when things get tough, is not an option.That to make love work, one has to work on it. I'd like for you guys to share with me your opinions or experiences about this. I think that in this day an age, we really should be second guessing why we give up so easily.

Thanks in advance.

2007-06-07 03:34:36 · 11 answers · asked by Chrystal 7

I am messed up and in love. Its not because he is the best guy for me, but it is because he pleases me sexually in every way.
(I feel like a guy)
He does nothing right and everything wrong and I would do anything for him just because he's sexy. I mean I have made a total mess of my life.
Now I am considering being with him for good but that is going to also be complicated because he is not a citizen here and I am not one from where he is from. The immigration laws in both countries are so tight that you can't just get married anymore. I don't know if I can be without him that much longer. I have been with him for 2.5 years. I want to spend my life with him because I genuinly like this man. I don't know what to do. I don't think that you should have to jump through hoops in order to be married or in a relationship with someone. I have children here in the united states and I don't want to leave them but they don't live with me and I don't have anything left.

2007-06-07 03:33:31 · 15 answers · asked by FawneMine 3

I been married for five years now and my husband is abusvie to me we have no kid but he wants some one day he like to hit on me sometimes he thanks he is god and women need to go to hell i fell to we need help with are marriage I feel sad day by day my friend don't like him they don't want to come around I love him alot but I want my marriage better what can i do

2007-06-07 03:22:58 · 27 answers · asked by strockmaggie 1

Married women can have fun too. Dancing with guys, talking with them, but letting them know your married. Is this wrong or is an all girls weekend shopping and getting your nails done?

2007-06-07 03:08:51 · 28 answers · asked by Maria 5

I thought thats all i have to worry about. Well, finally we hit it once last month when he had an erection! But now while lookng thru his emails, i found out he's joined this website for hot singles and read his profile, but he has not subscribed to it permanently, cause he will be billed monthly for that. god....i couldnt believe it, althou in websites like these do men really say the truth? or do they invent stuffs? Like he said he is heterosexual, and goes for swings,voyeurism, almost everything, you name it.... I am a good wife and and i can bad if i want to but because i love him so much, i feel so bad and its breaking my heart!!! Is there something wrong with him, i need some medical advise. He loves watching playboy tv and i also enjoy watching it with him, althou it doesnt make him horny. Everytime he comes home from work, i stare at him and ask myself was this d man i married? He's 68 and seems he wants more action!! there are more secrets and this space is not enough. HELP!

2007-06-07 03:00:30 · 10 answers · asked by eigger57 1

A mutual friend of ours that I told I have a crush on has grown and I can not seem to get my mind off of him. I don't want to leave my husband, but I don't know what to do. My husband told me whatever I decide he will stand by my side and that he is there for me. I have the best husband in the world, but I can not seem to control how I feel, please help.

2007-06-07 02:52:39 · 43 answers · asked by mom2abigsis 2

2007-06-07 02:52:30 · 15 answers · asked by love and peace 1

I only ask this because it goes along the lines of my previous question. I recently married a guy from India, I'm from the US, born and bred. I've got many well meaning people telling me how to treat him; and lay the seeds for a good marriage 20yrs down the line. Then I ask him if that's what he needs, and he tells me that I'm doing fine, and that if he needs something from me, he'll let me know. Then when I tell others, they come back with...welll, that's what he'll say, but he doesn't mean it. I'd like to think my man is being as honest w/me as possible. I've told him I only respond to directness, and he's reciprocating; but others want me to be more romantic and thoughtful(I will, just not yet...I think). Then they come at me and tell me that they're telling me what Indian guys expect and that they won't tell u these things because they expect their wives to know their needs. We're ok w/sit. but I don't know how to shut others up. They can see I'm in love, y do I need to show it?

2007-06-07 02:49:24 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I found out my husband is emailing other women on the net. He says that its just chatting its no big deal, that he just misses stimulating conversation. But its all women and some of the emails are things you should only say to your spouse. Is this really consider cheating or should I not make a big deal about it?

2007-06-07 02:43:44 · 32 answers · asked by watress1972 1

Hi everyone, in a nutshell I have 2 kids, son is 7, daughter is 4 (turning 5 in July). I'm second guessing myself putting my daughter in summer camp b/c its from 8-4:30. It's a really good camp but I'm thinking now she might be too young to stay so long. She would normally get out at 3:30 but since her older sibling is there they allow them to stay that extra hour. She hasn't been in school yet so I just wanted her to socialize a bit before entering kindergarten. I also didn't want her spending those nice summer days cooped up in her grandmas house while I work full time and wanted her to have fun with other kids her age. Its just the time factor, i'm wondering if its too long a day for a little girl who's used to being "spoiled":-) at grandmas or home 24/7? Thanks to all of you who took time to read my long ramble.

2007-06-07 02:42:39 · 21 answers · asked by Angie 1

be honest are there times when you wish you where still single??

2007-06-07 02:37:35 · 52 answers · asked by jackmeeko 2

I recently discovered that my husband, whom I have been married to for a long time, is watching and ordering porn on his computer. I did some research and discovered he has also been chatting with other girls online. I know our sex life has not been great lately, either. I know he is playing with himself when he thinks I'm asleep or gone. He is also lying about his activities when he stays up later than me. I am really worried that this can lead to something more that can end our marriage. Should I be concerned? How do I tell him without accusing him of cheating?

2007-06-07 02:21:12 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

well check this, my uncle has been married 4 17yrs, and his wife is a crazy b i t c h! she's always fighting with him, argueing, nagging, and jealous as hell. he's 42yrs old. he called me today upset and crying telling me that he is fed up and that he was dating another woman for about a month. the other woman is married. my uncle has a daughter that is 16yrz old. his daughter does not respect him at all cuz her mom brainwashes her saying that my uncle is no good. my uncle wants to leave his wife cuz he's fed up. the relationship with that other woman is over. the woman told him that she couldn't deal with him being married. my uncle asked me 4 advise. and i really don't want to get into it, but when i heard his tone of voice i felt real bad. i was brought up that infidelity is a sin and it is sumthing that shouldn't be done. like i said he's 42yrz i'm only 24. what can i tell him???

2007-06-07 02:19:46 · 12 answers · asked by oh_yeah_cinco_de_mayo 2

2007-06-07 02:17:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Jerry used to live in Poole, Dorset before moving with his pal Sonny (Sunjit) to Fort Wayne, Indianna in 1996. His ex wife and two kids, now in their 20's lived in Poole, they might still be there? I need to get hold of Jerry so he can be there when we scatter my husband Chic's ashes in Scotland. Anyone help? I'm getting desperate!!!

2007-06-07 02:17:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has been internet gambling and hiding it for 6 months. I found out without him even telling me. He lied to me when I asked him what he was doing so long on the computer. Now, he has a bunch of bills to pay because of it and says he will work two jobs to pay them off. I am mad and upset with him. I have been married 13 years and known him for 20, and I never thought he would do anything like this-

2007-06-07 02:16:53 · 9 answers · asked by sara l 1

Right my ex is pregnant by a bloke she has known for 5months. We split after 8years because I stupidly cheated but I had forgiven her for the same in the past. She moves out in her new place this weekend & has told him she doesnt want him living with her. She knows I still love her & has said she still loves me.But am I just being played as a fool, is my love for her making me to be used? x

2007-06-07 02:13:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Did you know that it is more common for men to be physically abused by their wives, than it is for wives to be physically abused by their husbands?

2007-06-07 02:05:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Marrying a man with unsteady job, What I mean is that he might become unemployed within 1-3 yrs and may be its hard for him to find a job again so easily. would you be able to be a woman that can handle this.

He is a hard worker and hold a degree and not bum, but its difficult in some places to get employed very easily.

Would you be ashamed if he considers a profession less of him just to support his family.

Plz be honest you don't know me and I don't know you so plz be honest, this important.

2007-06-07 02:00:30 · 26 answers · asked by SomeGuy 1

I have been giving reply to lots of questions regarding marriage, divorce & other legal matters regarding families etc. It came in mind to write a book regarding such issues with respect to legal aspects covering Indian marriage & divorce issues in particular. My purpose of writing this book will be to bring more legal awareness amongst the Indian people with regard to such issues & they need not consult any Lawyer/Advocate for such matters. This book will be written in simple English & explaining all the legal provisions with regards to marriage & divorce of Indian people irrespective of their religion or caste whatever is. What is your opinion about this? What all you seem should be discussed in such a book concerning only the legal aspect or even social aspect? Anyone like to be a part of this book along with me or contribute in it? Please give your frank opinion & no jokes for this very serious issue concerning all of us & our families.

2007-06-07 01:53:57 · 18 answers · asked by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7

my uncles ex-girlfriend is about 22 and used to take me up to her house and do my hair and take me to town but they broke up last year and she only says hi and goodbye now! i really love her and miss her is there any way i can let her know? sometiems i brake down and cry! they where going out for 6 yrs! the have a child together is it something that i did wrong that makes her not want to talk to me? before she told me that she loved me as much as her child and i really miss her!

2007-06-07 01:44:36 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok theres this guy that has been doing drugs for a very long time.He keeps telling his family that he is going to quit but never does.he does things to hurt the ones that really loves him;Especially his wife I don't think that he's even aware that what he is doing is wrong & hurtfull to his family.What i need to know is how can I help his wife through all of this that is going on.She knows that he loves her dearly but when he does drugs they seem to take over his mind .Should she excuse his behavoir knowing that his brain is fried from the drugs that he has taken?She has tried everything in her power to help him to get some help but he refuses the help.Divorce in not in her plans.She sticks with him for better Or for worse and worse it is.Please help me to help her & her family.Thank you in advance Mrs johnson@n1

2007-06-07 01:42:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. She has always been a very insecure person and she has been hurt a lot in relationships and in the family. Her insecurities used to affect our relationhsip a little bit as far as jealousy, distrust. Now it's gotten much worse. My actions don't help because i've become resentful and cold at times. She refuses to see a therapist (saying she's tried and has never worked) and she is extremly reluctant to go to couple's counseling. The truth is that we love each other so much and we were so great together. I want to help her because i think she is suffering inside so much. She knows her issues and insecurities are a problem. Is there any other option for her to work through her problems without therapy? any suggestions....of course i would appreciate if no stupid posts but i can't prevent idiots from writing. thanks for the serious ones

2007-06-07 01:12:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-07 01:04:45 · 25 answers · asked by Elwood Blues 6

My wife`s younger sister, who is totally negative, a liar, deviant is jealous of my wife`s and I happy marriage of 40 years and twice she has come close to breaking us up.
What would you do in similar circumstances?

2007-06-07 00:58:24 · 29 answers · asked by Montgomery B 4

I have the urge sometimes to use certain terms when we are in bed together that I might not normally use, but I'm afraid my husband will think I'm a slut.

2007-06-07 00:49:52 · 12 answers · asked by dani 1

I happened to spy on and read my husbands emails and had not been a pleasant experience from the correspondences he has had with other women. I later used to delete these emails before he read them and now he changed his pass word. He has never written me an email after i confronted him but we do text each other. I miss the emails still but has stopped writing them

2007-06-07 00:19:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-07 00:13:01 · 1 answers · asked by Jessica 1