I found out my husband is emailing other women on the net. He says that its just chatting its no big deal, that he just misses stimulating conversation. But its all women and some of the emails are things you should only say to your spouse. Is this really consider cheating or should I not make a big deal about it?
2007-06-07 02:43:44 · 32 answers · asked by watress1972 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is a such thing as emotional cheating. Bad signs (red flags);
1. doesn't wannna share the amount of time hes been chatting with her, or doesn't ever share what they talk about. Too many secrets?
2. If they become friends it better be ok that you meet her (after all your friends are his friends, maybe not as close but..., and vice versa)
3. He should never share intimate details about your marriage, or they shouldn't talk about sex to the point that another friend couldn't sit in on the conversation.
4. She shouldn't be the first friend he contacts when the two of you are in disagreement or whatever. He should have other friends to vent to that he has known longer.
These are red flags only according to me.....heheheh
2007-06-07 02:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by marigold 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell your husband to grow up and quit acting like a little flirtatious teenager. If he wants stimulating conversation, he can email a man or go find a group of male friends to hang out with.
2007-06-07 03:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by TB28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is bored with you. If he needs to seek conversation elsewhere to feel liked or even loved you both have a problem. I suggest you sit down and ask him what those women have that she doesn't? And if you don't have what he needs you can do one of two things. First, you could try to become more naughty or sexy like them. Second, you could say you've had enough and want him to stop cheating on you! He is cheating on you trust me. Then again I thought of a third option. You can have your guy friends on the internet and talk dirty to them and make your hubby jealous!! So either way he cheats on you, you get even or adapt!
2007-06-07 02:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe the better question to ask is WHY he can't have these kinds of conversations with you? Why does he feel his only source for "stimulating" conversation is on the internet? YOU need to accept a certain amount of responsibility for this yourself! I have said it before and I will say it again.......there is a REASON why spouses seek conversation, affection, stimulation, and sometimes sexual gradification outside their marriage. And that's because they're not getting what they need. This doesn't make it right, but it doesn't make you 100% completely without fault either.
2007-06-07 02:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Try being the "Other Woman" that stimulates him on the net ..... maybe it is a fetish thing he has. Get online send him emails, chat with him tell him what you wanna do to him when you see him next ...... and follow through with them, get his mind off the other women! I leave my boyfriend emails and love messages so when he gets on at work he will see them, he is excited to get home to me everynight :)
Good Luck ....
2007-06-07 03:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not be too impressed. It may not be sexually cheating but I reckon if it is emotional it is worse. He should be telling you these things not some stranger on the internet. This could only be the start. Put a stop to it now and tell your man how it is making you feel. If he he disrespects that ...well then...you may have bigger problems. Lets hope its not to that stage.. Godd luck.
2007-06-07 02:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by DyShaNic 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are not the jealous type than please dont worry about it. But if you are you need to let your husband know it bothers or else it could get out of control. Its really not cheating, unless he is actually meeting them places and having physical contact. What ever you do, do not snoop and go through his stuff talk to him about it first clear the tension that may occur or may already be there.
2007-06-07 03:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can cause alot of problems in a realationship, belive I know. Is he hiding the emails and chats on line? I didnt so much mine it when my boyfriend wont hide it from me, I thought It might be something fun to do together, and it was . Baut he kept hiding it from me, so I installed on the computer e blaster to see what they where saying. If it is bothing you it will cause problems between the 2 of you.
2007-06-07 03:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by curlysue_70 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is emotional cheating. If you have a problem with it, tell him to stop or you and he can discuss divorce. That should be a stimulating enough conversation for him, yes?
2007-06-07 02:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is cheating! Now I am not a big bible preacher but it says that if one thinks about it in there mind than they have already cheated. and it sounds like to me he is crossing that boundary so yes he has cheated. You should not allow this type of behavior to happen you are better than that and deserve someone who will respect the way you feel and your beliefs
2007-06-07 02:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋