As many answers as I can please.?

Question

I am messed up and in love. Its not because he is the best guy for me, but it is because he pleases me sexually in every way.
(I feel like a guy)
He does nothing right and everything wrong and I would do anything for him just because he's sexy. I mean I have made a total mess of my life.
Now I am considering being with him for good but that is going to also be complicated because he is not a citizen here and I am not one from where he is from. The immigration laws in both countries are so tight that you can't just get married anymore. I don't know if I can be without him that much longer. I have been with him for 2.5 years. I want to spend my life with him because I genuinly like this man. I don't know what to do. I don't think that you should have to jump through hoops in order to be married or in a relationship with someone. I have children here in the united states and I don't want to leave them but they don't live with me and I don't have anything left.

I live in a state where the unemployment rate is 7.5 percent. I am without a job. I have been looking. I went to get my CDL and then I found out I am diabetic. *sigh* so I can't drive truck (its a law). So I really have nothing when I say I have nothing I mean that.

I can't even support myself.

Answer 1

Don't let your crotch rule over you. Takes much more than great sex to make a marriage work. If you think you life is a mess now, wait until you marry this guy

Answer 2

Sounds like you are just in a bad situation and need a way out of the area in which you live, but I don't think it is a good idea to think of spending your life with this man. Not because of his nationality but because you said he does nothing right and everything wrong. Face it...good sex isn't everything, besides you can satisfy yourself and I am sure you can find another man to do the same. If your new partner isn't as good as this guy give him some instruction as to what you like. Maybe you can relocate with a relative that would be ready to help you out with your financial situation until you can get on your feet again. Ha! Ha! Get off your back and on your feet girl. Good luck in all you do!

Answer 3

I really don't know what to say maybe move to a state in the US where you can start fresh and get on your feet I don't know a whole lot about the situation but can't you guys get married here or can't he get a visa or green card to stay in the states or if you guys get married won't he become a US Citizen. Anyways once you get on your feet you an get your kids and the tow of you can raise them and be a happy family. But what ever it is you decide to do quit soaking in your own self pity you need to make the most of your situation I suggest you put forth some effort if you really want things to get better yo have to start somewhere

Answer 4

For one you say you genuinely like this man, not love, but like and your going to move across the world to be with someone that you just like and think is sexy? then you have kids but they dont live with you? and you have no job or skill and your going to go to another country where you dont know the language or culture, leave your children here, I think you need to go to counseling desperately!! You need to work on yourself go get some type of schooling, work on getting a job, then work on getting your kids back if possible, and get your life on track...
and if that guy is still around then work on that.. otherwise you are making an even bigger mistake moving to another country because you are not in right frame of mind to make so a huge decision, your reasoning isnt even logical sorry... good luck

Answer 5

First of all.... the sex appeal that you like right now will be gone in a few years. FACT. Then what do you have? Nothing.

You are better off getting yourself together, getting a job, and finding a relationship with someone that is actually based on the things that matter, like friendship, trust, commitment, support, etc.

Answer 6

HUH there is NO LOVE just the LUST and you have nothing but the kids and you say you have nothing well you got the kids and let me tell you that is life even if they don't live with you. You can work on yourself to help get the kids back!!!!!!!! the lust will come later and the love if you put your self back together again . What are you running from? and why leave the kids even if they don't live with u . can you not work on that? work on yourself!!! most men don't want a woman that don't even have their own kids hows them how slack she really is. how much she don't even care about them . PULL ur self together and think about what should come first in life

Answer 7

What you have is lust, don't say it's love, it's not. Love has to be reciprocated and it isn't happening. As you say, he does everything wrong.

One question to ask yourself, how long do you think this is going to last? Before he shares his sex appeal with someone else? Before he loses his sex appeal to you?

And, why are you settling for half a relationship when you can have an entire relationship? Yes, there are very good men out there who can do everything right and be sexy as well. But you will never ever find one like that as long as you are stuck where you are.

Answer 8

If you want to be with him, marry him or have him in the states with you on a fiance visa. Check out the link below. If you need employment, I suggest that you might have to move. And why get your CDL? I am sorry, but I run a trucking company out of Canada, our head office is based in the US, they have not turned down one driver with diabetes. I wish you the best.

Answer 9

Firstly, sex is no reason to marry even if you do need financial support and help. Doesn't sound at all realistic. So, who's going to pay for all the financial finagling you are going to have to do to be together? Is he moving in with you (probably) or are you going to move to be with him? How the heck are you two going to coordinate such an effort and then bank-roll it? I hate to sound degrading, but even if you have children, you have to get out, sign-up for financial assistance and take some college classes. You do not sound like you have any faith or ambition at all.

Answer 10

Sounds like you've made some bad decisions in your life. Is it worth leaving your children just for a man who satisfies you in bed? I don't think so. Sex is not the only thing in a relationship.