I thought thats all i have to worry about. Well, finally we hit it once last month when he had an erection! But now while lookng thru his emails, i found out he's joined this website for hot singles and read his profile, but he has not subscribed to it permanently, cause he will be billed monthly for that. god....i couldnt believe it, althou in websites like these do men really say the truth? or do they invent stuffs? Like he said he is heterosexual, and goes for swings,voyeurism, almost everything, you name it.... I am a good wife and and i can bad if i want to but because i love him so much, i feel so bad and its breaking my heart!!! Is there something wrong with him, i need some medical advise. He loves watching playboy tv and i also enjoy watching it with him, althou it doesnt make him horny. Everytime he comes home from work, i stare at him and ask myself was this d man i married? He's 68 and seems he wants more action!! there are more secrets and this space is not enough. HELP!
2007-06-07 03:00:30 · 10 answers · asked by eigger57 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 50, and we've been married more than a year. He doesnt make any moves anymore like he used to b4 we got married. Sometimes even if i make the move that i want to have sex, he wud turn away, cause he's tired and couldnt get a hard on. Did we lost the spark already? I have needs too and i just have to jack it off myself!!!Well I can be a w h o r e to him if thats what he wants, any wife wud do anything for her husband,just to satisfy him. I know i am still attractive and sexy and many men would want me but... i love him very much and i am willing to do anything to save this marriage. So far, i know that he's not cheating on me, i'm always on guard on that.
2007-06-07 03:43:49 · update #1
How long have you been married to him? How old are you? I take it that you have not been married long and that you want to have sex often but he does not because he cannot get it up, athough he wants to...you know they have treatments for that now? This wouldn't be my choice because of the vows of marriage, but if you are hard up for some action then find you a boy toy who can keep up with satisfying you and don't let him know about it...but I think there is a need for elaboration in order to really understand what you are asking
Okay now that you have added some additional details I will give my opinion...thumbs up or thumbs down, it is totally my opinion....your sex drive at this point is definitely stonger than his, although he obviously still has some sort of desire ofr sex he just can't seem to get it up...so you are 50...yeah guys younger and older are still going to want you we can establish that, but you want to save the marriage and get the intimacy going again...here are some suggestions...start acting slutty at home even if he is not interested (although I would find it hard to believe after a while)...j a c k yourself off in front of him while you guys are watching Playboy TV etc...make sounds and so forth...just start satisfying yourself as you please....walk around in slutty looking underwear etc....open yourself up sexually and open it up to the extreme...if he doesn't get in to you with all of that then start telling him how you are thinking about f***ing all of the time and with other people (guys and girls) surely this will work...he seems like he is into some dirty sex stuff so this should get him aroused...if not you might want to get very well practiced on the art of mastur bation
by the way I gathered that he is into some kinky stuff by reading your previous questions
2007-06-07 03:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by mlp7 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Share a long-term dream. This can be constant while everything else fluctuates. To explain what I mean - suppose you get married at 30. Then obviously you're both aligned - hopes, plans, aspirations etc. But what happens at 35? This alignment will not be there - your career may mean a move of house, or there could be children, or unemployment, or financial strain, or a bereavement or a million other things. And how about 40? Or 45? There will be misalignments all over the place - sometimes it will come back into alignment, other times not. When they're aligned, you're in love, when you're misaligned it's easy to run to the divorce courts. The long-term dream though - that's always there. Something to cling to. Not a very good example but think of marriage as being like walking a dog through the park. The dog will drift off left and right, but you will continue to walk on a straight path towards the exit.
2016-04-01 07:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going through your husband's email. It makes no difference if he's online looking. A lot of men do. Women do too. As long as he's not bringing it home or acting on it...
But to answer your question, yes, I think you made a mistake marrying this man. He obviously has interests that are deal breakers for you. You need to find a man who is less interested in exploring outside his marriage. They do exist.
In your next marriage, don't go snooping in your man's email. Everyone is entitled to some privacy - even when they're married.
2007-06-07 03:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by J F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Question for you. How old are you compared to your 68 year old man? He is on his last leg. My dad is 69 and has always had side action on my mom. I knew about it because he confessed it to me about four months ago. He loves my mom but he has other needs that a naughty younger girl can give him. I suggest if you want a lover that won't cheat you go and look for one. If not, just put up with it like my mom does.
2007-06-07 03:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read your other questions too. If I were to scream out loud to you to get out of this marriage, would you listen?
If you decide to stay get ready for a lot more heartache and sorrow.
You have settled for this over being alone? I'll chose being alone any day of the week over being in a marriage like this.
2007-06-07 03:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by seashell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's 68 !!! This sounds like a sitcom. To me it sounds like you both need to be a little more honest with each other. Express your wants, needs and desires. Make compromises, set limits, yet move forward.
2007-06-07 03:08:25 · answer #6 · answered by Ray2play 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like an old man who has a lover or addicted to his own porn stuff, why you two got married is beyond me, find a younger guy with some money and have fun, before its too late, get rid of this waste of a bed old fart.
2007-06-07 07:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by beachy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes 68 yrs old? with that much go go , tough decision ur to make id say dont watch them flicks u dont need them..people will invent anything...
2007-06-07 03:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get viagra, some candles, sexy nightie, abottle of wine......
2007-06-10 22:17:50 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling they can help you.
2007-06-07 03:20:10 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋