would anyone leave their husband if they found out he was hiding internet gambling?

Question

My husband has been internet gambling and hiding it for 6 months. I found out without him even telling me. He lied to me when I asked him what he was doing so long on the computer. Now, he has a bunch of bills to pay because of it and says he will work two jobs to pay them off. I am mad and upset with him. I have been married 13 years and known him for 20, and I never thought he would do anything like this-

Answer 1

Addictions are a terrible thing. More than likely he did not do this to hurt anyone and just got caught up in the whole thing. Now he is the one who is having to get another job and working to pay them off. Hopefully this will be a lesson for him. Also, he needs to get into some counseling to get the help he needs for recovery.
Good luck!

Answer 2

Very serious problem I agree.....I used to gamble 10yrs ago. The rush of the hit etc.....I lied to myself thinking if I only read more etc I could win. Once I took out 1000.00 and said that's it once it's gone I'm done and sure enough it was obvious how much I was really losing and the lie I was living.

I have been to a Casino once in 10 years for a buffet and $20 on slots with the wife. He needs help or needs to realize that 99.99999999999% of gamblers lose end of story.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Nobody is perfect, and you did take him for better or worse. We all make mistakes, but not all of us learn from them.
If he is willing to take on a second job to pay his debts so that the family unit doesn't suffer financially, get rid of the computer if he can't stop himself from doing it, and contact an organization such as Gambler's Anonymous to get counseling for his addiction, then it is worth it to forgive him and give him another chance. Let him redeem himself if he is able and willing. It would also probably be wise for you to be in charge of finances until he proves himself trustworthy again.
All of this needs to be done immediately. If he is unwilling to do these things, then you need to take a long hard look at the marriage and decide if it is worth putting up with to remain married to him. But, definitely give him a chance to make it right again. If he does, forgive and move on.

Answer 4

Gambling is a very seruous problem.....I kow first hand. In my opinion, a gambler will always be a gambler. One can only controle the amount of gambling but giving it up forever is VERY hard. If you desert him now then what does that say about you? Your marriage? It's not worth much when you up and leave when there is a crisis. You work through this together no matter how much you're in debt. The difficult times in life is when one's true charector comes out.....

Answer 5

Ok.
He made a mistake and got heavily involved in this, probably continuing to gamble in hopes of his luck changing and earning back some of the money he's now in debt for.
There's far worse crimes people do in marriage everyday, and if he says he is willing to stop the behavior, then he deserves one chance at that, doesn't he?
You need to take control of the computers. He may be addicted somewhat to this behavior, but more likely he's just gambling to try to dig himself out.
Don't let him continue to gamble more in an attempt to get out of debt. Control all computer use by him until the debt is paid off the old-fashioned way, by that second job that he's going to take on.
What I look for for someone to earn trust back: Deep remorse, lengthy apology, in-depth confession, and atonement.
Absolutely ALL of those elements must be present for you to trust him again.

Answer 6

He's willing to get help and work two jobs to pay off the debt...you owe it to him to stick it out.

Answer 7

He has a problem that is for sure can it be cured,??? If you want out of this marriage, then do it, there's nothing worse than being in debt.

Answer 8

i would get in contact with gamblers anonymous

Answer 9

No get him some help! it's not like he was cheating on you.