Marriage & Divorce - 31 May 2007

my girlfriend told me about her sister and her bro-in-law.her sister is cheating on her bil with another man,she feels shes in the middle of it all because her bil calls her and asks her where she is etc.

what should my girl friend do?
this is really stressing her out. :(
i told my gf this isnt her problem but she feels she needs to help somehow.plzzz give some good advice. :(

2007-05-31 10:12:04 · 22 answers · asked by forest lover 2

When your spouse cheated on you what do you think the reason was and can you let it go.

2007-05-31 10:11:16 · 11 answers · asked by sos 1

My husband was dating a lady before we got married. We of course ran into her at the mall, because she still lives here. She also has come in to eat at our restaurant once, maybe twice. I specifically asked him if they had slept together before me and he said NO. I didn't want to feel uncomfortable since she seems to have poped up a couple of times. The other night I asked him again, because we were just talking, and he slipped and said YES. I feel a little weird. I know it was before me, but I am so upset that he would lie to me. Should I be upset? Why would he tel me no years ago, and now I find out Yes? I feel Betrayed. Like the jokes on me. I know now that when he first introduced her to me (we ran into her at the mall) He knew it...She knew it...and I was the dumb@** that didn't!
Am I wrong?

2007-05-31 10:07:41 · 21 answers · asked by Kroeli 2

i made a dr appointment for me tomorrow to go to see about getting something to kill my sexual desires that i have about 1 time a week because my fiance that lives with me dont like to have sex but every great once in awhile and she only likes it stationary and wont try viberaters or anything else to spice it up i tried every thing i know to turn her on i always clean so that wont work i always do dishes i always do laundry and cook i always love and rub on her and tell her i love her but nothing works so what yalls advice on it and do you let or use toys to spice it up in the bedroom and when she does want it she only thinks you can have it at night that one day a mnth

2007-05-31 10:02:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

thre is a woman he had sex with this woman he and she both say the is nothing going on or its not what i think he gets mad when i bring up the subject my cousin has caught him more than once with her driving her truck i told him how i feel about this and he lies and i am making something out of nothing i want to leave him but i love him too much we have been married 7 years together 10 years have a 8 year old help me get strong

2007-05-31 10:00:10 · 17 answers · asked by tcrrrk 1

My husband and I just had a son he is 4 months old. All of the sudden my husband wants to buy a boat. Not a small boat at 30ft boat. He has never owned one before, never been interested in one before and has not the 1st clue on how to maintain a boat. Is he going through some mid-life thing? He is only 34! I don't want him to buy one, so I know it's going to turn into a fight. UGGG

2007-05-31 09:58:23 · 18 answers · asked by newmom4189 2

I see so many questions posted on here by people getting back together with their spouse or forgiving them for an affair (as I am one of them) and usually they state that in their question and are asking about a feeling or a thought...not about their marital status. But its like people look right past the question at hand and judge the whole situation not even knowing the whole story or the circumstances and start saying the cheater will always cheat, or the betrayed wasnt doing enough to keep the other happy. If they are asking whether to go or stay is one thing...yeah voice your opinion...but if it is something else why cant they just answer the question without being so negative about the whole relationship? It doesn't bother me so much, as I am happy with my decision...but I have a friend posting questions on here and she is more confused than ever. Ultimately if you havent been in the situation, you dont know what you would do, only what you think you would do.

2007-05-31 09:56:19 · 21 answers · asked by lil ol me 1

She has an ED. Each time I've told her she's beautiful, it's actually made things worse because she says she has to keep telling herself she's ugly then. I don't know how I can help her see herself differently.

2007-05-31 09:55:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband and I have had a lot of problems the last few months and so have been going to counseling every week to work thru things. During this time he confessed to cheating on me and just last night I revealed that I too had cheated on him. The last time I cheated was 8 months ago and since then I have recommitted myself to my home and family. I have vowed to never to that again, not just to him, but to myself as well. But now I feel like since I told him what I had done that he may go out and cheat again. We are trying to build the trust again, but I dont know how to do that very well. Should I just relax and realize that he prolly feels the same way I do as far as never letting it happen again? After all, he has told me time and time again that he wont cheat on me. I guess I still have my doubts, and I am confussed what to do. *Sigh* thanks for all input

2007-05-31 09:45:29 · 12 answers · asked by cat 2

Have you ever met anyone from online in person?
If your married, did you have an affair with them?

2007-05-31 09:43:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is a critical question, because definition of marriage is almost orthognal in east and west. For an Indian girl marriage happens only once in life, but thats not exactly true in US culture.

2007-05-31 09:41:43 · 25 answers · asked by rookie 1

I need to get out of my marriage. I am just to wore out. Everytime my husband tells me something small or big it is a lie and when ever I want to know the truth I have to do digging and find out for myself what has been going on. I cant just accept things as the truth that he tells me because even if I try something always happens to disprove it.

so here is my real question..

He is in the military and rank is E5 I have only been working part time and I have one child with him. Financially I am afraid I wont be able to pay debts we have incurred if we divorce...any suggestions?

2007-05-31 09:32:13 · 8 answers · asked by GIRL 2

its been one and half year i have been loving this lady .its because she has a beautiful heart.her caring,concern and loving nature towards me made me go mad about her.we belong to different religions,different nations.she cared for me when iam lonely and dying with the surgery i had.she bought me food.she cooked for me though her family hated me.she cared like my mom would have done for me.she avoided me.she kept away from me.iam mentally disturbed.i could not think she behave to me like that.i misunderstood her.i fought with her.i ran away from her but now i realize that i put her in deep trouble with her family.trying to talk to her. but could not get hold of her .please help me .i love her madly.i want to marry her.i want to be with her.please tell me what to do.......
iam desperate ..helpless...

2007-05-31 09:29:42 · 3 answers · asked by boss 1

He's coming back from a business trip he wasn't happy about going on, so I planned on making him a nice dinner and having some wine when he gets home.

What else could I get for him to have out when he gets home? I don't want to do flowers. Something sweet and thoughtful though.

2007-05-31 09:25:52 · 11 answers · asked by Dr25 3

And Im not talking about the kinda rape where she is getting beat up and then raped. Im talking about when he has intercourse for a long time and she begs him to stop but he does'nt, he just kisses her to make her lubricated and then keeps sexin her until she passes out and can barely walk from being to weak. Why would he want to torture her in this way?

2007-05-31 09:24:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

for or just to catch my attetion, i don't want to ask him. I wanted you ideas to tell me what I should do for him.

2007-05-31 09:21:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been with my partner for 14 years and i love him very much we have 2 beautiful children and i am happy with how things are he wants to get married and i don't i ant see what it will add to our relationship other than a bit of paper he disagrees he thinks it will make our relationship stronger!any ideas on this

2007-05-31 09:21:28 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2

I am married for 18 years. 6 years ago, he had a breakdown. It hasn't been the same since. We haven't had intimacy & closeness that we had. He was suicidal & I was scared of losing him. After the last time, I told him I did not know if I could handle it again emotionally. I think I must have build a mental wall against making myself vulnerable to the insane pain I felt going thru this with him.

It has just gotten worse. He is in counseling & was told he is healthy now. He literally goes to work, comes home, sits on the couch watching TV. We have 2 teenagers that ask me why he is this way. Weekends r the same unless he is golfing (his counselor told him its therapy for him & 2 do it as much as possible). We used to b very social & have lots of friends. He does not have the energy 4 that. I miss it alot. I miss my husband. He says he will never b the way he was b4. We are talking about separating. I miss the passion we once had but don't feel nething 4 the "new" lazy man. What 2 do?

2007-05-31 09:17:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

what do u do when u are married to a man u love but u disagree on a lot of issues concerning money eg u believe in investing on kids education and he justs wants a nice house in the village where u dont even stay

2007-05-31 09:10:09 · 8 answers · asked by Pearlie 1

I can't stand my in-laws!I have totally disconnected myself from them.The promblem is with my husband.If they say jump he says how high and I get pushed aside.Like for instense he knew he had to pick me up from work at 9:30 well,thanks to them it ended up being more like 10:30.I have to sit in an empty parking lot all by myself until he gets there.
This is not the first time that it has happened and it is due to him doing his mom's "honey do list".We don't live with them and they don't support us in any way.I am so pissed with everyone in that family that I just want to line them up and slap them one by one.I'm tired of being secound in line to mommy.I'm so fed up of the way she talks down to me and how myself or my children are never good enough for her.What do I do?
I know that a lot of you are going to say that my husband should stand up to them.He won't I've begged him to take up for me and our family and he won't.I'm just so upset with him right now.Please what should I do?

2007-05-31 09:08:52 · 16 answers · asked by what did you say 4

Sounds great, right? Every man's dream to have a threesome with two women, right? Well, what if this is simply a 'transition'. There's this woman who works in the same building as my wife. They've had lunch and 'talked' about things. This woman says she's interested in my wife, but if that means involving me, she's up for it. I think that's a danger sign. What if, in the midst of this 'affair', my wife decides the grass is...greener...on the other side. I don't mind competing with other guys, but to compete with the other half of the population too? It seems, first, that her wanting to be with this other woman is a bad sign, but maybe it IS just a 'swing thing' to her. Secondly, if I put my foot down and insist that we don't do this, will she go ahead and have the affair anyway? Seems I'm in an initially enviable position with very seriously danger in the long term. An affair is an affair whether I know about it or not.

2007-05-31 09:08:14 · 15 answers · asked by lrwilliams82 3

My husband has a step daughter by an ex- old lady who has four children by different men, all the kids are grown and know that my husband is not there biological father and has no children of his own. Two of the girls are the same age as me and have children and married one keeps calling my husband for money because she's on drugs and her husband is a bum
they can never keep a place they moved six times in two years.
And he really don't want to play dad any more with her but scared she'll do something stupid if he moves to fast.
this kid head is so screwed she believes that he want her to be a part of his life and we don't the husband don't even want her. And the mother really could care less cause that whole family is screwed

2007-05-31 08:48:53 · 16 answers · asked by charleene o 1

You ask questions but never take the advice cause you only wanna see what other people have to say about your situation.

2007-05-31 08:46:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-31 08:45:38 · 2 answers · asked by Derek D 1

2007-05-31 08:44:52 · 8 answers · asked by Ariadne on TAURUS 2

Right now while I'm typing I can hear girls going "OOOH YEAHHHH"

its hot. is this wrong? i feel perverted

2007-05-31 08:35:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been going through a bad time recently. He has a great new job, but it is a very stressful one. I am supportive of him, understand his frustrations with work etc. But he has put up this wall, rarely shows affection (hugs, kind words).Not only this, but the things he says to me are hateful and hurtful. He is acting so strange. Things got so bad that I tried to get his attention by taking the kids and staying in a hotel. I was desperate to do something to wake him up. He just says "If you want to leave, then go." No "let's work this out - what can I do". I feel I have to walk on eggshells to avoid an argument. When I do say something he says "don't question me". I think alot of his stress has to do with money, but I don't push him to make money.I can't get out of the marriage for reasons I can't explain. Anyone have advice about any strategies that may work with him. Talking it out is getting me no where. I do love him; but my heart is turning cold to him.

2007-05-31 08:23:32 · 36 answers · asked by casey308 2

My husband is very mean sometimes for some reason( sometimes there are no reason) I don't know when he is upset with something he tells me that I should be "greatful" and "thankful" of him whatever he has done for me( we have a nice house, car and all essential things for a goodlife) since I am not working and taking care of a baby at home( I am new to this country) whatever he said it hurts me so much the way he said. Is he being mean? because it made me feel like I am unemployed fpr now and he also said that I am dependent on him. It's still hurting. Is he being verbally abusive with me? Eventhough he seems to be a nice guy (except some issues we have). Please help me. Thanks

2007-05-31 08:23:30 · 9 answers · asked by hondolkk 1

i met a girl at work who was married, we messed around and she got pregnant. 7 months later she left her husband and moved in with me. we never got along, in fact it got to where we couldn't stand to look at her. i stayed with her so i could be with my kids. things got horrible. i told her it was over and she wouldn't have it. i ended up finding the love of my life and we have been married for 7 years and two of our own children. my other kids mother hates me so much she is doing everything she can to make my kids not love me. she talks bad about me to them, she won't let them call me. now she is making it impossible for me to see them this year, we live across the states from each other. i know there are a lot of dead beat dads, but i am not one of them. i pay my child support, i gave her a house and car, i have helped however i can, but when she is having a bad time, she tries to get revenge on me. all i want is to be a part of my boys life. there are court orders in pl

2007-05-31 08:20:07 · 13 answers · asked by had enough 1

After reading a question about separate bank accounts and one about divorce. I suddenly had an idea. Is it possible to have a divorce decree already premade before getting a divorce. Since right now we are happy. And divorce brings out the worse in people. Wouldnt it be easier to agree right now? And have all the guidelines already written down. Then, if we ever do get a divorce we will not have to waste money on lawyers. Is this what a prenup is?

2007-05-31 08:16:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous