Should an Indian girl marry a US boy ?

Question

This is a critical question, because definition of marriage is almost orthognal in east and west. For an Indian girl marriage happens only once in life, but thats not exactly true in US culture.

Answer 1

2007 the year when globalization has taken over the economy & financial situation of all countries close to each other has not left the educational, social & cultural activities untouched, intermingling of people around the world, exchanging cultural activities, social gatherings, & educational system now being followed by all countries giving recognition to each others degrees & educational certificates had made this world look so small. Now we can communicate with each other on telephone & on net with each other, see each other on web cam, all these plus exchanging views here in communities like yahoo answers, knowing & let others know us has brought feeling of humanity amongst us. With this change of cultural & social attitude, saying that India girl is same as one use to be in 18th or 19th century is absolutely wrong. Now marriage no where remain the same in India as it was many centuries back, as you say for Indian girl marriage happens only once in life, but that’s not exactly true in US culture. You will find many US families still following the old culture of marriage once in life concept & you'll see a lady or man in India going through many marriages in her or his life time. The definition of marriage has changed ever where now & it is based on convenience & mutual understanding between the two & no more continuation old traditional ways, the parents used to get the children married & it continued for ones life time even if it was a mater of physical or mental suffering for either, now legal awareness amongst the younger generation brought more caution in protecting their social, personal & constitutional rights. Now when a father shouts on his daughter or an elder brother scold his younger sister, even such a lady here simply comes out & shows such an offender her domestic rights & provisions of the The Protection Of Women From Domestic Violence Act, 2005 to her father & brother leave aside a wife doing so to her husband or his relatives. Gone are days when a lady married to a man lived with him till her end, now any small bickering amongst the couple can end a husband precious moments of his life in the dark cell of any prison, so where you will say the Indian girl is same who considered the marriage as one time affair in her life time. Indian girl marrying an American boy is ok if they understand each other, give respect to each others family, family values, culture, religion & really love each other, other things have no value in such marriage.

Answer 2

Well, there are sad statistics in every country regarding divorces...
For example, here in Spain where I live, 3 of 4 new marriages end with divorce and each 3,5 minutes a couple gets divorced.
The court has approved a so-called express-divorce and a couple can get divorced in the record time of 3 months without the need to live separately for the period of 1 year... people can even contract a cheap and fast divorce via internet!!!
In the USA statistics come more or less to the same result and even in India more and more people get a divorce...
So, what I want to say is, that there is no guarantee...
Just imagine, Spain is the country with the highest percentage of Catholics in Europe and this religion doesn’t accept divorces... divorce was forbidden before 1981... and many couples which have been married for over 30 years suddenly are heading for a divorce, it seems that many people are not willing to stand hard times with their partners and that we are actually living in a throw away society.
Men get divorced because they suddenly prefer young girls and don’t want to stay with their old lady, because she has put weight on, has grown older and sex isn’t exciting with her anymore.
Women do the same; they look for somebody better looking, younger, somebody with a better bank account...
Many divorces are the result of the egoistic nature of human beings.
I always said, that the right to divorce is fundamental, because if a marriage doesn’t work out at all there must be a efficient way to permit people to separate and go on with their lives separately.
But now it seems that people get married just to celebrate a wedding party and after honeymoon they fiend out, that they expected something different in life.
People don’t really want to make any effort and only think of themselves, like "I want ... + I need..."
What I want to say with that is, that society changes quickly and I just would suggest you, that you follow your heart.
If you are sure, that he loves you and that he isn’t of egoist nature and will stand by your side also during difficult periods, you should marry him.
I am married since over 10 years, so luckily not all marriages turn out into divorce.........

Answer 3

I dont get the generalization that this is a US Culture. To be honest us has no culture it is a melting pot of all different kinds of culture. and if you want to generalize the us culture this land really belonds to Native Americans and their culture. Please dont generalize before you judge.
Now to answer your question.

I think that choosing someone to share your life with is a one time thing. Divorce is something that people choose to do when their relationship dont see a resolution. It is not a cultural choice. Remember that. If this person loves you and only you and likewise then you will have a "life partner"
good luck and remember DONT GENERALIZE BECAUSE THAT LIKE SOMEONE MISTAKING an indian for a terrorist just becasue their brown like the ones who did the 911 attack. Its not right

Answer 4

Understanding and Care- It means a lot for marriage-- If this is there - they can lead a happy life.. It is not whom we marry - all human are the same- but people are brought up in different culture. Not all Indians follow Indian culture and not all US guys are the same.. It varries..
All the best..

Answer 5

American or Indian doesn't matter. If you think you can be happy with him for the rest of your life, then go for it. If not, don't feel like you have to stay with him. No matter where you are from you should have the right to be happy and not stuck in a bad relationship because divorce is taboo. People change and you cannot predict that. The only way to guarantee that you will never divorce is to never marry.

Answer 6

If the Indian girl and the US boy have a very strong love for one another then mabye she should marry him. If she trusts him enough that he will stay with her until death breaks apart then why not? If she KNOWS that he is a faithful man the of course. If their love is the purest form of love of definitely. Who says different minorities can't fall in love with each other? Basically, i think the Indian should totally marry that US boy. <3

Answer 7

Its a good way to cultural exchange and to better the future generation Don't worry about The Indian Girls Leave them behind for the American Boys

Answer 8

Ok well i don't know what you exactly mean by us boy?
Is he an american but whose family is indian? Or is he just a pure american boy if you know what i mean. Well either way it all depends on if the two of them like each other o r not i guess

Answer 9

Thats true. So the decission should be made after thinking more than 10 times about it considering the backgrounds & the affects.

Answer 10

If the Indian girl is very traditional, and not at all "Americanised", it may be better if she marry someone of her own culture. This relationship can be very difficult.