My advice to you is let your husband handle it... don't get involved in something you didn't create.
2007-05-31 08:56:45
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answered by Oula 3
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Look, it's like this. If he raised them they are his kids. He can't decide now that he doesn't want them. What he can do is be a father to her by getting the girl some help. Get her into a treatment center (I know, easier said than done) and find someone to care for the kids while she gets herself together. That will be much more help to her in the long run than giving her money now for drugs and hoping she'll bugger off. I hope you, as a woman, are supportive of him doing this. I mean regardless to the fact that her mother has kids by different men, if he loves her then he'll want to help her. If he doesn't love her, then he'll have to tell her to not call him anymore and while yes, she may do something rash, I thought he didn't care...see where I'm going with this? Good luck to you all.
2007-05-31 08:57:30
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answered by Brandy 6
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your husband needs to grow up. Stop playing this game with her. The more she calls and the more he answers the less likely she is to even come close to accepting the answer no.
Your husband needs to tell her, i want nothing to do with you. Period, and if need by change the phone numbers, and leave it unlisted.
If worse comes to worse, get a restraining order, i would also suggest if what you are saying is true, and she has children to call the Department of Children and families. Those kids need a good stable home, not some druggie and bum caring for them.
If you have a message machine, use it. scan your phone calls and dont answer when she calls after your husband has told her to not call anymore and that he wants nothing to do with her.
2007-05-31 08:55:41
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answered by Anonymous
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Perhaps your husband is the only father she knows. And if the whole family is "screwed," maybe that's why this woman is messed up. Now, your husband wants to reject her and, of course, you do (because you definitely don't you care about her), after she's been rejected by her real father, her mother, and who knows who else. Don't talk about who's screwed, lady. You and your man aren't working with a full deck either.
2007-05-31 09:31:14
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answered by Anonymous
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It sounds like ultimatum time to me. Have your husband tell her that he wants to be a part of her life, but he just can't stand it anymore. She needs to get rid of the drugs, lose the bum, and get her life together, or he's gone.
Chances are that she won't do it and he'll be free. Otherwise, who knows, she could get better....
2007-05-31 08:56:36
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answered by Anonymous
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What are you doing mixed up in this marriage? Sounds like too much drama for you to handle. Maybe the two of you should move to another state and focus on eachother. Instead of this mess from his past.
2007-05-31 08:54:24
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answered by Anonymous
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sometimes you gotta cut ties.
sometimes you gotta hang on.
this isn't an issue you can just post on the internet and go with the consensus from some third party.
no one who will answer this knows as much as you about the situation, and there is no possible way for you to explain it well enough online. i'm sure deep down you can come to a conclusion about what to do.
2007-05-31 08:54:38
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answered by hellotman16 4
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You can always have your phone number changed. And if the druggie knows where you live, you could always have an order of protection put against her to keep her away from your home and work.
2007-05-31 09:16:51
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answered by Ella 7
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umm quit accepting the phone calls from this loonatic...they ain't his leave them be sh!t how you gonna help somebody that can't help themselves...leave the trash alone tell your husband to too...he's done all he can...if the mother don't care why should he...also these people are grown let them handle their own problems
2007-05-31 08:59:42
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answered by sweetgurl 1
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I had a similar situation (although not as much drama). Luckily for me, my husband put our marrriage first (as he should) and we are done with the ex and her kids. Your husband should do the same. It's not his problem and he should focus on his life with you and not them.
2007-05-31 09:16:38
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answered by fire wife 3
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