my girlfriend told me about her sister and her bro-in-law.her sister is cheating on her bil with another man,she feels shes in the middle of it all because her bil calls her and asks her where she is etc.
what should my girl friend do?
this is really stressing her out. :(
i told my gf this isnt her problem but she feels she needs to help somehow.plzzz give some good advice. :(
2007-05-31 10:12:04 · 22 answers · asked by forest lover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her to talk to her sister and tell her that what she is doing is not right. She should tell her that she is not going to lie for her and she should not lie for her.
2007-05-31 10:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by kyeann 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not fair to your girlfriend that she's caught in the middle. I can understand how torn she must feel.
My suggestion is for her to talk to her sister about it. Tell her what its doing to her and how unfair it is.
Her sister needs to be honest with her husband. That much is obvious, but no one can force her to do that.
What else to do is really dependant on how far she is willing to go to 'help'.
I'm sure she probably isn't comfortable with telling her bil what her sister is doing, but at the same time, it seems unlikely that things are going to change before he knows whats going on.
The best thing to do is have her talk it over with her sister and see where things go from there.
2007-05-31 17:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend needs to sit down with sister and tell her she refuses to be put in the middle of this and so bil needs to stop calling her, or she'll be straight up with him because she shouldn't be expected to lie, and if he's calling your gf to check up on his wife, he probably suspects something anyway.
He needs to give wife a cellphone...then she can deal with her own lying.
2007-05-31 17:16:58 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First your girlfriend has to have a serious talk with her sis an tell her she is not going to put up all this. that she does not agree and she will not be tolerating this! Also tell your girlfriend that she does not have to feel guilty or bad. Also if the husband calls her asking about the sis, your girlfriend should tell him to stop calling her for swers that she does not have.
Your gf has to understand that her sis has her own life and she has to deal with what ever comes her way!
She needs to put them both in their place and tell them both to leave her out of it!
Good luck
2007-05-31 17:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by sweetsarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your girlfriend that she needs to talk to her sister about what the husband is asking her, etc. She should also tell her sister to stop cheating! Or, if she chooses to cheat to keep your girlfriend out of it.
This is surely to end badly and your gf should make sure to keep as far away as possible to avoid getting dumped on in the end. Try telling her that.
2007-05-31 17:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your girlfriend that if she knows something, to just let it out. Its not fair to the guy to be cheated on, and its not fair to your girlfriend to have to hide that from anyone. ITs going to end up in a big old messy disaster anyways, so just get it over with now, so you can all move on with your lives.
Also have her tell her sister that what she is doing is wrong, and that she should tell him she's cheating on him, or your gf will. Simple.
2007-05-31 17:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by mannasox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she needs to stay out of it cause its between her sister and her brother-in-law....now if the sister is using your girlfriend as a cover, then that needs to stop. Your girlfriend needs to tell her sister to find another excuse cause if she keeps using her that she is just going to tell the brother-in-law the truth......then all the drama should stop for your girlfriend....at least for a while :(
2007-05-31 17:20:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend needs to stay out of this situation. It is wrong for her to be involved in this situation. Eventually, when the brother-in-law finds out, then she will look bad. Your girlfriend needs to tell her sister that enough is enough and that she refuses to lie for her anymore.
Maybe that will force her sister to make her marriage work and stop cheating.
2007-05-31 17:16:15 · answer #8 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's gonna have to talk to her sister. that's not right. she's the one that cheating and she should deal with her husband herself. if this goes too far and your gf gets stressed out even more, she should tell he bil becuase he doesn't deserve to be treated like that. good luck
2007-05-31 17:16:56 · answer #9 · answered by HipHopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She really just needs to let them both know that she don't want to be in the middle of their relationship anymore. She should tell them that she loves them both and would be there for both of them no matter what, but she is no longer going to be in the middle of their problems. If she stays in the positions that she is in then she will probably end up being hurt by one if not both of them, and they may end up blaming her for their problems.
2007-05-31 17:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by kittyxxx123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to tell her sister to stop involving her in her infidelity...I think it is incredibly selfish of her to cheat and then put her sister in the middle...personally if I were your GF i'd tell the BIL what's going on....but for the sake of keeping the peace just tell her to tell her sister she wants no part of it and she wont lie for her anymore.
2007-05-31 17:16:37 · answer #11 · answered by juda75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋