if your husband tells you he loves you very much and dosent want a divorce why does he cheat and lie about it?

Question

thre is a woman he had sex with this woman he and she both say the is nothing going on or its not what i think he gets mad when i bring up the subject my cousin has caught him more than once with her driving her truck i told him how i feel about this and he lies and i am making something out of nothing i want to leave him but i love him too much we have been married 7 years together 10 years have a 8 year old help me get strong

Answer 1

Fool me once shame on you
Fool me twice shame on me
If he did once
He'll do it again
All sayings that fit this circumstance Honey open your eyes
He is a man that's what they do they lie and cheat and until you tame his a s s he is going to continue to go astray I say kick him to the curb and start from scratch

Answer 2

I am also in the process of filing for divorce from an alcoholic. Get involved in Al-anon and get some counselling. Alcoholics blame everything on everyone else, and do not own anything that they have done. They do not feel quilty - till they are sober -but then they hurry up and get drunk again- so that they don't have any personal hurt. My husband and I have played these back and forths long enough, and so have you, don't take his calls or emails. All it does it upset you. It is sooooo Not worth it. He needs to own his behavior - and if he doesn't - then you do not need to communicate with him. Good luck honey, you are not the only one going down this path... you just need to remove your self from his little games - I finally have, and though it hurts, since we were best friends and yes the sex was amazing - it just isn't worth the mind games. God bless you and good luck. T-

Answer 3

He is treating you like a fool.

Anyone who believes that there isn't anything going on between your husband and that woman is nuts.

Love has nothing to do with this situation. He is disrespecting you and putting some other woman on a pedestal. You have to think higher of yourself and demand the respect you deserve. Leave while you can. You are unhappy and should try to find your happiness elsewhere.

Answer 4

For the sake of your child, you have to, HAVE to leave this man.

It would be one thing if he cheated once, felt guilty and decided to make a heartfelt change. But he's obviously a womanizer and he does NOT love you. Love is more than a feeling, it's an action. What are his actions telling you?

Think of your 8 year old. Do you want him/her growing up thinking it's okay to treat his/her future partner in that way? You have to do what's best for your CHILD. And you being in this relationship is the worst thing for your child right now.

Leave. I know it's hard, but you must. That's your only sensible option.

Answer 5

Men/women don't cheat because they don't love their significant other anymore. Love has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with it. They cheat because the relationship has gone bland. He lies to you to protect your feelings because he DOES love you. You are too busy with the child, feelings of anxiety, etc. to give him the attention he needs so he feels the need to get that warm fuzzy feeling elsewhere. Be aware that although it is not your fault. Your busy schedule does not help your marriage. Try to take a small vacation with your husband to let him know that YOU"RE STILL HERE! Do not pry into his cheating or your marriage will be forever ruined because you don't truly want to know (or you would have already asked) After you add some spice into your marriage the pieces will fall back together and he will have no further reason to stray.

Answer 6

Have you ever heard about sacrifices the guy husband or not is breaking your heart.He wants to hold you back and he knows that he is winning because you love him and you believe him when he lie to you so it is your choice to make, whether you want your heart broken are not i can bet that you have giving him multimillion chances so it is up to you to take all that chances that you have given him back and find someone to treat you like the sweet woman that you are there are alot of good man out there who would want a good woman like yourself.Don't make your husband hold you from happiness, remember you have a son and later in life he is going feel the way that you are feeling now about what his dad is doing to you and you cannot lie to him because he will be all grown up.

Answer 7

I see you are confusing cheating with love, typical for a female. Just because someone cheats on doesn't mean they can't love you. However what it does mean is that they don't respect you and that is much worse.

Your husband might love your very much, however if he is cheating then he doesn't respect you. A successful marriage can survive without love, but it can't survive without respect.

You seem like a good person, you deserve better than this. If he is really cheating he will continue to do so because he doesn't respect you. Divorce him and find a good man, one that will both love and respect you.

Answer 8

he loves you, but he's not in love with you. there is a difference. he doesn't want a divorce because he is afraid of being by himself. it's just easier to cheat on you and have you at home when he wants to come back. it's time for you to take back control of YOUR life. do not let him do this to you. he obviously does not have enough love or respect for you, your child, or your marriage to do the right thing. he could be bringing home all types of diseases to you without you knowing. however it is that he sees this woman, it has to stop. like if he claims he's out with the boys and that's when he goes out with her, no more going out with the boys. if he is willing to make your marriage work, he will do whatever it takes. if not, leave him, you deserve better.

Answer 9

I don't understand why you love somebody that treats you this way. But there are reasons to stay married other than love. Like maybe for the kid. If the father at least hides it from the child and is discreet about it (sounds like he isn't) this could work. But honestly, lady, it sounds to me like you are really burying your head in the sand here. Sometimes you have to deal with your fear of the unknown in order to get out of an intolerable situation. But if you choose to tolerate this then that is your business. But if you choose to stay, don't complain. You're the one making the choice.

Answer 10

If you don't care about your own happiness continue to turn a blind eye and end up a bitter old woman with a filandering husband. Actions speak louder than words, the man can say it all he wants but can he stay faithful and honest. Its time to wake up! Think of your child, is this example of denial and betrayal what you want for them to think is normal?