i made a dr appointment for me tomorrow to go to see about getting something to kill my sexual desires that i have about 1 time a week because my fiance that lives with me dont like to have sex but every great once in awhile and she only likes it stationary and wont try viberaters or anything else to spice it up i tried every thing i know to turn her on i always clean so that wont work i always do dishes i always do laundry and cook i always love and rub on her and tell her i love her but nothing works so what yalls advice on it and do you let or use toys to spice it up in the bedroom and when she does want it she only thinks you can have it at night that one day a mnth
2007-05-31 10:02:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You havent got an overly high sex drive....you are just normal. The problem is with your fiance...she has zero sex drive so maybe she should be going to the doctors instead of you to increase her sex drive. You cook you clean, you shower her with affection......what does she do? Maybe if you stopped being so compliant she may start to see you in a different light. Maybe if you told her to get off her arsse and do something she may stop taking you for granted. If this is any indication of what life is going to be after you are married...then dont marry her because you will be nothing more than a little puppet who will dance to her tune all the time. Its time you stopped being a doormat and made a few rules of your own.
2007-05-31 10:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi, read this book,
The five Love Languages
It's about making each other feel loved by identifying what type of person you are and what you need in the relationship. It then gives you strategies to do certain things and make each other feel loved. When your fiance feels loved, she will enjoy being intimate with you.
The book was recommended to me when I was in a similar boat. I bought the book and read it. Then I made the wife read it. Things have never been better.
It's a very easy read too.
2007-06-03 21:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to see a doctor.... she does. Her disinterest in sex is not at all normal. Once a month is not normal either. Is she on medication of any kind? Sometimes that can cause problems. What's her take on this? Why doesn't she want to have sex? Is it you, or does she think it's " dirty"? If so, she needs a therapist .
2007-05-31 17:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she needs to see her DR. about this. It is her hormones that are off kilter. I know when I was using birth control, I had the same problem. I had no desire for sex. Before you go and see what the DR can do to take away your drive, try asking her to see her OB/GYN for help. There are several options available to her to increase her desire.
2007-05-31 17:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by syns_pleasure 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yikes, you really do love her then. Wow, seriously since you love her you need to tell her that you have needs to and that if it is a physcological problem that you will help her get therapy. I know that past incest victims, and rape, and molestation victims have problems with intimacy. I would not go get shots to reduce my sex drive because that is not right too. You and she need to come to a compromise because right now it is pretty one sided.
2007-05-31 17:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat as you but i married my wife has a low sex drive for the last 9 year i tried everything for house for to libido pills and nothing works. this September my wife told me to she going to see the Doc. so she can see if there anything that can help her. So best of Luck.
2007-05-31 17:14:08 · answer #6 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
she needs some help get her some spanish fly or something she is totally not living in the real world. she needs to enjoy while she can.
2007-05-31 17:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Elaine J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She needs the doc, not you.
Dump her, man, and find yourself a real loving, caring woman.
I guarantee there are plenty of them out there for you, if you are a decent guy.
2007-05-31 17:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by Husker41 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
And you're going to marry this woman? Its only going to get worse.
2007-05-31 17:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dump her now it only gets worse.
2007-05-31 17:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by ADR 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋