what does marriage really mean?

Question

i have been with my partner for 14 years and i love him very much we have 2 beautiful children and i am happy with how things are he wants to get married and i don't i ant see what it will add to our relationship other than a bit of paper he disagrees he thinks it will make our relationship stronger!any ideas on this

im hearing a lot about marriage being about commitment but im already committed to my partner i don't want to be with anyone else but i don't feel a piece of paper will strengthen our relationship.

Answer 1

marriage is the joining of 2 people,in holy matrimony,holy because it is sacred,the vows are sacred,it,s the biggest step you,ll ever take in your whole life,man and woman vow to love each other for the rest of their lives,it is very sacred if it,s the 2 honest people taking those vows,anyone can say i love you,untill something goes wrong,in love is giving your partner all,it,s certainly not easy,ups an downs differences of opinions,if the love is true between 2 people,talking to each other like mature adults and solving things without harsh words,is love,kisses an cuddles every day,there should always be that sparkle like when you 1st met,still having the feeling of butterflies when he comes home from work,holding hands when your both older,but most of all there,s got to be trust,never doubting,if you are both truly in love now,after 14 yrs,and happy to spend the rest of your lives together,i would say get married,nothing should change,it,s the most beautiful feeling when you take the vows of marriage,you only get that feeling once,marriage is fast dying,and divorce is fast to get,your lives together are being blessed,when you can look ao each other and say i love you more than ever after 40 to 50yrs of marriage,what could possibly be more beautiful.bless you both ,whatever you decide to do,stay in love and be happy.

Answer 2

it's a matter of Choice.

are u Choosing to be with this man, and this man only? if so, the fact that he wants to get married is showing HIS commitment. what he wants is to show the world that you and him are ONE, a team, together, forever. it should be seen as a positive thing... unless u are uncomfortable cuz u want that little way out in the future. if u are not married, then what stops u from leaving if things get bad??

the thing is, marriage should be a Voluntary decision. u both are entering a relationship where u want to be together, and prove to urselves, ur family, ur friends, that you love him and he loves you. not only that, it is a verbal Committment to each other, under God, and under Law. true, u shouldn't take it lightly. but u also shouldn't see it as a "ball and chain."

if u do, then ur not ready to get married.....

Answer 3

Think about the future of urself and ur children. If God forbid something happened 2 him u and ur children may have 2 fight what is rightfully urs. Marry the man and make everything legal. It's been 14 years and no one's going anywhere so I say make sure of that and get that little slip of paper.

Answer 4

if you think about it in a different way, you would be entitled to death benefits if you are married, common law you aren't. but that is a little morbid. I feel that marriage is a commitment, before god and your friends and your heart. if you don't feel the urge to get married, maybe you need to figure out why it would be so important to him after so many years, and why you don't want to.

Answer 5

Marriage is a lifelong commitment of love and care, and also a legal contract.

It makes you his next of kin. For example, shouldn't you be the one to make healthcare decisions for him if he were injured or ill and couldn't make those decisions for himself? Shouldn't you be the one to make arrangements for funeral and burial in the event of his death? If you're not married his next of kin might be his parents or another family member, and you could be left completely out of important decisions.

You would be his beneficiary for social security and other death benefits.

If he feels it will make the relationship stronger, then to him it will.

Answer 6

If you see yourselves as a family and aim to stay that way for the duration then what is wrong with getting married?. Marriage is a committment of love for each other and the family...so get with it and marry the guy or you may lose him if he feels insecure. If you want to keep him then work at keeping him.
Best wishes, Mike.

Answer 7

Hi, it seems you have a pretty stong relationship anyway!
Why fix it if it aint broken?
But if it makes him feel better why not do it?
Children are far more of a bond than any piece of paper hun.X

Answer 8

The question you may like to ask is this will you be less happy if you do? if so the issue may lay with you about marriage.

Answer 9

marring some one is just a piece ; p paper at the begging .its what you both do during the marriage that counts .

Answer 10

i am in the same position. i think a marriage means what the individuals want it to mean to be honest. to him it means one thing and to you it doesnt matter so much. i am not married as i said but my girlfriends say the difference was that it made them feel more secure.