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Question

I need to get out of my marriage. I am just to wore out. Everytime my husband tells me something small or big it is a lie and when ever I want to know the truth I have to do digging and find out for myself what has been going on. I cant just accept things as the truth that he tells me because even if I try something always happens to disprove it.

so here is my real question..

He is in the military and rank is E5 I have only been working part time and I have one child with him. Financially I am afraid I wont be able to pay debts we have incurred if we divorce...any suggestions?

Answer 1

Financially you don't have to worry. Thanks to good ole Uncle Sam he will be paying you (probably thru direct deposit) for the rest of you and your babies life. You can even keep your job. The military only values the freedom of our country more than it values the sanctity of marriage and family. If you went to his commander and even told them you thought he was being unfaithful or that your marriage was going thru tough times, depending on the commander, he would "order" and I do mean order your husband to get your family situation together now or face some sort consequences later. The military views the family as the backbone of their soldiers, and if the backbone is hurt or broken then the soldier may not perform up to the greatest of their abilities. So paying off debt will be the last of your concerns. Any debts you incurred while married he will have to contribute to paying off, as well as child support and spousal support. He might come out on the losing end of this deal but I bet that isn't crossing his mind whe he has you wondering and tore up from his lying. Well as the saying goes, "it's cheaper to keep her", and he will definitely be finding that out the hard way. You could also go to the JAG office on the post near you and seek legal advice from a military attorney. Utilize all resources that the military offers to spouses or soon to be ex- spouses. All the best.

Answer 2

A lot of the financial things can be taken care of in the divorce, but the finances is usually the biggest factor.
You need to look for a full time job that pays decent. I work full time but I also have a part time gig at home for www.workathomeagent.com Its calls for Sears, Virgin, Toys R US, Newspaper, Shopping network and some other stuff. Its like 20cents a minute for the time you talk and you pick your own hours. You dont have to factor in gas and other things associated with going to work. No cost or anything, just have to have a dsl connection and a landline phone.

You need to PREPARE to be single. With the job and other aspects of life that usually involve him. Once you are standing on your two feet more or less anyway, then you'll be able to go through with the divorce.

Good luck.

Answer 3

honey i am renos girl because of my military husband lol. but here's what you do. get the name of his commander and also check with OCSE in your area. where are you? i left my husband in fort hood. email me direct if you need too. now debts i hope you dont have a whole bunch of joint credit cards. no good. we always had separate. we are separated now and i am glad it was like that.

Answer 4

Get on with it. worry about the bills next. Make the first step to you getting to be happy again. You will figure out what to do about the rest.

Answer 5

Go get a lawyer. He/she will tell you what you need to do. Don't sell yourself short. Your husband has responsibilities married or not to you. Call a lawyer before he does.

Answer 6

Make him pay the debts. Look out for yourself.

Answer 7

yes dear it sure does sound like you have to get a divorce and move on dear you can email me if you would like to talk with me it is [e-mail] im available ok and thank you add me as a friend if you would like to dear

Answer 8

I think thats what alimony and child support are for