Marriage & Divorce - 4 May 2007

I'll try to be brief. I got a call from his HR dept at work asking me if I knew where he was, if he was sick etc.. Apparently he hasn't shown up for work since Monday and will be fired. I'm so upset, I know he hates his job so much (sales) b/c he has to follow up on alot of paperwork and has to meet a quota but he also know we desperately need his extra income. He would get up and get dressed like he was going to work fooling me. I'm hurt b/c all this aside he's a great dad and seemingly good husband. When I told him about the HR call he said it was a mixup with regard to voice mail and he spoke to his boss (whom I spoke to today and said this was a lie and she hasn't heard from his since last week). That part tore me up, I hate him so much for doing this to me and our kids. My eyes are blinded with our years together so any outside help would be appreciated. Is this the end?

2007-05-04 04:57:36 · 33 answers · asked by Angie 1

2007-05-04 04:55:07 · 10 answers · asked by mohamed ragab 2

Last year, I took my son to a psychologist and he got diagnosed of 'Autism'. My ex didn't know anything about it and neither the school psychologist nor the doctor has interviewed him about the child's condition. Can I ask my ex-husband for more money in court because of the child's condition? Can my ex-husband contest the diagnosis in court because he didn't talk to the doctor? Can my ex use this to change custody or ask for joint custody because I didn't tell him things about the child?

2007-05-04 04:47:59 · 27 answers · asked by uglym 1

Just went through a separation with my wife. We met through friends. It's now been 7 months since everything went down. It was my fault and have made that known to our friends. We sat down one day with our friends and discussed what happened and how we are going to fix it. She moved out two days later. She has sinced stopped talking to her friends. I still care for her. What type of behavior is this?

2007-05-04 04:44:38 · 21 answers · asked by john d 1

that she could be cheating on me? She also showers in the basement first thing when she comes home. Should I be worried?

2007-05-04 04:41:31 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I married within 3 months of knowing each other. We blended families (her kid and my kids). She was so in love with me it was scary. As the relationship went on and reality set in and we started arguing, as all married couples argue, she decided she wanted to be separated from me. Apparently losing all love for me. She was very indecicive on being with me or not (even though she portraited she was so in love with me). It’s like it dropped totally off. I couldn’t believe it. Then when we got back together she was reluctant to even trust me. Then she started in on that we should have a kid together. I told her we were just separated maybe we should wait. Big problem. Then she took matters into her own hands and quit taking her birth control. She’s pregnant. Now she decides that she hasn’t been taking care of herself (drinking,smoking,taking anti depressants) and she’s planning on having an abortion. I just agreed with whatever she wants to do at this point plus if she’s not taking care of herself, the kid doesn’t have a chance. My point is what the heck is wrong with her? She can love and hate and change her mind so quickly. It’s very scary. I think she’s a little crazy and when she says she loves me, I don’t believe it. I don’t have any idea how she’ll be in 2 months. Problem is I love her to death. What’s wrong with her? She’s messed up.

2007-05-04 04:40:59 · 26 answers · asked by survivor 1

I have been with my husband for almost 4 years. Our relationship thas been very, very rocky. He has been physically, verbally and emotionally abusive towards me. I have left him, twice already. The first time, was because, he pulled my hair and I got really angry and we got into a wrestling fight and he caused me bruises all over my body. I put him in jail and we were separated for about 1 month and 1/2.
After he got out of jail, he started going to anger management classes and he promissed me we would do marriage counseling. When he convinced me he had changed I moved back with him and he stopped the marriage counseling, but he did do anger management for 1 year. He was good for about 7 months and then (with no physical abuse, but still verbal and emotional) until 1 day he became very angry and started insulting me and making derrogatory remarks (he even spit my face) and I left him agai. We were separated for three months, in which time were were still talking and seeing eachother,I was still giving him another change to show me that he would change, well through those three months he convinced me again, that he would change, and again, like an idiot I believed him and this time, we moved states; we used to live in California and we moved to Arkansas, mostly because my family doesn’t like him at all and I would get kicked out of any family event if I took him with me. They told me as long as I am with him they want nothing to do with me. Well we left to give each other the opportunity to be by our self’s away from all the people that have wanted to separate us since we began dating. Anyhow we have lived in Arkansas for 8 months, he hasn’t been physically abuse towards me again, but he is verbally abusive still when he gets mad. He gets angry at everything, and he physically abuses of his pets. He has fighting cocks, which he concentrates on breading them. Well yesterday he got so angry that a chicken who had 9 baby chicks wouldn’t go inside the chicken coop that he killed her and ripped her head off; he was beating up all of the animals; he broke another rooster’s leg, another one is blind from 1 eye and he has killed so many, he was screaming so loud that you could hear his voice throughout the entire neighborhood. It’s like looking at a psycho, he screams so loud that it gives me goose bumps just to think about his angry voice. I have been depressed for almost 3 years know. I started to smoke marijuana, because it’s the only thing that calms me down, relaxes me and helps me forget about the way he acts, it helps me forget about my problems, but I know it’s not the solution. I don’t know what to do, I am so depressed, and I feel so alone. We are also, about to buy a house, but I just want to run away, sometimes I wish he would just vanish into thin air (don’t get me wrong, I don’t want anything bad to happen to him) but I wish he would just disappear out of my life. But I feel guilty to leave him. I really wanted to make this marriage work because of how I was raised, but I don’t know what to do anymore.

2007-05-04 04:37:27 · 20 answers · asked by spaced 1

I saw this question on here yesterday directed to men, but I'd be curious to see the women's response to this.

If the opprotunity presented itself to spend a night with a married man with no strings attached, no drama, no future commitments and nobody would find out, would you do it?

For those who get offended by this question, I'm not some pervert or sicko, I am just curious to see how women respond to the same question that was asked of men.

2007-05-04 04:36:50 · 27 answers · asked by Jeremy G 1

what is legal for her to come here and be my wife. is there a waiting peroid and where can i find info on this

2007-05-04 04:34:03 · 2 answers · asked by larry w 1

My husband says that he will make it seem like I am not a fit mother when we get divorced. He told me he would say it so I would not get my son or anything else of his. I am a good mother, my son is well taken care of and loved by me. Will I lose my son if this happens, he is my world, so I don't know what I would do?

2007-05-04 04:34:01 · 9 answers · asked by Jennifer S 1

2007-05-04 04:33:33 · 7 answers · asked by vet1 2

I filed for divorce 4 months ago because
1) we have not had a good relationship in over 10 yrs.
2) or a physical one in 5yrs
3) I just long for companionship
4)Our finances are in really bad shape and out of control. He blames me, ( we have 4 kids now older teens, to feed, and cloth with the $600.00 I get from him every 2 wks and lets not forget the cost of gas, prescriptions, and any extras they may need)
5)He hasn't allowed me to work, (I do now and don't make much)
6) Will not help around the house AT ALL.
7I have never been able to work on finances with him.
8)His c/c debt is over $30,000.00 with nothing to show for it
9)He has borrowed $$ to pay it off and hasn't.
10 )told kids we have no $ because I filed for divorce.
He is contesting and said he will not leave the house.
My husband is an attorney and has always said, the only winners in the divorce are the attorney's. What has he got to gain, other than more debt by contesting? ANY IDEA?

2007-05-04 04:28:55 · 17 answers · asked by suentwobehisx 2

My husband and I are currently living apart. It was my idea that we separate for a while due to the fact I found out he is cheating. He says he has not had sex with this woman he has been dealing with for the past 2 months. He constanly keeps saying I have been cheating as well. We have not been happy for some time. I also discovered he keeps porn and condoms in his car. He would not even told me about his cheating if I had not told him I found out. We have three children together. I do not want to stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of the children but he is willing to do that instead of working on our marriage. I just can't stomach the thought of settling. Help!!

2007-05-04 04:24:17 · 39 answers · asked by Chiquita M 1

My Mil is a nice lady, atleast used to be, however she is starting to come between me and my husband. Lately she has come over to our house while my husband was at work and told me that he is under a lot of stress (DUH! I'm his wife, I think I know this) and explaines to me how to be a good wife and mother. I politely tell her it's none of her business and SHE got angery and left in a huff. She didn't talk to me for a week! (though that was a very pleasent week!) That finally blew over and then she calls me one day to see if she could take one of my kids with her and one of her other grandchildren to an event a town over. My children are 1, 2 and 3 years old. My oldest (the one she wanted to take) has special needs and when taken somewhere needs undivided attention. She placed the call at lunch time and when ever any of my children go anywhere it is an event in and of itself and it takes a 1/2 hour to prepare. so i said no and she had a fit! these are just two examples. any advice?

2007-05-04 04:17:25 · 15 answers · asked by Inneedofpeace 2

My husband uses hand and a leather paddle and a wooden hairbrush, but he wants me to buy a new implement of my choice. Any good ideas?

2007-05-04 03:54:09 · 15 answers · asked by Lily P 3

If you were married for 21 years and your spouse gave you the option to either find a friend to have threesomes with and occasional nights out or get a divorce, what would you choose? Do you think your spouse would really follow through with the divorce if you choose not to have a threesome?

2007-05-04 03:34:20 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

Our power and other utilities are getting disconnected and our agreement was that I pay the mortgage (which takes one whole paycheck) and he pays the utilities. Nothing is getting paid and I have had to try to pay everything myself to keep things going. We have two children and recently received notice that our home is in foreclosure. Does anyone agree to divorce and let lenders have the house. We are already in Ch. 13 so there's no more bankruptcy options. I believe he is spending his money on drugs and gambling. How do I tell my kids Mommy doesn't want Daddy living with her anymore? Help, I've cried for days and have no family to help me or talk to. My parents are dead and extended family have all passed also.

2007-05-04 03:28:55 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

right now at this very moment my soon to be ex husband is in court finalizing our divorce.
I am so bummed.

2007-05-04 03:27:47 · 36 answers · asked by carolyn 3

I love a guy and we r planning to get married. we know each other for almost 3 yrs. however recently (like in the last yr) we have had many arguments-some a bit serious, some not , although in the end i feel they all were not worth it- . He is now saying that we need to think well about our decision and that if we get married in a hurry we might end up divorcing in the 1st few months of marriage.
I have started working on things that i do that annoy him and he also has started doing the same.for the past few days it seems we r getting better, no arguments.
How healthy is arguing is? and can u pls tell me ur opinion about the whole issue.
I feel that its good that we argue sometimes, coz if we dont then there's something wrong in our relationship and we might discover it after we get married

2007-05-04 03:24:57 · 18 answers · asked by Samra 1

I earn more than my husband but we want another child so i really him to earn more. He is angry that i dont love him the way he is but i am only 24 and i really want to set up our family so we dont have to worry about money. Im worried this is going to break us up. Any advise?

2007-05-04 03:13:47 · 23 answers · asked by mel_24 1

it's about the only way to make cheating worse is to do it with your bf's partner...

2007-05-04 03:10:21 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband and i have been together 16 years.we have a 4 year old and a seven year old.the problem is he loses his temper at everthing.he is a good provider,doesnt cheat,is normal in every other way-cries at sad movies,my family loves him. he loses his temper at the drop of a dime.example-he hates talking about money. i feel i have to because its just normal to talk about finances but he will get mad at me and say-:why do you have to start this crap"-your stupid, you dont think right-ect .if hes mad about work or if me or the kids bring something up he dont like-he blows up-starts throwing plates,remotes anything that is in the way.my parents know,but my mom says my dad had a bad temper-which i remember, but i wasnt abused or anything-my husband never hit.he just says things he doesnt mean-and evertime apoligizes for what he said. we have been dealing with this for at least 12 years.iof course i lash out at him and say things i dont mean.somebody please tell me what i can do.

2007-05-04 02:55:52 · 23 answers · asked by renee p 1

If they aren't, please help me understand why they won't give living in the same neighborhood a try. They still move in the summer when African Americans move in. It's crazy, we work together, then go to separate train stations at the end of the day.

2007-05-04 02:48:13 · 21 answers · asked by Lady J 3

my parents are divorced
i currently live with my dad
i am 15 and my relationship with my dad is not at all good
my relationship with my mom is very good
i do talk to her through phone and letters monthly(secretly)
she lives in another state than me, one of my brothers, and my dad
she has went to court to have visitation but my dad has not allowed it
plz help

2007-05-04 02:45:26 · 7 answers · asked by christle g 1

to stay in a marriage, when you are not sure if you love your spouse? I know that sounds awful, but things have changed drastically between us. It's the complete opposite of what it used to be. And something is telling me to leave. I don't think that he'd hurt me physically or anything, but I don't know how much more crap I can take.

2007-05-04 02:24:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I got into a fight and he ran home to Mommy to cool off. His mom and I HATE each other, in fact it came to blows one time. Well, anyway, we talked last night and everything seemed okay, he vented, I vented and everything seemed okay. He said he was going to spend the night there since he had a doctors appointment this morning and they only live 5 minutes from the doctors office. Well, last night he didn't ask me to come to the doctors appointment with him (which I thought was weird because they are going to have to numb his foot, so I thought he might need a ride). Well, I found out thru snooping that his mom took him to the doctors appointment. He didn't even ask me!! So I called him on his cell to ask what was up with that and it rang and went to voicemail, so I called back and he TURNED OFF HIS PHONE!! Should I be mad? The thing about it is, we always go with each other to doctors appointments, it's just our thing. Should I not have these hurt feelings?

2007-05-04 02:23:51 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

sex is an important part of marriage. if a woman goes into marriage anticipating this, there is massive disappointment when the truth comes out. treatment is out of the question. after 4 years of marriage, he finally admits he doesn't care if he ever has sex again as long as he lives and got married for "companionship."

2007-05-04 02:23:41 · 10 answers · asked by diamond heart 4

2007-05-04 02:20:53 · 15 answers · asked by kumar 1

How can I make my husband jealous? I want him to "think" their is a possibility of me cheating. Trust me I have a good reason for this. Just please tell me how to do it. Thanks.

2007-05-04 02:18:09 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know someone who is getting married soon in a baptist church (in Pontypool). His wife divorced him because he was violent to her. I am worried that he may hit his new wife and she may not know of his history and that this may be against Church principles. Should ministers ask to see copies of divorce certificates (as these would show if previous divorce on grounds of someone's intolerable behaviour?) Or does baptist church allow that people can make mistakes and can change?

2007-05-04 02:05:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous