Marriage & Divorce - 4 May 2007

Today I told him I am under a lot of stress, and I dont want to continue this relationship.
We have been together for over 2 years, he is a lot older than me, I am 26. Our relationship is opposed by my parents, and none of my friends likes it, simply bcos of the age difference. I love him very much bcos he is the first one I had sex with, and he does have a lot of good values. Also he has stayed faithful during our 1.5 years apart, and he did lots of work trying to make our relationship work.
But I am worn out in this relationship, I have to go against my family, I have to move to a quiet small place bcos he doesnt want to live in a city anymore, and Im worried about my future when he gets old. I love him very much, thats why I kept it going for so long, but the more I love him, the more pain I feel. So today I brought up the idea of breaking up, I can feel he got hurt, I can feel he was very pissed off, he thought I could marry him, he said Im nuts.
I feel guilty, am I wrong?

2007-05-04 01:59:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

What advice might you have for someone who has decided to remain permanently single? Has anyone else out there made this decision? How is it working for you?

2007-05-04 01:58:20 · 9 answers · asked by aquaman2964 3

I have no clue what to think about my wife now. Let me explain: I have 2 kids from my first marriage. She has 1 from a previous relationship. We got married and blended families. It’s been tough. Real tough. We have been fighting about having another child. I told her let’s wait a bit until everyone is settled and we get through a couple years of marriage. She always said “you still love your ex. Wife. You had kids with her but won’t with me”. That’s not the issue. The issue is being responsible for the children and our marriage first. Then we can discuss having another one. I wasn’t against it. Well she took matters into her own hand and quit taking her birth control. I didn’t know. She got pregnant. Now she’s saying I don’t want anymore kids. I want to end this pregnancy. What does that tell me after arguing all the time over this? I don’t know but I’m thinking one of 2 things: she either cheated and it’s not mine or she’s decided this marriage isn’t working out and she doesn’t want anything to do with me. She goes back and forth. She yells at me for not wanting one right now then a week later she would say “I’m not having a child with you”. Now that she’s pregnant I believe her stubbornness out weighed her logic and she’s figuring out I was right all along but she had to get her way. Now she understands that her way is not what she really wanted or she’s thinking about doing or has done something really stupid. What do you think?

2007-05-04 01:52:27 · 15 answers · asked by golf4everdude 1

2007-05-04 01:48:32 · 15 answers · asked by Lady J 3

My stepdaughter got one of those "prepaid" cells for Christmas of 2005. Her mom was the big hero for getting her a cell that year. In the first month my stepdaughter put over $60 in the account and ate the minutes up quickly. Her mom refused to add to it for her.
My husband and I thought that was crazy, so we added her to our plan for $10 and she has been great about using only her alloted minutes. We found out that when they went on their family vacation this past spring break that her stepdad gave her cell number to his out of state family and they used the phone the entire vacation. When I received the bill, I scrutinized it and found that the ex had used over 140 minutes in one month. I started looking back through January and find she uses the phone a lot. When she takes it away from my Stepdaughter for restrictions, she uses it.

2007-05-04 01:05:12 · 14 answers · asked by d f 3

I purchased a domain name. I registered it under a private registration. It is my soon to be ex husband's name and we are in the middle of a very messy divorce. We also have a business together. He wants the domain name to use in his new business. Will I be forced to give it to him? Can I charge him for it?

2007-05-04 00:58:17 · 3 answers · asked by Trixie 1

coz me i dont like them now i offten watch eatbulaga coz i hate ebbabes...

2007-05-04 00:55:37 · 4 answers · asked by soba_ni_itte_boo29 1

coz me i dont like them now i offten watch eatbulaga coz i hate ebbabes...

2007-05-04 00:54:49 · 4 answers · asked by soba_ni_itte_boo29 1

3 years ago my boyfriend's ex called him to say she might have his baby (he was calling her too) even when I found out he still lied to me, right down to not remembering her name, her name is the same as mine. The lies went to one extreme to the other and 3 years later we are still fighting over this. I called his ex myself and she said that the baby is not his "she thought it was but now its not", but why would she say it in the first place! All I want him to do is tell me the reason why he knows the baby is not his, meaning the dates etc. He says he knows its not his because of the dates but he cant remember the dates! You see to me that doesnt make sense and its driving me crazy! He says he only slept with her twice so why cant he remember when? When I bring this up he gets angry, refuses to talk about his ex even though I cry sometimes begging him to put my mind at rest. He's a lovely guy and he treats me really well but this is our only problem!

2007-05-04 00:54:09 · 19 answers · asked by kel 2

My family does not need me any more. All are setteled well and runing their lives. My wife has interest in her parent's politics and she is happy with them playing politics (still my very good friend). My children are above 18 and 20 and studying away from home. I thought re-marring would bring a new drive in my life. Having a child/two children would be again fun. It was fun when my children were young. But then I was young and had lots of energy. Now I am 50. I have excellent job and earn well and am not worried from that point of veiw. Another issue is that if I want children I have to marry a women who is max age of 35 so that she can give birth to a health child/children. Some say that it is not recommended that I have chidren now as in school the children will be told that I look like their grandfather. Some say no to get in a marriage comitment again. Just enjoy your life alone (which I can't. I need to fight, meet chalanges like a warrier, all the time to keep me going).

2007-05-04 00:44:59 · 16 answers · asked by Edward 2

im married and my husband and i r the same signs. now after 8yrs he is jus changing bit by bit. he snaps on me over any and every lil thing . simple thing as to misplaced mail that he misplaced. this has been jus comming outta no where since last year and i dont like it.
as woman , to anotha woman does "sorry" all the time suppose to work? he says it everytime he feels he was wrong n i am tired of them too.

so can i have some insight on how to handle a man with a very bad temper? or a way to punish him for not knowin when to controll it?

2007-05-04 00:19:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband say's he met a lady. he is not in love with her. It was just a flirt. i don't if it is the truth. He is not willing to reveal this lady i.d

2007-05-04 00:11:38 · 25 answers · asked by nita 1