im married and my husband and i r the same signs. now after 8yrs he is jus changing bit by bit. he snaps on me over any and every lil thing . simple thing as to misplaced mail that he misplaced. this has been jus comming outta no where since last year and i dont like it.
as woman , to anotha woman does "sorry" all the time suppose to work? he says it everytime he feels he was wrong n i am tired of them too.
so can i have some insight on how to handle a man with a very bad temper? or a way to punish him for not knowin when to controll it?
2007-05-04 00:19:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he has such a bad temper then he needs to attend anger managment classes to help control this problem.
a person can only take so much of someone showing their temper and saying sorry. after a while, sorry doesnt mean much.
2007-05-04 00:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be asking him what is wrong. Yes in marrage people do change but not like this. Yes sorry does get old if he's smart enough to say sorry when hes mistreated you then he's smart enough to find away to not say it at all. Talk to him and tell him you want to know why he's changed and why has his temper got so bad. Maybe he's having a hard time but you need to talk to him if there is no reason for it there is no excuse for it and you need to go by an iron skillit a few lumps on the nogan and he'll straighten up. Just joking I'm sure you will find away to make him see the error of his way.
2007-05-04 00:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him when he is shouting at you and after-wards make him realize his mistake. When he says sorry, i.e. when he is not overreacting, speak to him and tell him that you had enough of his behavior and you can't take any more. At the same time try to figure out why he has to prove that he is in control at home rather than where it is actually required, as whether he was denied a raise , he got a over demanding boss or things like that. I think he needs your support but is not strong enough to ask for it. Just speak to him and support him.
2007-05-04 00:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by Prem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's stressed out over something.
Might have been building for some time.
Guys don't usually talk about it, sometimes they don't even know they're stressed.
If he has real anger issues, anger management or counselling for it would be a good idea.
Re: Sorry: Some people never say that word at all. Would you prefer it that way? At least he acknowledges it when he was out of line.
2007-05-04 01:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by joe b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a doctor to know if you will stop growing but I highly doubt it. Most guys don't STOP till they are 18. You will probably slow down at 16 or so though. I think after 16 i still grew about 2 inches (I am almost 6 foot). I believe to determine if you can still grow, I would need to check out your hormone release or your pituitary gland.
2016-05-20 02:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should react when it happened first time. And now after one year, you want to change. What did you wait for?
When he does a bad thing tell him that you didn't like it. But tell him at that moment. Or if he is very nervous, wait few hours and tell him then. But never, never keep those things for yourself. If you don't communicate with your husband, if you don't tell him what you like or what you don't like, how will he know. And when you keep that for yourself, not telling anything, hoping that he will understand somehow, you become more and more bitter, and finally turn into person you don't like.
2007-05-04 00:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by E.T.O. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your husband snaps on you... sI'mply IGNORE HIM... don't talk back, don't even look at him and if it's possible get up and leave take a walk and let him know im not going to be the subject of your bad day.. Ignoring a person like that is worst than picking up a bat and hitting them on the head.. it's just killed them that they don't get a reaction from you.. You tell him when your ready to talk like a person then come to me till then... I CAN'T SEE YOU... I CAN'T HEAR YOU....I CAN'T FEEL YOU..I CAN'T HELP YOU.. say that to him and quit talking and you will see his reaction... Good luck.
2007-05-04 01:12:22 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It almost sounds like he's got something on his mind. Any new stresses in his life? When he snaps at you, calmly ask him if something else is wrong and you're there to listen. At least he's saying sorry, mine doesn't. If he says "nothing" and won't talk about it rationally, just keep your distance and maybe he'll notice and come around. Just try and talk to him about it and try not to let it turn into a fight.
2007-05-04 00:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by nosycap9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time he tells you that he is sorry, tell him that you know--he is a sorry SOB. Tell him that you are tired of the sorry. If he has problems at work or something, tell him that he needs to let you in on it, because you are the one suffering the consequences. If he ever hits you, even one time, get out of there immediately. Take my word for it. I could tell you a story but my answer would be way too long. Just please get out of there, for yourself and your children's sake (if you have any).
2007-05-04 00:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...he sounds like my husband.....i think he has alot of stress and pressure to deal with with work ect...and having to wake up early for work......
2007-05-04 00:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by sandra k 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋