Marriage & Divorce - 4 May 2007

2007-05-04 08:31:10 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, I am getting married in July of this year to my wonderful Fiancee, but she is insisting on being friends with her ex, who was her first for nearly everything.

She was adamant about not being friends with him up until a few days ago. She met with him for lunch one day without me knowing for 'closure'. She said she got the closure and didn't want anything to do with him. Now she wants to be friends with him again. He cheated on her before and tried to get her to back out with him through her grandparents.

I am not sure how to react here, I trust her and she says she is over him, but things have changed for her lately (she won't say) and she wants to be friends with him again. He is just looking for any edge to sneak in and steal her and she does not even see it. What do I do?

2007-05-04 08:22:51 · 36 answers · asked by Bo 2

My cousin's husband has been accusing her of cheating on him. Mind you, in the 11 years that they have been together he has not found any phone numbers, emails, letters, text messages or any other form of communication from another man. Recently he has accused her of crossing the fence and becoming lesbian. I told her that he is really loosing what little mind he had!!!! He has set up hidden cameras around their house and still nothing!!!! What is wrong with this fool?!!! Why is he trying so hard to find dirt on my cousin?
He has cheated on her in the past,.....and I told her to leave him then!!! BUT she was determined to stay and work it out. Somebody help stop the madness!!! By the way, I can't stand him and I think the air he inhales is a bad waste of oxygen!!!! I told her to go ahead and file for divorce and find a man that will trust her. Am I right or wrong??? I think she is getting to the point that she is fed up with this fool.

2007-05-04 08:20:44 · 7 answers · asked by Miss G. H. Etto 2

Okay I am not even married.

But what is the most romantic date you can think of????

It has to cost under $200(everything included)
What city?
What place?
What actions?
What Questions?
What Comments?
What touches?
Paint the picture for me!!!
I am not romantic at all and I am about to loose my girlfriend becuase my idea of romatic is sex and left over pizza on my sofa.

2007-05-04 08:04:54 · 19 answers · asked by theman 2

My daughter turns 15 tomorrow. She lives in another state with her Dad. I gave him custody during the divorce.

He moved due to job reasons and left her in his mother's care. I went to stay with them for a few weeks, but could not adjust to his ways and stay longer.

I sent her some things for her birthday. I just spoke with her and she was very angry with me. I left the house when she was at school and did not tell her that I was leaving.

She said that she is managing okay. I have not called her since I got back. I have been e-mailing and checking her status on Facebook.

She is right to be angry with me. I know I deserved whatever reaction I got from her.

I can't deal with myself though. I know my actions were wrong and I don't deserve to be forgiven. I should have somehow sacrificed my comfort for my child. She is not doing well in school now either.

I have asked my ex-husband to send my child to me and he does not agree.

2007-05-04 08:01:12 · 11 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

my new husband and I have just celebrated our 1st year anniversary. I thought things would just sort of level out, but their getting worse. He had an image in his mind of who and what kind of person I was, and is disappointed that I'm not the fantasy he emagined. I'm ten years younger than him and I really want to make this work. I have 4 boys in two elementry school who live with their dad and one high school and 1 in middle school wich lives with us, and his kids have are in or graduated collage , I'm worried he just dosen't want to start it all over again espesially if I get custidy of my younger boys back. I just need some advise to get our lives on track so to speak.

2007-05-04 07:55:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'll try to be brief. I got a call from his HR dept at work asking me if I knew where he was, if he was sick etc.. Apparently he hasn't shown up for work since Monday and will be fired. I'm so upset, I know he hates his job so much (sales) b/c he has to follow up on alot of paperwork and has to meet a quota but he also know we desperately need his extra income. He would get up and get dressed like he was going to work. He picked up the kids from school at 2:30 this week saying he was on the "field" so he had time & i notice the house looked messy when i got home like he was there all day . l'm hurt b/c this aside he's a great dad and seemingly good husband. When I told him about the HR call he said it was a mixup with regard to voice mail and he spoke to his boss (whom I spoke to today and said this was a lie and she hasn't heard from his since last week). I hate him so much for doing this to me and our kids. I'm blinded with our years 2gether any help is appreciated. Thank you.

2007-05-04 07:47:17 · 14 answers · asked by Angie 1

My husband and I met when I was twelve and he was 16. We both agreed I was very young, but neither of us wanted to ever be with anyone else. For two years we hung out, and on my fourteenth birthday, with both families in full support, we got married. We both come from very liberal, "hippie" families, and my mother was married when she was 17. I'm seventeen now, and my husband and I love each other still so much. We have our own house, and he's planning to go to Harvard Law School next year. I'm headed to RISD the fall. I just want you all to know we aren't... a weird, hick kind of people. We are both educated, intelligent people. However, we were married so young. He's 21 now, and we are both changing a lot, but our love just seems to be stronger and stronger.
Is this real, or just a long time infatuation?
Is it weird that we were married so young?

2007-05-04 07:46:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Long term Relationship break up

2007-05-04 07:46:01 · 7 answers · asked by tenacious__E 1

separated for like 4years

2007-05-04 07:44:51 · 11 answers · asked by timsbabe 5

Here’s the situation. My wife grew up in a household where her mother always showed her sporatic love. Meaning her mother would love her, get really mad and pull her love for her, expect the kids to come to her, make them feel like crap, then she’d love them again. It was really drama filled. My wife acts the same way. Totally irrational behavior at times, strange mood swings, distancing herself from everyone, expects people to come to her, is a victim when we fight. It’s like she loves drama or she is constantly testing me to see how much I’ll put up with. This includes very,very, irrational controlling behavior sometimes with bouts of being very rational. It’s like she’s addicted to drama or needs excitement in her life. Now that she’s turning 30, has gained some weight, and has the big things covered in her life (marriage and children) she’s like turning into overdrive because maybe she’s realizing that this is just typical life from now on. How can I get this to stop? Maybe it will level out in her 30’s. I’m hoping. It’s like she doesn’t want a normal, rational life. She also knows she is like this and hates herself for it. It’s like she wants a normal life but can’t seem to do it. It’s like she needs constant love because her mother tested it so much. Any other women out there do this to their husband? What does he do to make you stop it? I’ve tried it all. It’s like I’m expecting her next to say “hey I just had an affair, still love me?” The tests just keep going on and on and…. I want to say “For god’s sake I love you already!”

2007-05-04 07:32:24 · 17 answers · asked by survivor 1

hmm, Okay this is odd cause my fiance is more educated then me - thus has more degrees under her name as appose to I, which makes me feel like I am not the bread winner in the family.

Don't get me wrong, I am proud of her accomplishments, however I do wish to be the Man of the house. Its just not like that..

I did my Bacelors in Business and o did she, after which I did a MBA. She has done an MBA from a decent place, and also done an MSc from one of the top 10 business colleges in the world. I am actually jealous - a little bit that she has done more, so she gets paid more, and I don't feel that important.

Recently she came home at 2am... she was at work, I got back at 9 and waited for her to come - so that we could eat. I ate dinner alone, and she came back and didn't even ask abt me cause she said she presumed I ate, I did not eat...

I don't know what to do, or say..... I do not even know how to talk 2 her abt this and what to do.....

please advice, and what do u think?

2007-05-04 07:30:05 · 13 answers · asked by Ryan 1

My husband was flirting with a girl at work at she was taking "pictures" of herself on his phone. i dont know what else happened but they aren't messing around anymore. i started talking to a friend about it and he told me that his marriage was falling apart too. well we started to develop feeling for eachother. i was going to leave my husband about 2 months ago bc i couldnt let go of what he did. he found out that i was talking to the other guy through emails.we decided to try to work things out and things have gotten better. but i told him 2 days ago that still had feelings for this other man but that i loved him and i wanted his help to get me through this. i want to know why i have these feelings if love my husband. he just left me and went i dont know where in his car. he said he would be back later. i told i agreed to go to counseling but i dont know if he wants to now. what should i do about this? i do love him. i wanted to be honest with him about all of this. please help

2007-05-04 07:29:49 · 28 answers · asked by jody g 2

I dont need any bad comments, I am in a big mess. I have cheated on my wife and have fallen in love with this women. It is all my fault and know I am going to ruin everyones life and dreams. But I feel empty when this women is not around me. Anyone have any comments about how to break this horrible news to my wife, or have been in this situation before.

2007-05-04 07:16:29 · 18 answers · asked by hazmat1424 1

do you just move on and never look back? My now ex wife of 18 years acts like I never was in her life. She seems so happy but my friends tell me its just a mask she is putting on. I want her to be happy thats how much i will always love her she is the mother of my children and we have a bond that nobody can take away not even hr coworker. Do people who go for what they think is greener grass ever look back at who they hurt so much? I'm just trying to understand a dumpers feelings

2007-05-04 07:15:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok so my ex & I r trying to wrk things out after being apart for 4 mos., he drank alot wen we 1st split up but now he's drinking even more. The last few nites he's been drunk & he's unbearable, not violent just obnoxious, rude to ppl, irrogant, thinks he can fight every1 wen he's never been in a fight in his life. He's 29 yrs old, we have 3 kids & I feel like I'm at a whole other level then him. I don't drink like that, I got a good job, I can take care of myself but startd feelin guilty about not tryin to give my family another chance so I went back to him. I tell him he has a problem & he says NO I DONT. How can I get him to see that he does?? This is mean but I've been prayin for somethin like a DUI, mayb that can snap him out of it, mayb seeing the booze effect him in other ways can snap him out of it...I luv him sober but CANT STAND him drunk..totally 2 different ppl...should I just let him go & move on like I had been or stick by him & keep tryin to make it work?? PLZ HELP!

2007-05-04 07:01:18 · 37 answers · asked by justbeingme_ 2

My brother is 45 years old and he is a total bum. He sponged off of my grandfather for 10 years, until the man died. The whole time, my brother refused to work anywhere, which he still doesn't! He's NEVER held a job in his life so far! ok, you get the point there. He got a farm job in Maryland, which he got fired from for NOT WORKING, but while he was there, he meets this "woman (not)" that just got dumped from her boyfriend (smart man). So her and my brother hook up. Mind you, she's 46 years old, youngest child is 6 years old!!!! Altogther, she already had 8 kids, only 2 in her care, the rest are all scattered in foster homes all over, one is deceased. She is talking about having ANOTHER, only this time with my brother, who won't work. Well, it's been over a year now and she has not produced another (paise the lord), so we're hoping her "child bearing years" are well over. She has still been married to a man and the divorce is just about final, yeah, swell, right? My brother is nasty

2007-05-04 06:45:26 · 28 answers · asked by Wutz it worth 2 ya? 6

Ok here's the situation. About a year ago i got very sick, my husband started cheating on me and we seperated. Well as i recovered i was going to give him a second chance but he kept cheating. Anyways my best friend and her husband let my ex move in with them even though i didnt want nothing to do with him at all. i asked them not to but she said "it wasnt her place to judge him". i was hurt and felt like she picked him over me.

2007-05-04 06:44:35 · 18 answers · asked by Dr Honesty 77 2

Every day it takes me about 2 hours waking him up and then he is late for work and my son ends up being 30 mins. late for school.
My son is falling behind in his classes because of this.
I have thought on telling his teacher why he is so late for school everyday, However I don't feel that it is right to tell his teacher that it is because of his father not waking up in the morning.
I love my husband and I will never talk down to anyone about him but because I don't I am the one who gets looked down on by my son's school. They have even suggested I need parenting classes but I don't.
Should I just tell his teacher about my husband and his problem in the morning?
Should I just stay home in the morning and request for my husband to start taking him to school and picking him up, Just so he can see what I go through in the morning?
It is not fair that I am the one who gets blamed for it all, When I am trying my best to get everyone together on time, and my husband will delay in the morning!

2007-05-04 06:34:04 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ladies:

I want your HONEST opinions, please. If you got married to a man, and realized you made a mistake (maybe you completely still loved your ex and you know he wants to be married to you, you think you married too quickly, married because you were just "obsessed" with getting married etc.) how long would you honestly stay married, before you got divorced? Would you try to see if things changed? How long?

Would the "embarrassment factor" play a role in your decision, maybe being too embarrassed to get over your marriage, bcs. you would be worried what your friends/family would say after such a short marriage?

2007-05-04 06:31:47 · 23 answers · asked by robert7 1

I just filed a divorce due to irreconcilable differences.While i know that the waiting period of divorce is 6 months, I am afraid that my wife might apeal to court to delay the process so that i can't re-marry soon. Is that possible?

2007-05-04 05:53:29 · 12 answers · asked by Gelo Honey 2

I would like to start going to alanon because of my husband and his drinking. If you have gone to alanon, did it help? I don't want to spend time there if it's just going to be a big rag session on the drinker/ex-drinker. I am looking for ways to overcome the issues of the past and move forward so that we can both heal. Any info or thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

2007-05-04 05:28:48 · 9 answers · asked by momofmodi 4

What excuse did/do you use to justify cheating?

2007-05-04 05:27:06 · 16 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

Hello my married need help my husband and I are currently living apart we have 3 babies (1-2-3-) I know LOL, we are Christian and we both are in a leadership role at our church we both have issue that need to be fix I start working on my self and building up my self we have tried Marriage counseling (one session) so you know that did not work. We tried to talk about marriage and for while things started to get better but I know my husband have a strong hold and it need to be fix but he think it ok to teach the people of God and preach God words and all the word that he preach and teach do not applied to him it hurt because I want to living a whole and save life but my husband do not our whole marriage is really base on cheating, and lies, and I can not take it no more but on the another hand it hurts bad but I still love him why I ask my self that daily why …..
I know that God do not like this it hard it like I’m marriage but yet living a single life and It is kill me emotionally

2007-05-04 05:23:32 · 13 answers · asked by Jace J 1

2007-05-04 05:19:26 · 12 answers · asked by *RA RA* 5

All he does is play on the computer and drink alot.
I come in at 4 in the morning from work and and cant even take a shower without him DEMANDING I cook for him before I go to my day job ?
Please help!

2007-05-04 05:17:09 · 20 answers · asked by MRS. EVIL GENIUS 5

In a nutshell - I'm a graphic designer and run my own business from home, I do pretty well (yet busted my a$$ for ten years to get here) - my fiance works part-time (25 hrs) per week and goes to school. We discussed our financial situation last night and basically what she told me was " She fully "expects" me to cover all the bills including groceries every week"....... so at the end of the day I feel like she's getting a free ride - yes she works and goes to school but every adult in this world pays a bill or two. She says the $800 (or so) she makes per month will go towards her credit card & car insurance, gas, etc...... everything else falls in my lap given I make alot more than she does........ Does this seem reasonable? Maybe I'm over-thinking it...? She's always been a hard worker (from what I understand) but has NEVER had a full-time job as she has always been in and out of school living off student loans, etc........ any advice would be appreciated.

2007-05-04 05:13:23 · 56 answers · asked by tommytsi 1

only to find out it was not greener or worth the heart ache to your family and wish that you would have given your marriage the effort that it needed.....ie- watered grass a little more?

2007-05-04 05:12:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-04 05:06:40 · 15 answers · asked by bubblybanu 1

I know it was one girl and I know the reasons why he did it, but how do I get over the past? We have a 2 year old together. He has done EVERYTHING I have asked of him and it's not fair to him for me to keep dwelling on the past and keep asking the same questions 15 times over!!! He has tattooed my name on his ring finger and has only gone to work during the day. He left the band he was in and got rid of old cell phone he had to prove to me that I am the one he wants. Why is it soooooo hard to get over the past and live for today? Help me please?!!

2007-05-04 04:59:43 · 11 answers · asked by PNJ T 1