~ How Can I Get My Husband To Understand ~?

Question

Every day it takes me about 2 hours waking him up and then he is late for work and my son ends up being 30 mins. late for school.
My son is falling behind in his classes because of this.
I have thought on telling his teacher why he is so late for school everyday, However I don't feel that it is right to tell his teacher that it is because of his father not waking up in the morning.
I love my husband and I will never talk down to anyone about him but because I don't I am the one who gets looked down on by my son's school. They have even suggested I need parenting classes but I don't.
Should I just tell his teacher about my husband and his problem in the morning?
Should I just stay home in the morning and request for my husband to start taking him to school and picking him up, Just so he can see what I go through in the morning?
It is not fair that I am the one who gets blamed for it all, When I am trying my best to get everyone together on time, and my husband will delay in the morning!

Answer 1

Your husband is a grown man and should not be dependent on you to get up in the morning. You child, however, is dependent on you.

Get the child up and take care of his needs. Stop allowing your husband to cause him to miss class.

One thing that worked with my son...buy some regular glass marbles. Put them in the freezer overnight. In the morning, throw them in the bed, under the covers next to your husband. No matter where he rolls, the marbles will follow. That worked a treat for my son.

What worked even better what changing his schedule so that he attended classes in the afternoon. Once he turned 18 and graduated, I stopped being responsible for his waking up in the morning. He lost a couple of good jobs, but that's his fault. He's doing fine now.

Answer 2

First of all you need to address the problem with your husband and tell him that you are not going to be responsible for getting him up anymore. Tell him that he is going to have to come up with another method of waking up. Then you should from now on, try waking him up ONCE if it doesn't work then you move on, you tried it is not your problem, then you go and take care of your son make sure he gets to school on time, he should not have to suffer in school because your husband is not taking responsibility for himself.

This is really a bad reason for having your son to school late there should be no excuse a grown man can not get himself up and out by himself.

Answer 3

Try waking your husband up 2 hrs earlier then normal. Set an alarm clock right next to his head. WHy should you be responsbile to get him up or try more then 2 times. You just need to leave then and take your son to school. DOnt make your son late anymore because of your husband. Your son is dependent on you but your husband is old enough to get up on his own.

Answer 4

Does your husband have a stressful job? Work long hours? Exhausted? That might explain why he doesn't get up on time. If it is frustrating to you b/c he doesn't get up on time maybe you should take your son to school. I suggest to get yourself and son up, get him ready for school and just take him. That way he will be on time and you won't have to continue to worry about him being late.

As for the husband, you can tell him to get up, if he still doesn't move or do as you say, leave him there! He is a grown man and if you have to continue over and over again to tell him to get up, it is awful. Next, thing I would get him is an ALARM! Place it right by his head!!!!

It is bad enough you are a mother trying to take care of your son and husband, the last thing you need is another child that just doesn't get the motivation to get up and get going. Your husband need to understand that. You are his WIFE not babysitter! Put your feet down and stand up to him.

Good luck. Women RULES!!!! =)

Answer 5

Why don´t you sleep in, or pretend too, tell your job that you´re going to a few doctors visits in the next couple of mornings. Once they give you permission, sleep in and see if he wakes up to the alarm. And tell the teacher the same thing. See how long it takes for him to get the picture. IF that doesn´t work. Take your kid and go to work and write a note to him saying "tried to wake you, sorry but if our son doesn´t get to school on time, he´ll be suspended" You can try explaining that to him first.

Or you can try a few drops of water on his forehead and really loud music.

Answer 6

Oh man. My daughter's father and I aren't together and I go through H. E. double hockey sticks sometimes to get her butt ready for school and I've had enough. She is almost 8 and she needs to start taking more responsibility in getting ready for school in the morning. I have an 8 mos old and a 3 year old--and it's not easy. So this past week you know what I did? (we have shared custody of her because that is what he pushed for in order to not pay support, but that's another story that I went along with....) So I tell him - listen, you wanted shared custody and you see her on your time when it's convenient for you----he says, well when do you want me to have her next - I said, "Monday thru Friday pal--mornings, nights---the whole week--so you can see what I go thru!" She has early morning and late daycare at her school so I told him ---you have to get to work? Gee, so do I--have fun getting her ready and taking her in to daycare. So now he has lasted this long....I'm afraid that she prob has a tardy or two, but hey, sometimes both parents have to step up.

Answer 7

I tend to run late for everything and I asked my wife for help, but she only helped a bit. I am often late to work, but 15 to twenty minutes late is not 2 hours just to get me up in the morning.

I would say that you need to sit your husband down and tell him that he is going to have to find a way to get up in the morning. Tell him that you have to leave at a specific time to get your son to school on time.

He is going to have to learn to be more responsible. Ask him what he did to get up before you got married. He must have done something to get himself up in the morning or did he live with his parents and his mommy got him up?

Take care,
Troy

Answer 8

I bet your husband is this non-caring in other aspects of his life too. You have a bigger problem than just alarms and school at this point. The hubby is simply NOT RESPONSIBLE.

Tell the school the truth. Let them know what the issues are. Perhaps the school counselor will be able to suggest some ideas as well.

Answer 9

If your husband can't get up in the morning, that's his own fault. If he gets fired, doesn't give a rats *** that his wife and son are suffering, then ditch him for an adult. I'm sorry but this is shameful. You and your son should not suffer because of his laziness. Take care of your son and let your husband fend for himself.

Answer 10

You must fnd another solution to get your son to school ontime. His education is too important. Have a talk with the personell at the school and rather then get into alot of personal drama - explain that due to your work schedule, your looking for options that are available to get him to school on time - if they could help you with that it would be appreciated. Then have a good talk with your spouse and explain that if he does not get up and going in the morning he's putting your relationship at risk as your child's education is more important then his extra 30 minutes of sleep!