I just filed a divorce due to irreconcilable differences.While i know that the waiting period of divorce is 6 months, I am afraid that my wife might apeal to court to delay the process so that i can't re-marry soon. Is that possible?
2007-05-04 05:53:29 · 12 answers · asked by Gelo Honey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am being used. She was nice to me until she finally got her citizenship. I want to think that she only married me to live legally here in the US. she became irritable, bossy, and spent all our money helping her family in her country. But whenever i send money to my family, she would be mad at me. I tried to save our marriage. I suffered for 6 years already. I don't love her anymore so whats the point of staying together. She left the apartment 6 months ago and i also met my long lost friend.We're friends since childhood and i knowher as a compassionate woman. In times when i almost gave up, she's there for me. It's only in her that i felt love. I told her i might end up gettinhg broke due to support and alimony.But she doesnt care, she stood by me during these hard times of my life. I also deserve to be happy. I want to start a new life with my girlfriend. And i already forgave my wife. She also had to move on. Not all marriages last, including mine
2007-05-04 06:32:29 · update #1
All she has to do is contest it! And she probably will, as it sounds like she wants to rake you over the coals. Maybe try legal seperation first. The best thing is to NOT let her know what you are doing. Unfortunately this happens all the time. You shouldn't jump into a new marriage until counciling for you. As There is the possibility you may be in *rebound mode*.
2007-05-11 09:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by spawanee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are divorcing because of "irreconcilable differences"? That's not a good enough reason to give up on your marriage so easily & then be eager to re-marry so soon. I suggest you wait to re-marry. It seems like you got a problem bailing out on a marriage that could have been repaired by love, understanding, respect & COMMUNICATION. Marriage is not like the simple boyfriend/girlfriend thing in High School that you just break up just because of "irreconcilable differences". In good times & in bad times is what a marriage will go through depending on how strong minded, strong hearted & smart you are. It's true that California State Law has a waiting period of 6 months before the divorce becomes final. It's not possible for your wife to delay that process unless she doesn't sign the divorce papers or doesn't turn them in at all. I still suggest you seek to find yourself & what you really want & make sure you got a grip on things before you re-marry, otherwise you will end up back in divorce again with your next soon to be wife.
2007-05-04 06:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know California law. But I assume it is a 6 month wait until you can file default papers on her and thus ending the marriage.
Yes, she can fight it if there is anything to fight for - property is usually the big one. But it sounds like you don't have any real property (land, house). Personal property - sounds like she must have her things already.
Why should she get alimony? I never did understand that. If she fights you in the divorce fight her on that. Why should she get a paycheck every month because you married her. She can get a job and support herself.
Support is usually determined by the court or by child support enforcement. She can't fight you on that. The numbers are put into their equation (Wages, other money made, insurance paid, days with each parent, etc.) and they figure out what is appropriate. Sounds like you are a working Joe so that should be relatively easy.
If she fights you, tell your lawyer that you want a clause in your papers that states that she will pay your attorney fees and costs. That should slow her down. If she has to pay this then she is not going to want to file a bunch of motions and such.
Don't be in a big hurry to remarry. You need some time to grieve over the loss of your marriage (even if it was bad) and to get yourself together (basically purge your system of her and find who you are without her). Otherwise you will be going into a new marriage with issues you don't even realize that you have and that is not a good thing. Dating is good. You have the rest of your life to get married again. Why rush it.
2007-05-11 23:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by bobbijoslin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell your wife now about this other woman. Also, wait a year or two after the divorce to get married again, because right now it appears to be a rebound relationship, even though you knew her for years and years. Wait until this mess is over completely before getting engaged. My husband was divorced for 15 years before marrying me and we get along quite well. We'll be married going on 5 years in July. We have a spat every once in a blue moon, but who doesn't? The point is, wait until you are healed. Also, if you marry her right now,especially since your soon to be ex is in spite mode, your new wife will get very tired of the nonsense and leave as well. Wait until this is all over, wait a year or two AFTER the divorce is final, and then get remarried.
2007-05-12 02:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No defense of your situation is necessary. However, I'm curious why you want to enter into another marriage right away. Maybe it will be better if you take a "time out" period, and focus on your priorities. Self development is the main goal, but its difficult to attain when participating in marriage. There are so many compromises necessary to make a marriage work. I'm not saying that you shouldn't marry this person, but why not wait a few months, change happens.
2007-05-12 05:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to remarry,, Man no way would I want to jump into another one, I got divorced and remarried 2 years later, and I wish to God I never had married that second time,
let alone the first ,although I have good kids and grandkids,
2007-05-04 08:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but when you get the divorce decree they usually tell you too wait so long before you remarry.
2007-05-04 06:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get A very good lawyer. he'll work things out fro you
2007-05-12 02:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by sholly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her know about the girlfriend or she probably will.
2007-05-12 05:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by p00756 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO THAT IS NOT POSSIBLE IF SHE DON'T SIGN IT AFTER 60 DAYS I THINK YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO HAVE TO HAVE IT APROVED WITHOUT HER PERMITION THEN U CAN GET MARRIED.
2007-05-11 19:41:40 · answer #10 · answered by carmen g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋