2007-05-04 08:31:10 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Remember:
Why you married the person in the first place.
You don't always have to be right.
And that you don't always have to win the fight.
No body's perfect not even you.So except and understand their faults.
Foolish pride has no place in a marriage.
You are a team and you are to act has one.Not make solitary decisions that will effect you both.
Even if you don't necessarily feel the same degree of love for him/her.That you felt in the beginning.It doesn't mean you have fallen out of love.Because the reality of marriage is some days you may not even like the person you are married.But give your relationship a chance and you will feel better another day.I love my hubby more than life itself.But truth be told some-days I don't like him very well.But I also know that I never want to live without him.
Lastly despite what others may tell you.You don't automatically become his/her best friend just because you got married.If you are very lucky you marry you best friend.But it isn't a requirement.They can have a best friend that isn't you.It doesn't mean you aren't the most important person in their life.It just means that they have a life of their own.
2007-05-04 13:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too late- you should have asked before the wedding we would have said don't get married! But seriously communication and forgiveness is the key to a good relationship. It should have trust as the cornerstone- thats your foundation, giving each other plenty of respect and freedom of choices- listen to what the other has to say- don't argue angrily- talk and plenty of making love- not just sex- but making love. Make lots of time for each other and when little ones come along keep these simple rules and you will be a happy family.
Libs
2007-05-04 08:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I meet when he was 19 and I was 16, we started dating when I was 17 and he was 20. We got married when I was 20 and he was 23. We are sooooo happy. We are going on 3 years, and a year ago a lady at wal-mart who was checking us out told us that we where "to happy" to have been married for 2 years. It was so nice to see that people can see how much in love we are. The trick is not to fight over the small stuff and don't be a cranky wife. I love taking care of my husband and because of that he takes care of me. We spend LOTS of time together. Once you start putting other things first you will go downhill. You husband should be number 1 no matter what. No matter what we always go to bed together at night and the number one thing that keeps us strong is the fact that we eat dinner together EVERY NIGHT at the dinner table with the TV OFF!!!! We still joke around like kids and we spend most of our nights playing cards or something. We try not to spend the nights watching TV and no talking. If you are going to fight, just ignore each other, don't yell and fight and say stuff you don't mean. It will only hurt things, after a few days sit down and talk things out. I can be so mad at him, and a week later we are making jokes about what we where fighting about. Also, we have a no Internet or TV days set for ever Sunday. We have to read or talk or play cards or games. But we cant get on the Internet or turn on the TV. Sometimes we will let our self watch ONE movie. But normally we don't end up watching it because we spend the night talking. I love him so much!!!
*** Also, NEVER TALK BAD ABOUT HIM TO OTHER PEOPLE. I make it a point not to tell people wen we are fighting. Because most people will only remember that stuff and when you are in LOVE with him, they wont like him because of past things you say about him. And never once have I called him a jurk or any other bad name in a fight. No matter how mad I get, he is my husband and I respect him.
In the 3 years that we have been married we have never had a fighting and yelling arument. Dont let people tell you that its normal....
also, you married him so dont try to change him in anyways!
2007-05-04 08:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by dohm84 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember it always be up and down . Never stays as newlyweds. We are married for 15 yrs and around the 3rd we started our down only to go up again . Rollercoaster. When we hit our down , I started to question - Why I married him , should I end it and all that . We kept trucking through . Good times were great - and Bad times were horrible. Where are we today ? Wonderful .After all the ups and downs - We are at a point were we respect , honor , cherish and adore eachother . Now we feel like newlyweds. Its been this way for 18 monts and I cant wait for the next 15yrs. Unless someone is unfaithful or abusing . Hang in there and always remind yourself WHY you fell in love with that person.
2007-05-04 08:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by suiki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was married at 18 (I am 23 now) and the best advice I can think of is be ready for change. Marriage is a lot different from dating. Be ready for problems to arise, because they will. But do not argue about things you cannot change. Be supportive for one another and talk things through. Always remember when you are angry why you married the person that you did and that always helps me. Sometimes my husband know just how to push my buttons and totally piss me off; but I try to take a deep breath, remember he is the love of my life and work it out. Good luck! :)
2007-05-04 08:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by BamaBelle810 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I agree these are the things that make up a great marriage (we are best friends & still in love after 16 years):
1. Compromise, compromise, compromise - it's really easy
2. Respect
3. Best Friends
4. Don't be determined to win a fight...is it really winning?
5. Have your spouse's best interest at heart - always
I think the best spouse is one that will love you as a parent would...nothing compares.
2007-05-04 09:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by qanda 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be patient with each other, this kind of change will take time. Work everything out with out anger when using your words. Pay your bills before splurging on some new car or something.
And...don't let the love fade as time passes.
2007-05-04 08:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a newlywed (married Oct. 1, 2005) my best advice is be patient, be trusting and forgiving and it'll stand the test of time.
Comprimising is a plus too!
2007-05-04 08:37:59 · answer #8 · answered by ProudArmyWife2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have babies right away. Give it at least 2-3 years of having a little peace and alone time with each other before you start doing all of that crap.
2007-05-04 08:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate often, talk, talk, talk. There will be comprises on both ends and that's okay. And know that you will argue and that's really okay. Learn from them. And a honeymoon is not limited to when you get married. Take time to take little trips to decompress. And don't forget to laugh and enjoy having your best buddy along for the life ride. Congrats!
2007-05-04 08:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋