My cousin's husband has been accusing her of cheating on him. Mind you, in the 11 years that they have been together he has not found any phone numbers, emails, letters, text messages or any other form of communication from another man. Recently he has accused her of crossing the fence and becoming lesbian. I told her that he is really loosing what little mind he had!!!! He has set up hidden cameras around their house and still nothing!!!! What is wrong with this fool?!!! Why is he trying so hard to find dirt on my cousin?
He has cheated on her in the past,.....and I told her to leave him then!!! BUT she was determined to stay and work it out. Somebody help stop the madness!!! By the way, I can't stand him and I think the air he inhales is a bad waste of oxygen!!!! I told her to go ahead and file for divorce and find a man that will trust her. Am I right or wrong??? I think she is getting to the point that she is fed up with this fool.
2007-05-04 08:20:44 · 7 answers · asked by Miss G. H. Etto 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To all those who answered as if I am too far in her business, I'm not!!!! I really prefer not to know but at the same time I have to be an open ear and a soft shoulder for her. I know it's her decision. If it was my decision they never would have gotten married.
2007-05-07 14:16:40 · update #1
The fact that he cheated sounds like it is effecting him more than her! Ever notice once someone starts cheating, they are the ones who actually are cheating? Maybe he's having some guilt issues of his own! But this is for her to decide and you need to just be supportive of her decisions.
2007-05-04 08:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by Shelly C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he feels if he blames her for cheating
that the guilt he has with his past infedelity will be easier to handle. I think your cousin should consider leaving this guy
it looks like he is accusing an innocent person just because he feels like crap for cheating in the first place and is trying to rationalize what he did was okay because the wife is doing it to. I would also think that he still cheating on her. I think she has to consider divorce now because he will never change he has this wrapped around in his mind and unless he gets some counselling it will just keep escalating. I'm surprised that she has put up with this crap as long as she has, she should get an award for her determination and commitment to this fool.
DIVORCE it appears is the only rational choice!
2007-05-04 15:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you have to let her get to the point where she's fed up with him...you have no control over this and although it's painful to watch, you really must mind your P's and Q's. It has nothing to do with you. All you can do is be there for her. He's probably acting out of guilt of the fact that he did it to her, and he's going to have to realize (hopefully not the hard way) that the more he berrates her, the more likely he's going to lose her altogether.
2007-05-04 15:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already told her how you feel now it is her decision to leave. She knows that you do not like him and think that she could do better. It is now up to her to leave him. If you continue to talk to her about how bad her husband is it might backfire on you and she will stop talking to you. You are right she should leave however it is her decision.
2007-05-04 15:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say 11 years is more than enough time to put up with this. And I am wondering why you are Continuing to let it ruin your life.
2007-05-04 15:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is HIS insecurity, HIS issue. He needs to get himself to counseling to get it addressed. I wouldn't have her patience, I'd have made him get help or left him at least 8 years ago.
2007-05-04 15:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She really needs to leave him .. before something bad happens.. that is psychotic!
2007-05-04 15:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by Dee S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋