do you just move on and never look back? My now ex wife of 18 years acts like I never was in her life. She seems so happy but my friends tell me its just a mask she is putting on. I want her to be happy thats how much i will always love her she is the mother of my children and we have a bond that nobody can take away not even hr coworker. Do people who go for what they think is greener grass ever look back at who they hurt so much? I'm just trying to understand a dumpers feelings
2007-05-04 07:15:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, they do look back but all too often they are affaid of what people would say if they try to go back. Its about pride, most don't really want everyone else know that they made such a huge mistake.
2007-05-04 07:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by syns_pleasure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was not a dumper but was a dumpee. You will never know how she is feeling because your friends are right she will put a mask on no matter what the situation is. You just need to work on yourself and stop worrying about your ex. She moved on with her life with someone new now it is time for you to have fun. Stay as busy as you can so you can get your mind off of her. Start dressing and looking your best and start doing things that you enjoy. Start going out and having fun being single. The more happier you become the less you will think about her. The more happier you become the more your ex will see she made a mistake and by that time it will be to late. You have a second chance to have fun being single live it up.
2007-05-04 14:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Most of them do, they just don't say anything, their afraid of what people will think. They are afraid they may never be forgiven for the mistakes they've made or are making. Some have regrets and try to turn back to make it right, or want to but are afraid it may not work again. Most people when they aren't happy they do try to look for greener pastures. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't. If she's going to be happy, then you deserve to try to be happy too. I know it's hard, but just take it one day at a time. *Coming from experience*
2007-05-04 14:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by ladyluck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She moved on, it is not healthy to keep looking backwards and being upset over what happened. I am sure she was hurt and you will never really know what is in her heart so would just try to move forward. We all can look back on our lives and say if we could do it over again there would be a different choice in many situations not just marriage.
2007-05-04 14:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course they look bad. They look back when reality sinks in and they realize that life still isn't easy and their own happiness isn't a given. Some people have to learn the hard way that life is what you make of it and no one is given a free ride.
2007-05-04 14:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sometimes most realize the grass was actually more of a brownish-yellowish color on the other side. But by then they are a day late and a dollar short. Sorry for your loss.
2007-05-04 14:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋