My husband and I met when I was twelve and he was 16. We both agreed I was very young, but neither of us wanted to ever be with anyone else. For two years we hung out, and on my fourteenth birthday, with both families in full support, we got married. We both come from very liberal, "hippie" families, and my mother was married when she was 17. I'm seventeen now, and my husband and I love each other still so much. We have our own house, and he's planning to go to Harvard Law School next year. I'm headed to RISD the fall. I just want you all to know we aren't... a weird, hick kind of people. We are both educated, intelligent people. However, we were married so young. He's 21 now, and we are both changing a lot, but our love just seems to be stronger and stronger.
Is this real, or just a long time infatuation?
Is it weird that we were married so young?
2007-05-04 07:46:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Help! Please, what do you think?
2007-05-04 07:48:59 · update #1
Every relationship has its reason and destiny. Yours has a different purpose and mission. You trust each other, you love each other, and you are blessed with understanding parents. True love manifests itself in many ways. There is nothing wrong in recognizing that you are for each other. You may not fall into "normal" or "common" patterns of love. Maybe you have already worked out your difficulties and conflicts in the past life and this is your reward for being good people.
Of course at 21 you will change and continue to change. But you can experience the changes together. A long time ago, even before you were born, you have already chosen each other to be each others soul mate. And that is a wonderful thing.
Don't be afraid of the future. You have a good thing going. You might even entertain other feelings. But you will always choose to be with him because you have already done that.
Enjoy life and each other. Appreciate what others long for in a life time.
2007-05-04 08:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by Maria V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you if it'll last or not. Statistics show otherwise because you find yourself more in your 20s. However, statistis show that statistics sometimes are wrong, lol. I've been w/my husband since I was 14, childhood friends. Now married 14 years. It's still great for us. You'll grow together and one day look at him and realize he's turned into a full fledge man and so proud to be along together on this journey, lol. You guys sound like ur doing great. Got a great future ahead if you keep it up. I say long as both of you are commited and communicating, you can make it! Age really is just a number. Good luck! =)
2007-05-04 14:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
While your situation is unusual, I would not say it is weird. It is just not the social "norm". I met my husband when I was 14 and he was 16. We waited until we were in our twenties to get married but we have been together now for over 17 years. There have been good and bad times and times when we fought hard to keep it together while we were growing and changing but we knew it was worth it. Now we are very happy, in our thirties and with two beautiful little boys. I never dreamed I could be this happy. I wouldn't worry about how you two came together but be grateful that you have each other, cherish each day you have together and work hard on maintaining good communication and trust through the very difficult twenties.
2007-05-04 15:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jbuns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think its very strange that ur parents let u get married at 14... people grow and change as they get older and it was unlikely to last. But if everything seems fine then why complain. But u are only 17 and will continue to change so u never know what u might feel in the future
2007-05-04 14:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is different but, I know a couple that got married when she was 15 and he was18. They raised 2 kids. They have celebrated there 25th wedding anniversary and had a baby just 2 years ago when their first child was 23 years old. It doesn't usually work but there cases that it does. Best luck to you!!!!!!
2007-05-04 23:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats to your wedding and being being married for a few years Wait 15 or 20 years down the road and see if all is still rosy. Good luck
2007-05-04 14:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what strangers think.
People are stupid creatures and will give you bad advise out of jealousy. If what you say is true don't listen to anyone and just keep doing what you are doing. You are living the dream most of us want.
2007-05-04 15:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking if it is weird? You already know that people think it is weird. What is most important is what YOU think and feel...and the commitment you are willing to make and to honor. God bless!
2007-05-04 15:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"If it ain't broke, don't fix it!" You and your husband have what it takes.....maybe I should have married at 14 myself, lol. Mine didn't work! Congrats to you and your husband...you're setting the example for the rest of us!
2007-05-04 14:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be grateful for what you have. You are so blessed. People look there whole life to find what you have. It's wonderful, not weird.
2007-05-04 15:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by April First 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋