My wife and I married within 3 months of knowing each other. We blended families (her kid and my kids). She was so in love with me it was scary. As the relationship went on and reality set in and we started arguing, as all married couples argue, she decided she wanted to be separated from me. Apparently losing all love for me. She was very indecicive on being with me or not (even though she portraited she was so in love with me). It’s like it dropped totally off. I couldn’t believe it. Then when we got back together she was reluctant to even trust me. Then she started in on that we should have a kid together. I told her we were just separated maybe we should wait. Big problem. Then she took matters into her own hands and quit taking her birth control. She’s pregnant. Now she decides that she hasn’t been taking care of herself (drinking,smoking,taking anti depressants) and she’s planning on having an abortion. I just agreed with whatever she wants to do at this point plus if she’s not taking care of herself, the kid doesn’t have a chance. My point is what the heck is wrong with her? She can love and hate and change her mind so quickly. It’s very scary. I think she’s a little crazy and when she says she loves me, I don’t believe it. I don’t have any idea how she’ll be in 2 months. Problem is I love her to death. What’s wrong with her? She’s messed up.
2007-05-04 04:40:59 · 26 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
something else to add. She's also just turning 30 and she suffered a major depression in college. she also had been engaged like 3 times before me. Also she is absolutely beautiful. I mean extremely pretty but such low self esteem.
2007-05-04 08:32:08 · update #1
She sounds bi-polar.You need to get her to a Psychiatrist.
2007-05-04 04:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, I would suggest seeing a councelor. I am serious, something is up with her. You don't just have mood swings like that. Something could seriously be wrong, that only a head docter could fix. If I were you, I wouldn't let her get an abortion. I would tell her that you are the father and you wont let that happen. Then, I would stop messing with her all together. She sounds like a cook that you could do much better with out.
2007-05-04 04:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a forum of public opinion.
You are asking people and some children to diagnose your wife.
I think you being an idiot isn't helping.
3 months then married
separated
pregnancy
abortion
you just following the lead of someone irrational
You can fix many things in this world, but you can't fix stupid.
2007-05-04 05:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself. She's messed up. My son just got left by a woman that he'd jumped into a relationship with, and she said that she was pregnant by him. She sounded like the same kind of girl. We all decided that she has serious issues, and the baby is probably her ex's. I think that he's better off that she left him, especially since she's a lousy mother and a slob. You would probably be better off without her too. She obviously has some mental issues. (And by the way, if you love and totally respect the other person and their views, you will not argue. Have disagreements maybe, but if you remember that you don't own that person, you should pretty much get along).
2007-05-04 04:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by karenhar 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is she on anti-depresants? If so she probabley has some sort of chemical imbalance causing her to be irrational at times. This is very normal/common, some people just deal with it better than others. My sister can be this way at times. Usually being very calm around them, and medication can help, if not they need to seek professional help, if they are not able to control their behaviors and moods. I would suggest telling her calmly your concern for her, and tell her something has to change because you can not live this way. If she doesn't try to work on her problem or seek help....I would honestly get out of the relationship until she is happy with herself. I am sensing she has self esteem issues that she needs to address, or unfortunetly you can never be a happy couple, until she is happy with herself. This is very serious, you need to offer to help her through. And as hard as it may be, if you don't see a change, take a break...then she will realize the seriousness of her behavior and hopefully want to change.
2007-05-04 04:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by Leslie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think SHE'S crazy, take a look at the man in the mirror. Here's a guy who put his own children at risk by marrying a woman he'd only known for 3 months, and he wants to know what's wrong with HER. Now, that's crazy!
2007-05-04 05:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is in love with the excitement, the drama - something always has to be happening or she gets "bored" or thinks something is wrong. First it was the "rush" of being in love & getting married. When that wore off, you started arguing - she needed drama. Wanting a kid is more drama, and now an abortion is more drama.
There is probably a psychological issue going on - low self esteem, or bipolar, or something, and without some very hard work on her part you will be feeding this drama monster forever. Find a good psychiatrist/psychologist and try real hard to get her there.
Good luck.
2007-05-04 04:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like to me, she showed you everything she wanted you to see before you guys got married. Now you're seeing her true colors and what you're seeing isn't pretty. You fell in love with what she wanted you to see, I'm sorry to say. I think it's time to get out of this relationship and move on. There are too many things wrong here that I don't think you can fix...let's face it, you didn't "break it" so you 'can't fix it"....
2007-05-04 04:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem is with you , you said that you love her to death , and she knows that and treat you according to that , you do what she wants , not the right thing , even if she is going to make a disaster , you agree with her. try to make her stop these silly behaviors . prevent her from abortion , try to show her that you can't love her that way . and she should be reasonable in her actions and demands . and she should care about you as you care about her , or you should go on separation . I think if she is acting at you , she might be good . and if she needs any kind of assistance she will ask for it herself , or be serious on separation .
2007-05-04 05:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say neither one of you thought this through. you think she is crazy? it took two to get married. from where i sit and read you are both a little crazy and irresponsible. you have children to care for!!!! but now that you have gotten married and presented the children with this new family you owe it to them to try to fix it. get couseling. it is very stressful blending a family. when you first start blending it can be a nightmare and i would think it would be natural for the relationship to suffer. you two didn't take enough time to develop relationships with the children or develop conflict strategies or to see how each of you reacts under stress. now think of your wife. yeah, she could be "crazy". but maybe it was just too much, too soon. you married her for better or worse right? stick it out and get yourselves to a counselor.
2007-05-04 05:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happens, DO NOT GET AN ABORTION! Take care of that precious baby and your wife. Marrige means uncondtional love, and that means ANY condition. Take her to the doctor because obviously she neees help, but do not KILL that baby. I will pray for you and your family. Just pray, like someone said earlier, God is the proffesional. Have faith. My prayers are with yall.
2007-05-04 05:28:26 · answer #11 · answered by suthurnbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋