to stay in a marriage, when you are not sure if you love your spouse? I know that sounds awful, but things have changed drastically between us. It's the complete opposite of what it used to be. And something is telling me to leave. I don't think that he'd hurt me physically or anything, but I don't know how much more crap I can take.
2007-05-04 02:24:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, there is no physical abuse. He is just severly depressed a lot of the time. And his attitude is hardly ever good. If anything there is only MINOR emotional abuse, but nothing that I cannot take.
2007-05-04 02:39:26 · update #1
He acts really over-possessive. Not QUITE "sleeping with the enemy" possessive, but kind of similar. I don't feel like we have a marriage, that's for sure. It feels more like he thinks he 'owns' me or something and it is really starting to freak me out.
2007-05-04 02:43:09 · update #2
Why not try getting your husband to go to his doctor and be put on an anti-depressant? If he's depressed, no wonder your marriage isn't happy. He may need some counseling alone. Then maybe the two of you can try marriage counseling together. Give everything a chance to work out, before you think about the word "divorce."
When you have given it all you can and HE has given it all HE can...then maybe your marriage can get back to the way it was...HAPPY.
Please keep us all informed. I wish you and your marriage, the very best of luck.
2007-05-04 02:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by HeatherM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
people are changing every day they learn more and more about themselves as they grow older. if you married you husband at a very young age then it was like an adventure and now that you have settled into your married life and the different habit that you did not know about are beginning to show thing change you change so of cause you began to wonder what happen ans how did you get there. now it is up to you to decide if you want top stay in the relationship. talk to him let him know what you are feeling, how scared you are that you may have made a mistake and hope for the best. hi might be thinking the same way and just does not know how to tell you. you know that this is not a one way street and he may be having a few problems also
2007-05-04 09:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel girl. You feel like if you leave it might be a mistake. But if something is telling you that you need to go, listen to it. Maybe if you leave he will realize what he done wrong and ask for forgiveness. I'm not trying to make this sound like it is easy, cause it's not. You will hurt for a while and questions yourself on why you left him. But just stay strong. If he whines and mopes don't give in. Make him understand how you feel.
2007-05-04 09:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find yourself unable to take much more crap, the solution is not to divorce, but to STOP TAKING CRAP. Get assertive and stand up for yourself. Put your foot down about behaviors you dislike and don't give your spouse a free pass. Once you begin to demonstrate your power in this relationship, things will improve.
2007-05-04 09:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u and i am in the same boat.................even i feel the same.at first everything was soo nice soo romantic and sweet and everything looks soo odd.our mentalities dont match we have a lot of differences....but know what when ur hurt this is the person that stands besides u and help u.it might seem that he doesn't care but thats the person who loves u the most.live life to the fullest and get engaged in some activity like a job.
well u dont get to know the importance of the thing u have unlit u loose it........
2007-05-04 09:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by kudos_009 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what you mean by "crap". when you mention hurting you physically it makes me think that abuse is involved. if that's it, you really need to consider leaving the relationship. especially if that's what your conscience is telling you. if i'm wrong, and that isn't the case, give it some more time. as we get older, we change.maybe talk about counseling or at least a good heart to heart.
2007-05-04 09:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your situation, but I do know that marriage isn't all good...it has it's ups and downs, and hopefully things will get better and start looking up for you.
2007-05-04 10:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking a break. Sometimes a few days or a few weeks apart can clear your head.
2007-05-04 09:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by Amy L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest talking to him to see how he feels, if you are both over it, then yes you should leave, however if either of you think it is worth saving then try some marriage counseling
2007-05-04 09:30:03 · answer #9 · answered by colee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to life is to be happy, why stay if you are not happy.
2007-05-04 09:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by 400lbtwins 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋