I know someone who is getting married soon in a baptist church (in Pontypool). His wife divorced him because he was violent to her. I am worried that he may hit his new wife and she may not know of his history and that this may be against Church principles. Should ministers ask to see copies of divorce certificates (as these would show if previous divorce on grounds of someone's intolerable behaviour?) Or does baptist church allow that people can make mistakes and can change?
2007-05-04 02:05:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am baptist, but dont really no a WHOLE lot about it. But we do believe in change and forgiveness. But i would let her kno about his past if she doesnt already kno, which she probably does if he's still the same cause he probably hits her too. But may be he did change his ways when he losts his first wife.
2007-05-04 02:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by vbolden88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a good question. I go to a baptist church and I would say it would all depend on the pastor doing the wedding. My dad was a minister at a baptist church for about twenty years and has done many weddings so I asked him what he would do. He said he would not wed the couple unless the man had taken an anger management class. He also said that in order for a couple to be married in a baptist church they have to take a marriage counseling class first; which would help the man. Hope that helps you out some! =D
2007-05-04 02:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by Wes M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wedding ceremonies used to have a place where the minister asked if anyone knew a reason that these two should not be married. While it would probably cause a commotion, this would be one time that the concern could be brought up. What I would suggest would be a call to the minister who is going to perform the ceremony. Most Baptist churches have a meeting with the couple to make sure that both are Christians so they won't be unequally yoked. A word to the minister could give him a clue as to which way to direct the counseling to make sure this is out in the open.
2007-05-04 02:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a previous poster said, churches are big on forgiveness, however just because amends and remorse is forthcoming, doesn't mean an abuser's habits do an immediate change, if they ever change at all.
Many churches refuse to perform marriages for various reasons. This could be one significant factor why a church could refuse to sanction this marriage. Also, as a concerned individual, having privilege to any legitimate information that could prove harmful to another, you may want to consider bringing it to the attention of the pastor of that particular church. As difficult as it may be, and the criticism it may draw, it may save an individual from becoming another statistic.
2007-05-04 02:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God says some things we all know, but never really mull over:
All sin is the same
We ALL fall short of perfection
Everyone can change and become a better person, so of course, marry again. If not, everyone would stay single after a marriage as we all have sins and problems in relationships.
We were all different in the past, dating years etc. If our current relationship was based on every past one, eeeek! Just imagine!
It's up to friends and everyone to make sure the woman knows how bad the man was, in all honesty. To not tell her is wrong, she should know if he was abusive. To make a good choice.
2007-05-04 02:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baptist chuch is HUGE on forgiveness. As long as he has made amends and is remorseful, then yes he can marry in the baptist church.
2007-05-04 02:08:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not up to the church to decide...of course it is wrong that a man prone to be violent should stand up in church and declare his love one minute then beat that woman to a pulp the next.
If this woman that he is marrying doesn't know of his violent past then she should be informed before saying 'I do' the it is up to her to decide if she still wants to marry him.
2007-05-04 02:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by blazing_staruk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As many baptist churches as there are I am sure that one can be found that will allow anything.
2007-05-04 02:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats kinda tricky .. assuming that he is a born again christian .. these things should not happen again .. but if hes not and there is no indication that he has changed then i suggest going to the pastor to let him know so that he can address the issue first hand .. you stay out of the picture.. cause she may not believe you and he may come after you ..
2007-05-04 02:11:33 · answer #9 · answered by pivotalperson111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is a forgiver and giver of second chances. Most churches welcome pre-marital counseling. I would have them do this. It's a wonderful time of bonding.
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2007-05-05 01:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by Vincent W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋