Do you think if my wife stays out till all hours of the night most nights?

Question

that she could be cheating on me? She also showers in the basement first thing when she comes home. Should I be worried?

Answer 1

Does she have to get a hammer and hit you with it so you will open your eyes?? These are obvious signs of cheating! I am happily married for over 16 years and I can count on one hand the times that either me or my hubby stood out till "all hours". We do go out separately but both of us respect each other enough to come home at a reasonable hour and we don't go out most nights either..maybe a few times a year. that is the way a marriage is supposed to work...Communication, honesty and respect. If you don't have that, its not worth committing your life to someone.

Answer 2

Seven common warning signs someone is cheating on you:

1. The most common warning is when a partner tells you something is amiss and you don't believe it. He or she may say, 'This marriage isn't working,' or 'I am not happy.'
2. Sudden change -- or interest -- in appearance.
3. If your partner says, 'You need to see a psychiatrist,' 'You need help,' 'Get a job,' 'Lose weight,' or 'Go to the gym,' and is constantly critical, it's all part of the same theme -- which is that there is something wrong with you. Unconsciously, they are setting it up to say their partner was nuts and wouldn't even go for help. Another tip-off is when he or she starts picking fights about something you are good at, so you fight back and then he or she calls you argumentative.
4. Gives you guilt gifts.
5. If you get the cold shoulder at your spouse's company holiday party where everyone used to be friendly, it's a sign that his colleagues either know about the affair and figure you are on the way out, so why be nice? Or your partner has been making critical comments about you so they think you are no good.
6. When a partner is sneaking around a bit, it's a sign. Maybe he or she takes secret cell phone calls on the porch instead of using the phone by the bed, or maybe he is out on weeknights whereas he used to be home watching television. If you see that a person is not around that much and is gone on different nights, something may be up.
7. Sometimes people with a background of these types of things may be more likely to repeat them. There are exceptions and people can change patterns in their life, but if we are talking about red flags, history is a red flag.

Answer 3

hmmm well to me sounds like she's working out on the farm.

well the only people I know that are out all hours of the night and then go take a shower in the basement are farmers!!

I could be wrong, ask her!

You have a basement?

Answer 4

I would be worried.. You had better sit her down and get some answers from her. i mean really why would a woman come home and first thing she does is take a shower, does she even say "hey baby I'm home" or anything, i would get to the bottom of this now.

Answer 5

That is exactly what my first husband did when he would go out and not come home until midnight or later. Yes I would be worried because he was cheating on me. He denyed it but I soon found out he was cheating. That was 10 years ago and now I am blessed that he cheated on me and left me for another woman. I found someone who respects our marriage and spends lots of time with just me :)

Answer 6

Yes you should be worried - have you asked her why she showers in the basement & where she is wwhen she is out all night? Talk to your wife.

Answer 7

She's a total disrespect to the marriage!! She needs a reality check, "I wish I would come home at a non descent hour ' then shower." I know I'll be meeting my maker."

Answer 8

She's having sex with multiple partners, but she doesn't consider it cheating. It is normal to take a shower to wash off the scent of men's cologne and dried semen before going to bed.

Answer 9

Maybe she's just washing the smoke smell off of her, or maybe the night's activities - either way if my wife was out all night without me I'd be very concerned.

Answer 10

Yes, you have anything and everything to be worried about. If she showers, she is washing something off of her! She is definatly cheating. Throw her a** out, or you leave. You might contract something if she is 'washing off'!