Marriage & Divorce - 1 May 2007

we have been unhappy for many years now and we have agreed to split up but we have two children and i needed to know if we both agree on who stays in the house, keeps the children etc do we need to go through the courts also if i need paperwork to make it legal that i have custody of my children without dragging them through the courts as he agrees that i stay in the house with the children but whats to say he wont change his mind and start being difficult! please help.

2007-05-01 09:50:44 · 35 answers · asked by foxy 1

I had my first hearing on my divorce today and my husband brought his girlfriend, Is it just me or is that tacky?

2007-05-01 09:50:33 · 19 answers · asked by YouAsked4it 3

I fell in love with a married woman since last year. She is not happy with her husband who had cheated on her and admitted to me that she loves me. But every time I try to touch her, she resists. I have convinced her 100%, she is the one I love and if something happends to her I will take care of her. She told that she hates it when people touches her. She gets some kind of nervousness. Question is, did something happened to her during childhood that is making her like that or something that I do not get? I have been with so many women, religious ones, that finally was okay with kisses but with this one I am very confused. One time I took both her and her sister out, and I touched her hand many times. Later, her sister told me that she spent nearly two hours in the bathroom taking shower, scrubbing herself. I am confused with this girl, is she mentally sick? She is religious and if she follows religously she should not be talking as I don't call her, she call me.

2007-05-01 09:45:11 · 14 answers · asked by Shah_Ru 1

Friday is my 1st wedding anniversary (although we've been together for over 4 years). I have the day off work - but obligations starting early saturday, so going out of town is out of the question, but we have a friend staying at our place (so we're not alone). What is appropriate for a 1st anniversary? Just dinner? My husband said he will do "whatever I want" and I am at a loss. HELP PLEASE!

2007-05-01 09:22:16 · 11 answers · asked by AriesJWR 4

my wife of 20 years treat me like dirt i am good to her i cook clean do the laundry go to the store . buy her stuff animals,flowers,clothes i do all this and all i ask is that she love me back she spends most of her time on the computer and out with her friends and when i ask if i can go with her she she saids no and if i surggust a romantic nite together where she where she goes out buys me somethings romantic or do something romantic for me or just surprize me she never have the money or time it,s somthing always more important then my needs or wants i also whish that she wouldn,t fuss at me in public or yell so the whole house and block could hear.

2007-05-01 09:20:17 · 32 answers · asked by antoine h 1

Hope somebody can help me here. I moved in with my girlfriend 3 years ago. She was my high school sweetheart so I know she was the one for me. We had discussed our future several times before and the only thing that was missing was to get married. Last month I decided that it was time to set a date so I told her that we should go and pick up a ring and set a wedding date. She was so happy when we picked up a beutiful ring, but know she is alway complaining about how she never got a real proposal.

I did not know how important that moment was for gals so I really screwed up. She is wearing the ring now and we will get married later this year, but I feel so guilty, and I really want to make things right.

Any idea how I can fix this? I am not the most romantic guy in the world, c'mon girls, what can I do to fix this mess??

Thanks

2007-05-01 09:16:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

We're seperating and I left a bunch of stuff at our old apartment, which he is staying in.

He went through my stuff while I was not there, and found a journal from 8 years ago and 3 years into my marriage. I met an old boyfriend to tie up a loose end - we had broken up long before my marriage, but I went back to apologize for getting involved with him while he was married. I was having a lot of dreams about him at the time and was very emotional about the whole thing. Anyway I was young and foolish and although in my mind and in the journal I had romantic thoughts, in real life I only wanted to make amends as a friend and for spiritual reasons.
My husband claims I lied to him and says he does not believe I've never cheated on him. (I haven't.) He claims that as my husband he had every right to read my journal and that I betrayed him by what I did.

What do you think?

2007-05-01 09:14:50 · 18 answers · asked by Beach Bum 2

The judge in my divorce case (in Galveston County, Texas) has ordered that we come to an agreement or attend mediation before a certain date. I don't have an attorney, and I have no money (I have filed a response and a counter petition, though). Anyway, the court paperwork says failure to attend mediation and come to an agreement will result in the case being dropped. My wife is trying to bleed me for money, even though I am penniless.

So I guess my question is, If I don't attend the court ordered mediation (since I can't afford it), will anything bad happen (other than the case being thrown out)?

2007-05-01 09:08:00 · 16 answers · asked by Irv Lenzy 2

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ExEt5czMNSM&NR=1

2007-05-01 09:05:18 · 10 answers · asked by trooper (canine bad citizen) 3

i would like for her to treat me special like i do her but for some strange reason she can,t do that and it really hurt ihope that someone can help .

2007-05-01 08:47:51 · 24 answers · asked by antoine h 1

happily married, so she perceives this situation as as what?

Stable
Negative
Characteristic or
Temporary?

2007-05-01 08:47:25 · 5 answers · asked by 062419844142436830 1

I am working at a contract position right now. The company is moving their headquarters at the end of September. They want me to stay until then and are offering me a bonus to stay.

I am looking for a permanent job because then I will have benefits through the company. I am currently paying for COBRA benefits which are expensive.

My ex-husband has asked me to come and stay with my child in another state. He moved due to job reasons and wants me to stay in his house with the child for 2 more years until she graduates. She is living alone with her grandmother taking care of her now.

My parents are pushing me to stay here in the state where I live and not worry about my child. I am in a constant of worry for my daughter and its affecting my health.

What should I do? I want my priorities to be set right and do what is right...

Help!

2007-05-01 08:39:34 · 8 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

I live in the state of PA. I've been with a man for 14.5 yrs, We have 2 kids together. never married. He was married and divorced and has 1 kid to her. She abandoned the child so noone knows where shes at. They were married May 1989-May 1993. God forbid if something happens to him. If it should, what are my rights? Does she get his pension or do I? I know my kids would be taken care of but I need to know where I stand. Any ideas?

2007-05-01 08:33:36 · 9 answers · asked by Frankie 2

After 20 years of marriage my wife had a one night affair. She was forced to tell me because she thought she had given me an STD. (As it turned out, this was not the case) She then told me that she was drinking to much left herself alone with this person & the sex was almost a rape scenario. She was willing to discuss it and I was wanting to understand.
After several months she said she couldn't lie to me anymore. She said she did have far to much to drink but was in control of the situation and willingly went home and slept with him. She stated that "it was the worst night of my life" but has refused to discuss it since.
She has since quit drinking, discovered the church and has treated me like she hasn't in years. During the "he took advantage of someone to drunk to stop him" story, I discovered who the person was. He is a friend of a very close friend of hers.
I can see this person without him knowing who I am. For some reason this seems important to me. Should I??

2007-05-01 08:32:52 · 48 answers · asked by unsure 1

He is Mexican, I am Native. Yet I am Christian and he is Catholic- His family doesnt follow the Bible in regards to fornication and bastard children. Most of his of relatives keep having sex and kids outside of marriage and they all think this is great! I, on the other hand am horrified, as I was raised that you do no have sex outside of marriage much less kids, as its a HUGE sin. Each time we receive invitations to baby showers, or get this, BAPTISMS for these illegitimate kids, I cring, as I do not want to support these sinful happenings by going to these events, much less give them money or presents. Dont get me wrong, the KIDS are not a fault, as they didnt ask to be born from sin, but the parents are.
How can I say NO to these events and get out of going without causing a huge fight. (these occur with frequency, at least 3 times a year or more, as they are like rabbits and pop out kids alot) HELP!

2007-05-01 08:28:19 · 18 answers · asked by flyingdove 4

Even after years of being with a married man in which he lives with you and his wife is aware of all of this he has still not started divorce proceedings. Opinions not judgement is needed.

2007-05-01 08:27:01 · 26 answers · asked by deecee4ever 2

of my underwear over my wifes head right into the laundry basket? Any guy would shoot that shot, right??? It's almost mandatory. Why isn't my wife talking to me?

2007-05-01 08:22:04 · 17 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

What initially brought you two together, or what attracted you to one another? How did you know that you wanted to spend the rest of your life together?

2007-05-01 08:20:05 · 12 answers · asked by Shane 1

Today while cleaning our room I found a hard-copy of a bill, which I had perviously viewed on the internet. (on the bill are payments he made to the dating site.) If we for whatever reason divorce will I need it? My question is should I keep it or toss it?

Background information:
I caught my husband using a dating site. Later to find out that he was having cyber-sex and making arrangements to meet with women. Months have passed and we have been through counselling—aside from me feeling still a little hurt, overall, everything seems to be going well.

2007-05-01 08:10:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been with my now fiancee for 3 years, engaged for 6 months. In the last month there has been some lying and another man but she has since come clean. she wants everythign to be the way it was and i said ok, then last week she calls me while i am 3 hours away on business for a 5 day trip and tells me she is moving out. I get back home and she is still there wanting to work things out now. I just don't know if i can put myself through this anymore and would like some advice on how to handle this. We live together but I own the home. We have a dog together that we both love? She has called her parents and they are upset with her and now calling me telling me their daughter is loosing the best thing in her life. They still want to maintain a relationship with me and are sad and crying over this. I feel so bad, but she wronged me and her ambivilance has driven me to not want to be with her anymore. I am not interested in anyone else by any means, i am just tired of being hurt.

2007-05-01 08:07:55 · 14 answers · asked by john p 1

I have been married to my wonderful wife for 6 years and have a great marriage. We were both very horny virgins before marriage, both are mildly overweight, and have the typical stresses of kids and finances. I love her very much.

Even now sex still seems to be a chore as though, if I never brought it up, she would never have any desire for it. I don’t just want sex, but also a fun, invigorating, sexually prolific lifestyle and mindset. We talk about it, but only with temporary and mild results. We have sex about 3 /month, but I want sex every other day or more.

I suggest we try new things such as oral, anal, toys and out-of-bedroom locations. She seems resistant to almost everything. She is even uncomfortable speaking about sex itself. We each have painful histories with pre-marital sexuality including my sad overindulgence in porn, and her previous b/f’s always trying to get into her pants. She does get wet & climaxes, so we know the biology is working.

So, am I just perv?

2007-05-01 08:04:51 · 33 answers · asked by Arrow 1

Here is my question....I am going through a divorce and we have a terminally ill child.....I do not want to fight with the father when the time to bury our son....who gets to make the final decision if one can not be agreed upon? The lawyers and even a judge here has said that they have never been asked this before but I want to make sure everything is taking care of before hand. Thanks so much for your help! And if anyone knows of a case of a code number please leave that info!

2007-05-01 08:01:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-01 07:53:53 · 48 answers · asked by christopher_theob 1

This is the scenario......1 year ago I had a baby with a man (In which I found out after 4 months of conception was married) It pretty much turned my world upside down when I found out about the marriage. But I accepted it and went on with my pregnancy. After givin birth to my daughter he was very supportive. (And we continued to date and be intimate). When my daughter was 8 months old a woman called me (not his wife) and told me that she was intimate with him for the past 3 months!! It made me very upset so I called his wife and told her about our relationship and our daughter. It destroyed his marriage, They sold there home and he lost his job of 5 years after all the turmoil. I feel like I did so much damage, But he has not supported my daughter since I called his wife. WOuld I be wrong to put him on child support? Should I wait? Or have I done enough damage?This is the scenario......1 year ago I had a baby with a man (In which I found out after 4 months of conception was married) It pretty much turned my world upside down when I found out about the marriage. But I accepted it and went on with my pregnancy. After givin birth to my daughter he was very supportive. (And we continued to date and be intimate). When my daughter was 8 months old a woman called me (not his wife) and told me that she was intimate with him for the past 3 months!! It made me very upset so I called his wife and told her about our relationship and our daughter. It destroyed his marriage, They sold there home and he lost his job of 5 years after all the turmoil. I feel like I did so much damage, But he has not supported my daughter since I called his wife. WOuld I be wrong to put him on child support? Should I wait? Or have I done enough damage?

2007-05-01 07:53:11 · 16 answers · asked by inquiringsista 1

So here's the situation, I am moving out of state with my son who is 6 his father has not been in the picture since he was 1. I petitioned the court but have not gotten a response. I am a little worried that I will not get an answer from the court before we move, which will be on May 26th. Either way I am gonna leave, but I am a little worried about the after effects. I know that the chances of him pulling his head out of his *** are slim to none to become a father to his son. But I also know that if he wants to be a dick and I was denied the permission I could get charged with kidnapping. What should I do?

2007-05-01 07:50:48 · 7 answers · asked by ann_kalani 1

to take it to the next level which is a relationship or should it be longer, and how soon is to soon to say you want to be in a relationship. I asked her has she ever thought about taking what we have there, she then looked at me in this confused state and said where is there. I frozed, and said something else that I didn't really mean because I don't know if she is on the same page as me. I think she is, but I hate rejection.

2007-05-01 07:28:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

This guy and I want to live together. But we do not want to do that or have sex together unless there is love and commitment between us. Because it means nothing without that. We want our commitment to be a spiritual commitment. We have already discussed what would happen if I became pregnant, and how we are going to handle finances. Is there anything wrong with this? The Bible does not define marriage as a legal document.

2007-05-01 07:23:39 · 23 answers · asked by pocketful_of_sunshine 4

please post

I mean we rarely find 'perfect' and when we do, we realize that we didn't or don't want perfect, cause for some reason perfect becomes too perfect - and the I love you's or the you're the one - Just don't cut it, and we don't end up with this perfect person - But rather find the search again and look for something different


Why is that?? What did we do wrong?? Whats going wrong??

Why isnt perfect 'IT'?? Whats happening??

please post

2007-05-01 06:49:43 · 8 answers · asked by Franky 1

2007-05-01 06:20:51 · 11 answers · asked by jackbootedthugs 1

Marriage in the state's eyes is basically a merger of assets. So how does gays getting married in the eyes of the STATE ruin the sanctity of HOLY MATRIMONY or what it is to be married in the eyes of GOD? They're two completely different things.

2007-05-01 06:11:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous