Marriage & Divorce - 1 May 2007

when she left me, she would talk to me on a weekly basis, about what seamed to be like hopeful talk about us, never telling me she was engaged to another man, 6 months later she married him, he is 20 years older. and after I found out she was remarried (because of a bill that was sent to my house with her new name on it) she throws a restraining order on me, I did nothing! I'm speech less. confused, Lots of pain here. any help?

2007-05-01 02:49:15 · 15 answers · asked by fstmx 3

I really love my husband, but a lot of times that we go out or we are somewhere he stares at a women's butt. He said is normal that guys do that. It doesn't mean that he means to do that on purpose but he says that it is normal that a guy looks at someone butt. It really hurts me a lot. Is it normal? Should I get jelous?

2007-05-01 02:45:39 · 25 answers · asked by Yaira C 1

Okay, I know the general consensus is that I shouldn't marry this guy, but, what I am interested is in anyone who has a story to share, a positive story, about jumping into marriage.

2007-05-01 02:43:39 · 12 answers · asked by Karla Marx 3

I've been married for nearly 2 years. I have an ex boyfriend whose mom still sends me "how are you doing" emails. They're not a big deal - and I usually hear from her once every 6 months. This has been going on for the last 5 years, since my relationship with her son ended. At first I was fine with it...and would write back and let her know how me and my husband were doing. She would always write about her son, letting me know what was new in his life. About 6 months ago he got married as well. I have since asked her if it's OK that we continue emailing - feeling a little strange now that we're both married. She said she wondered about that too so she asked her son and he was fine with it. What does that mean exactly? One of my friends said he still has feelings for me. We dated for nearly 2 years and he wanted to marry me, I turned him down because I didn't feel he was the one. Less then a year later I met my now husband. Thoughts??

2007-05-01 02:35:33 · 18 answers · asked by Rachel 7

and I can't handle him pleasing another woman. It seems that it is always in his mind and that's what he always want. I know that he loves me, but I don't understand him. We've only been married for 3 years and he is always presuring me> When we are making love, he says that he fantasies about groups and swingers. if we plan to go out to a regular place he doesn't want to but if I it is with swingers or meet people for swing, he is always ready to go....I'm very confused about him....I don't need another man to have sex with, but it seems that he needs more than one woman......

2007-05-01 02:32:32 · 20 answers · asked by Lady 1

2007-05-01 02:30:49 · 19 answers · asked by Wendy B 5

Love a married woman, I know .... Wrong. But too late for that scenerio to be different. We have a great time when were together. We are together even when were not. I know how? Believe me we are close 24/7. She has a miserable man for a husband and the family of 4 kids is losing out on their childhood because she stays and is waiting for him to make the move and leave. Since she don't want to be labeled the failure by her calling it quits. She tells me not to wait for her. I know she thinks of everyone else before she thinks about herself so I don't put much into her telling me not to waste my life on her. You see it's like treading water in the middle of the ocean ,, waiting for a ship to come by and rescue you. If I settled for someone else I would always be sad that the person I loved most wasn't with me and make me unhappy my whole balance of life or wait and when she's finally put her family thru enough to leave him be there waiting. Pain now or pain later?

2007-05-01 02:29:44 · 10 answers · asked by dan 2

You would want to shoo* her to, if you knew what she did!

2007-05-01 02:29:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My girlfriend married another guy, the whole thing was just devastating, I am in an utter depression, just feel so sad. We were together 3 years, "brokeup" and she married another guy that she had been "dating" for 6 months. he proposed to her and she accepted. She knows I am doing bad, feeling depressed, just devastated.
She has been married for 2 months and has emailed my parents (dad,mom) MANY TIMES and STILL tries to justify her decision. Says things like "I never thought your son would do it. I never thought he could feel that way about me. I had so much going on and made the best decision for me at the time." Even said, "I cant get divorced, husband hasnt given me reason to." She also sent like 2 4 page emails, trying to justify why she married someone else. NEVER does she mention the word love or loving this guy. She says that she wants me to be happy, and to accept this. Does she really want this? Why does she contact them SO MUCH?What should I do? I still love her so much.

2007-05-01 02:15:35 · 16 answers · asked by horace2311 1

that I found condoms in his truck. I am trying to deal with the fact that as I am working on my self-esteem, but nothing seems to affect him, he is still not complimenting me. I am trying to be patient and hold on, but he is not making this easy!! I have lost quite a bit of weight, cut my hair and started wearing makeup again. I even got a compliment from a guy yesterday at work about how cute my hair is and how good I am looking. Why can't my husband say something? I know in the back of my mind I am doing all this to make myself feel better, but a compliment every now and then from my husband would be nice. What more can I do? Am I doing too much? Do I expect too much?

2007-05-01 02:10:02 · 15 answers · asked by raininonsunday 3

i have been married for 10 years and all along i have been the working parent,the sports enthusist,the school work inforcer,the disiplinarian,dentist ,doctors,bathing even vacationing solo w/the kids.my 9 year old recently had an evening questioning why his father doesnt/wont be there.all along i thought i could be both and stay with him for their sake? was i wrong all along?

2007-05-01 02:04:18 · 18 answers · asked by **RUBY*** 3

In islam it is allowed to marry with cousions ,but in other religons it is not allwed.Doctors say that the child which gave birth often are mentally retarted,and can have other problems.can any one explain.

2007-05-01 01:52:24 · 17 answers · asked by niaz b 1

OK, so my husband and i have been having problems for a year. We've been begging each other for more from eachother and neither of us has given in...not because we don't want to but that we are waiting for the other to give in first...I know childish. I guess the problem has come that my husband told me he gave up on me being better so he started going out every wednesday after work and now has started going out on the weekend too. I told him I have a problem with the weekend because that is our time as a family to work on things. But he says everyone else goes out more and it is no big deal. He has been asking me not to argue with him but I can't seem to stop myself. I am so scared and so unsure of really where he is the relationship. He says he wants to try but doesn't do anything...he just keeps going out, keeps talking to whomever whenever and just ignores me. He says he isn't because he comes home everyday. I can't help but get so angry and and start to yell at him.

2007-05-01 01:51:45 · 14 answers · asked by superwmn315 2

We got married after living together for 2 mo. I came to know of his true nature but still I married because he has spent on me quite a lot and with the idea that he would change for the better in future.He is paranoid abt me because he is a womaniser and on the very day of marriage he was doubtful abt the marriage vows he made, like he said "God I do not know how far I'll keep up the vows I made today.Help me".He would never allow me to lift his mobile nor take me out.He never left any decision making to me.Right now I am not living with him.He asks me to confess my past while he totally lies abt his past despite I read so many mails in his inbox asking girls to come on a date with him.I found this behaviour disgusting and I want to part with him.He has been lying to me abt everything right from the start like he said applying for license itself is a marriage,that he doesnt smoke or drink etc. please advice as to what I should do.

2007-05-01 01:37:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex-husband called me last night. He has sole physical and legal custody of our 15 year old daughter. He lived in another state and moved due to job reasons. The child is stil in the original state and her grandmother is helping to take care of her.

My ex-husband is having trouble at his job because he is worried about our child. They have given him 30 to 60 days to solve his personal issues and improve his performance. He just started in February 2007.

He is proposing that I come and stay with our child until she finishes school which is 2009. I would stay in his house unless it sells.

I asked him to send our child to me and he said that you always want things your way. I then suggested that I live in the same state as the child, but separately. He said I would be wasting money.

I want to do what is best for everyone, but I am confused.............

I tried to stay in the house for 3 weeks and then came back to where I live. I could not adjust.

2007-05-01 01:36:01 · 11 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

i am English...my husband from whom i am separated almost 3 years is Irish...we got married in Ireland and are legally separated within Irish law...i am now living in England and he has also moved to England to live with his girlfriend...I have a son from a previous marriage...and a daughter from my marriage to him...My daughter was born in England before we were married but holds an Irish passport and we moved there when she was a month old...

what i want to know in a nutshell is whether i can divorce him here in England when we got married in Ireland...and how complicated this could be...would our legal separation agreement count for anything or would we have to start again with everything...if anyone can offer me any advise it would be appreciated...

of course i will see a solicitor...but i just want to know if this can be done from here...Irish divorce is pretty complicated...thank you...;0)

2007-05-01 01:30:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

well i have a sex with my bf but i dont wanna to show it to my husband [next year i will marry] Is any medical test can prove it that i have a sex?

2007-05-01 01:30:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have always dreamed about being a stay-at-home husband---am good at housework, good with kids, animals, and cleaning every room in the house but my own. Am all man---I just like to be home, to write, to make a house a home. Can a woman respect that kind of man, or will she just treat him with contempt because he is not out winning the bread?

2007-05-01 01:21:34 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-01 01:15:39 · 38 answers · asked by babygirl 1

We were just doing it over the phone..it was the first time...help. I am not gay..what do I do??

2007-05-01 01:03:52 · 20 answers · asked by larry t 1

Why is true sexual addiction rare and what happens to a person in life that falls into this life's trap that is so destructive and why is the true recovery rate for a porn sexual addict almost impossible to recover and recovery rate very slim?

I think he is bi-sexual from conversational hints at seeing him at a gay bar with a gay co-worker. When confronted, he said it was just a joke, just to see what it was like as a laugh, now since I saw the porn pictures from the webb cam one activity was of a couple (man/women) encoutering sodomy. I don't know but one picture looked to be he was with a girl in the shower. The idea of leaving him permantely is looking better and better to me as I am fearful he has already made contact with his favoriate (porn) star and perhaps with intent to leave me, (my fears of abandoment) however, I truthfully don't care, peace of mind, truth, honesty has been non-existent. Roomate to a gay guy in college, a disappointment, was also his childhood friend.

2007-05-01 01:01:02 · 3 answers · asked by siremma 1

It has been a week since it became apparent that we are attracted to each other. We have been super sweet and endearing towards each other. He is uber sweet. This morning, he told me " Someday I would lie beside you, watch u wake up and hear you say good morning". I've been bothered because he is married at 46 with kids and Im 29 neveer been married, no kids and just broke up with a boyfriend of 2 years. I told him while its too early to say anything ant us, i worreis me because i know if we get deeper than how we already are, i am bound to get hurt. He told me not to think much about what he said. I know it is wrong to even be with him. But when I tried not to respond to his sms's and calls, it was just difficult. I dont think I can let time pass without being with him-- even if i know it may be temporary... but its wrong... how should i approach this dillema? What positioning should i take? Im falling and i know it. With him i am secure about myself. I just know its him.

2007-05-01 00:58:04 · 25 answers · asked by Stefani 2

if i run away will they stay together? my mom and dad got a divorce when i was like 2, and i saw the aftereffects it put on me, i live with my dad, who married my step mom, who also was previously divorced and had a girl about my age (my step sister) and they have two kids together (my two half sisters..) and my step sister and i have been trying to keep something like this from happening, but i dont want my two little sisters to go through what we did...and i know they always say its never the kids fault, and in this case it is true, but is there anything i can do? even to just delay it for a couple years?? is there something i can say to them? my dad wont talk about it but my step moms been reallly upset..help!

2007-05-01 00:56:58 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-01 00:52:39 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Also, how does it work when he starts getting insurance for the kids? We are trying to do this fairly for both of us, and try to stay away from forced Child Support.

2007-05-01 00:22:57 · 9 answers · asked by MC 5

He promises to attend sex addiction (church) self help group centered around the beatitudes (biblical growth) regular church attendance and also joint counceling with a geiuine Doctor physocogist. He says he loves me and wrote back to the porn star and said how he has hurt me and he was sorry and no longer will he be contacting her. Has gone to one meeting, self help, and is going to try an extra night self help this week, says it is not so much for me but for him, he is sick and is afraid he will do it again, does not trust himself. My question is, does he feel torn between this one favoriate porn queen and me or does he have mixed messages of love and why does he want to stay with me instead of her as he projects but shares how young beautiful and fun she can be, may even have almost the same package as me. Is he truly a total looser and should I stay or should I go now is my burning question? I am so fearful he will not go forward because he has been at this sinful addiction.

2007-05-01 00:15:52 · 18 answers · asked by siremma 1

He promises to attend sex addiction (church) self help group centered around the beatitudes (biblical growth) regular church attendance and also joint counceling with a geiuine Doctor physocogist. He says he loves me and wrote back to the porn star and said how he has hurt me and he was sorry and no longer will he be contacting her. Has gone to one meeting, self help, and is going to try an extra night self help this week, says it is not so much for me but for him, he is sick and is afraid he will do it again, does not trust himself. My question is, does he feel torn between this one favoriate porn queen and me or does he have mixed messages of love and why does he want to stay with me instead of her as he projects but shares how young beautiful and fun she can be, may even have almost the same package as me. Is he truly a total looser and should I stay or should I go now is my burning question? I am so fearful he will not go forward because he has been at this sinful addiction.

2007-05-01 00:12:09 · 10 answers · asked by siremma 1