when she left me, she would talk to me on a weekly basis, about what seamed to be like hopeful talk about us, never telling me she was engaged to another man, 6 months later she married him, he is 20 years older. and after I found out she was remarried (because of a bill that was sent to my house with her new name on it) she throws a restraining order on me, I did nothing! I'm speech less. confused, Lots of pain here. any help?
2007-05-01 02:49:15 · 15 answers · asked by fstmx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She sounds like a totally self-centred individual. You sound deeply hurt by her actions - rightfully so. First of all, don’t try coping through this on yr own. You will need yr friends & family surrounding you…you will also need therapy. No doubt you will go through the cycle of shock, anger, a million & 1 questions, bargaining, non acceptance, sadness, loneliness etc - repeat these again & again before you actually make sense of it. To place an RVO on you without reason sounds at worst as disturbed behaviour. You were none specific as to when this occurred, but know that time is a healer and allow yrself the gift of it. Good luck & remember…there is life after divorce, especially of such selfish individuals, ask yrself if she is worth yr sorrows…cheers
2007-05-01 03:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand the confusion and the hurt, but you shouldn't focus on being hurt. You should focus on other things in life that make you happy and take the focus off of the relationship. You can dwell on all of this and what it means to you and why she would do this, or you can take the path of healing and realize that it doesn't matter why she did it, but for whatever reason, your life will have to change now. It's okay. Realize this, though. Anyone that could do that to you, is not someone you want in your life anyway. You want to surround yourself with people that care about *you* not themselves. And you want to take a look at the opportunities the world is now offering you and take some of them.
2007-05-01 02:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by btpage0630 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me. Her own cousin told me she thought my ex was lloking for a father figure. I now know, after the fact, she cheated three times that I know of. Be glad you are away from a corrosive relationship. Things will get better!
2007-05-01 03:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by prouddad13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's a user and liar. If you need help with grieving then get into counseling and then you can move on with your new life. Stay away from her and don't look back!
I belive in karma.
2007-05-01 03:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by Luv2RIDE 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
aw sorry! your ex wife just wants to hurt you.. im sure her new husband made her file for a restraining order.. just move on do things that will keep you busy and keep your thoughts about her to a minimum or just dont think of her at all, bl;ock her out. you dont need that in your life!
good(*)luck
2007-05-01 03:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Time to grieve for your loss. She used you for whatever reason...she used you and lied to you.
Go through the grieving process...take some time to figure out who you are and what you want out of life ( not her) and then go live again.
Your time to shine in "true love" will come.
Don't let this person who used you ruin you for life.
be cool...
2007-05-01 02:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Time to just move on.
Don't waste time trying to understand. Write her off and move on with your life.
Go out and live a little.
2007-05-01 03:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on dude. Sometimes the truth hurts and sometimes life isn't fair. It is clearly obvious that she 100% wants to be with him and not you. There is nothing you can do to change her mind. Move on.
2007-05-01 04:07:09 · answer #8 · answered by Sam 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hope your telling us the whole story they dont throw restraining orders on guys for doing nothing
its over get on with your life stay away frrom her
2007-05-01 02:56:02 · answer #9 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
That's why you never get too emotionally attached to women my friend they will rip your heart out they are twice as bad as men i feel for you man.. Go out and find you some new pu**y and tear that s*** up just don't get attached to them just f**k them and leave them.. good luck
2007-05-01 03:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋